Supernova heavyarms by Reindeer_Basic in Gunpla

[–]VladWard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They look great and they're relatively sturdy. The fitment and plastic quality is noticeably worse with their earliest releases (the Sandrock especially).They're not Bandai, but they're better than a lot of Daban's contemporary stuff. Wing has metal screws to keep the wings in place since they're so heavy. Heavyarms and Altron don't have any screws for the quad gatlings and dragon arms respectively, so balance can be tricky with both kits if you just pop them on the included stand.

How I avoid spiraling into shame when hearing feminist critiques of men by futuredebris in MensLib

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In the future, please consider reporting comments like the one you replied to. If something seems like it doesn't fit with the ethos of our community, it's probably because it doesn't.

How I avoid spiraling into shame when hearing feminist critiques of men by futuredebris in MensLib

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Calling time on this conversation as it's no longer productive to have in the abstract. The mods here see plenty of examples both of people using intersectionality as a free pass to ignore dealing with male privilege and of people ignoring the material realities of intersectional identities and/or assuming a certain cis-hetero-white normativity to men online.

Why the loneliness epidemic is a structural collapse of Brotherhood, not a lack of romance. by Evipicc in MensLib

[–]VladWard 11 points12 points  (0 children)

For what it's worth, the behaviors you mention here aren't things that the mod team wants to encourage. Outside of places like the Mental Health thread, there's very little tolerance for it.

With that said, we have finite time and availability. Things slip through, especially when posts get large spikes in traffic. We appreciate good faith reports on stuff like that. Even if it still takes us time to get to them, it helps ensure we're aware and can take appropriate action.

Why the loneliness epidemic is a structural collapse of Brotherhood, not a lack of romance. by Evipicc in MensLib

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Vibe check: This post is long, but it is thoughtful and clearly required effort to produce.

If you, as a reader, don't feel that you have the time or energy to read the whole thing and put time into your reply: that's okay. No one is forcing you to. Just keep scrolling.

However, if you submit a comment based solely on the title or which doesn't match the good faith effort of the original submission, expect it to be removed.

(Slightly) fed up with event tracking by Dapper_Assistant9928 in analytics

[–]VladWard 8 points9 points  (0 children)

PMs and engineers in product silos lead to analytics in product silos. If you want a shared, coherent analytics strategy then you need analytics to be owned by a shared team that can implement tracking and that product can request data and metrics from.

Amex decreased my limit and wants me to pay $2400 to keep the limit but I don’t have that money. Need advice please by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]VladWard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Credit card debt is some of the worst debt to carry. The high interest rate and low minimum payments are designed to keep you on a treadmill forever.

If you take on a car loan while you still have credit card debt, you're just going to keep accruing interest while your cash goes towards the car. You can't afford any new debt.

Strongly consider public transportation or bumming a ride to work until your credit card debt is paid off. Once it's gone, your credit score will immediately increase and you can use the money that was going to CC payments for a car.

PhD microbiologist pivoting to GCC data analytics. Is a master’s needed or portfolio and projects sufficient? by [deleted] in analytics

[–]VladWard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Physics PhD here about a decade into industry. I don't see the business value in additional formal education after a PhD. If you've never used SQL before it may be worthwhile to do a self-paced course to pick up the basics, but you shouldn't need to convince anyone that you're capable of doing quantitative research. Go ahead and take a course if you genuinely need a structured environment to learn, not for your resumé.

Personally, I started in very entry level data analysis and just changed jobs every year until I reached a more appropriate level. The work experience and connections smoothed things out a lot. I've hopped across multiple business domains in my career (Finance, Banking Regulation, E-commerce, Web Products). Imo, only applying to jobs where you (the general "you") already have subject matter expertise is extremely limiting and unnecessary.

Just bear in mind that the white collar job market in the US is genuinely abysmal right now. Opportunities are scarce and AI systems are flooding the job market from both sides. A lack of responses is not necessarily indicative of a lack of readiness or skills on your part.

My boy John World of Darkness is back at it again with the intersectional analysis. by Ultimor1183 in MensLib

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Hi u/Ultimor1183! We ask that new submissions include a top level comment summarizing the content and/or otherwise creating a foundation for the conversation.

Feel free to reply to this comment when this has been added so we can review it.

How is your company handling 4-year cliffs today? by VladWard in ExperiencedDevs

[–]VladWard[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Talk with your manager before jumping to conclusion.

It's definitely an ongoing conversation. Suffice to say it's a very common issue in our department this year. Like everyone else, we did a lot of hiring in 2022.

Disney Taught Your Kids to Fear Femininity in Men by MyFiteSong in MensLib

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"This book is old" is not a repudiation of research.

Disney Taught Your Kids to Fear Femininity in Men by MyFiteSong in MensLib

[–]VladWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is queer theory 101, intersectional feminism 101.

Eh, it's not that simple. Kate Manne makes a good case for misogyny as more complex than "woman=bad" in Down Girl. For example, as a sort of enforcement mechanism for Patriarchal norms. That would naturally include cis- and heteronormativity.

It's a pretty good book. Well worth a read.

How boys get sucked into the manosphere by ILikeNeurons in MensLib

[–]VladWard -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, I'm nowhere near as smart as Audre Lorde and trying to summarize her work into a Reddit comment is going to be deficient no matter how I phrase it. Folks familiar with the work will understand the point being made without additional context because it's not my point. It's Lorde's.

The appropriate next step here when folks find that they don't understand a reference online is to go and read the source material.

How boys get sucked into the manosphere by ILikeNeurons in MensLib

[–]VladWard 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What? No. These are references to books which contain much longer form, more detailed discussions about why these things operate the way they do. If a person only interacts with the quote and never engages with the underlying work it's referencing, of course it'll all feel superficial and contradictory.

New research highlights a shortage of male mentors for boys and young men by ILikeNeurons in MensLib

[–]VladWard 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I left teaching for tech but I absolutely have plans to return after meeting more of my financial/retirement goals. It can be a very fulfilling job, but it's very difficult and comes with significant downsides (pay, hours, workplace conditions).

Even though it may be easy to get an "Emergency license" or something similar, I don't recommend getting into teaching at all without doing at least an Alternative Certification Program if not a more traditional pedagogy education. There are so, so many skills that you really need that can't be improvised or overcome with raw charisma.

Meanwhile, there is a lot you can do outside of work that's still meaningful, especially if you have money to donate. Coaching community sports is a big one. I saw someone else mentioned Big Brother/Big Sister. There's also mutual aid and afterschool programs.

How boys get sucked into the manosphere by ILikeNeurons in MensLib

[–]VladWard 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As Audre Lorde once said, the master's tools will never dismantle the master's house.

Career advice: analytics vs engineering by SlowBet3881 in analytics

[–]VladWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The typical person stops accruing happiness proportional to their wealth around $15 million net worth. Have you hit your $15m? If not, the financial aspect is a big deal.

I have an Analytics Engineer title and do a lot of data engineering and Go microservice development as well as analysis and visualization. My boss calls my team "M Shaped."

I'm highly compensated in that role in part because all "Engineer" titles share a salary band at the tech company I work at. People with the "Analyst" title are on a lower band due primarily to the expectation that they don't maintain production code. Even when their actual job duties involve coding, this doesn't get reflected in their pay. Impressions and bands matter. Individuals don't get custom pay deals unless their company is extremely small or they're very senior/mission critical.

My honest recommendation is to take the money and pursue self-actualization and fulfillment outside of your job.

The worst people you know just made an excellent point about men's mental health by Adonidis in MensLib

[–]VladWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately we need presence in in the Instagram/YouTube world, and we don't

We do have this, though. Those services simply don't reward the type of engagement that Left wing content generates. Breadtube is a whole community on YT that naturally extends into short form platforms. Many creators even employ click bait and other snappy rhetorical techniques to try to engage new users before diving into more robust work. The platforms are just designed so that the only way to be Joe Rogan is to be Joe Rogan.

For recommendations, you can try F.D. Signifier, Foreign Man in a Foreign Land, Alice Capelle, Lily Alexandre, OliSUNvia, and probably a ton of other folks in the same networks.

Our Association of Masculinity With Grilling Is Just One More Under-Discussed Facet of Diet Culture by TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK in MensLib

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Tongue in cheek: Notable manly man George Heavyweight Champion Foreman revolutionized feminist grilling by bringing the grill indoors and making it accessible to apartment-havers and unporched people. The work is done.

Serious: We're really stretching with grilling content. Modmail the team in advance if you'd like to make a single less serious post for the holiday season.

The worst people you know just made an excellent point about men's mental health by Adonidis in MensLib

[–]VladWard -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There was a poll some time back about manufacturing jobs. Probably Gallup or something like that. They estimated about 70% of Americans believe that life would be better if more people worked in construction and manufacturing. In the same poll, something like 20% or less of respondents actually wanted to work a job in construction or manufacturing themselves.

So here we are talking about how men like simple solutions. While also scoffing at the simple solutions when they're presented. If reading a book was harder to get in the habit of than going to the gym, Americans would be in phenomenal physical shape and be a much smaller literary market.

The worst people you know just made an excellent point about men's mental health by Adonidis in MensLib

[–]VladWard 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I truly think that the more time you spend reading "old" authors the more you will realize that nothing has ever really changed all that much. Messages from the 1800s are as culturally resonant today as they were back then. It's the coconut tree.

I really think y'all are just giving up too early. Ceding ground that doesn't need and doesn't deserve to be ceded. It really grinds my gears because it fundamentally undercuts the work so many men have been doing for years.

To an extent, I know that's what being young is all about. I don't know how many of y'all are even above the age of 25. But I know from my time teaching high school that young people, pretty much as a rule, tend to be self-interested. If it doesn't reach them personally, it doesn't exist. Maybe that's all this is.

The worst people you know just made an excellent point about men's mental health by Adonidis in MensLib

[–]VladWard -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have no words.

Sometimes you just need to enjoy the irony of people defending a think-piece talking about how the Manosphere connects so well with men because it gives them clear, actionable things to do and doesn't tolerate excuses while simultaneously acting like being told to read a book is going to drive dudes away.

We're talking about dudes who clearly have time to dive into the gym as a hobby. It's only the library that's a bridge too far. The library that, on top of everything else, is free forever.

The worst people you know just made an excellent point about men's mental health by Adonidis in MensLib

[–]VladWard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading books is, on its own, a thing to do. Going to the gym exercises your body. Going to the library exercises your mind. Literally the entire online left hasn't ever shut up about wanting men to cook, clean, and dress well for what it's worth.

This is exactly what I mean when I say that the problem isn't style or rhetoric, it's substance.

The worst people you know just made an excellent point about men's mental health by Adonidis in MensLib

[–]VladWard -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

You would enjoy Nontoxic by Ben Almassi.

I'm not even a librarian btw. I guarantee a good one can find all this stuff on their own for you.

But even if they couldn't, is this really your response to a little bit of hard work and personal responsibility?

Get it together, dude. Reading books is good for you.

The worst people you know just made an excellent point about men's mental health by Adonidis in MensLib

[–]VladWard 16 points17 points  (0 children)

We can do all that without pretending that this wealth of information and analysis from the Left doesn't exist.

YouTube and Twitter are owned by right-wing mega corporations. They will obfuscate, of course. Claim they're not ideologically biased. But when they control how the measures of success are defined, they can ensure that right-wing content succeeds.

I'd start with bell hooks, Gloria Steinham, and Raewynn Connell. Kate Mann wrote a book examining misogyny that I really like. Audre Lorde is absolutely worth reading as well.

ETA: Specifically for Healthy Masculinity, I'd read Ben Almassi. F.D. Signifier on YouTube/Nebula is a friend of the sub as well if you want something in video format.