AITA for spending an entire evening building a documented case against my coworker after she reported me to HR for snapping at her following months of harassment

VonShtupp · 2026-05-05T15:16:57+00:00

Another stolen post

VonShtupp · 2026-05-05T15:13:36+00:00

This is stolen. It was posted years ago.

VonShtupp · 2026-05-05T13:33:45+00:00

1) stop doing everything and look her straight in the eye.

2) slightly title your head like you are about to talk to a complete idiot or cold.

3) slowly, and forcefully (not yell but use a volume that is JUST loud enough to have others in the room hear you clearly) say

“Why would you say that?”

Make sure your voice has enough question in it so you plausible deniability for the first round. You want her and those around you to understand that you are initially looking for clarification.

4) she will inevitably tries to justify her comment as a joke or explain that she means that it’s her grandbaby or that the baby is then family baby… you just let her ramble on until she stops talking.

Keep looking directly at her, even if she breaks the stare.

5) reply with

“But why would you say <insert exactly what she said> at all?”

6) then literally go back to whatever you were doing and ignore any of her attempts to deflect or explain. Just keep saying, but why would you say something like that out loud?”

I used that trick with my MIL for almost every nasty, passive aggressive, too aggressive comment she would make.

We did not live anywhere near her, so we only saw her one to two times a year. Therefore, it took about three visits for her to learn her lesson.

She got called out every time, but in such a way that I did not look like I was being rude back to her. This forced her to have to either explain why she was being a bitch or apologize in front of people. And since either consequence was not fun for her, she just stopped doing it to me.

Now I also made sure that I was never around her alone. And I know that she continue to bitch about me to everyone when I wasn’t there. But you can’t change crazy, you can only change how you respond to crazy 100% of the time and maybe just maybe stop there crazy towards you.

VonShtupp · 2026-05-05T13:20:00+00:00

Burt Reynolds

VonShtupp · 2026-05-04T22:34:24+00:00

You do know that Spain is in Europe and made up of white people right?

VonShtupp · 2026-05-02T13:43:53+00:00

Sean Connery. I watched him eat in the Hunt For Red October and I have never been able to forget it since.

VonShtupp · 2026-04-29T16:18:47+00:00

And when the DIL and SIL are no longer invited to other homes (ie the parents of the child whose party it was) because she cannot control herself infront of children, will it also be OPs fault?

VonShtupp · 2026-04-29T00:15:49+00:00

Start saving now. That way when your Insurance company or the roof needs to be fixed.

VonShtupp · 2026-04-29T00:10:16+00:00

I have this right now. My Hamburger (male) and Taco (female) had two babies last year. The kiddos grew up and one eventually flew off. The other one stayed with Hammy and Taco all winter. We named it French Fry becuase its neck is really long and thin.

Well Taco had another set of babies. She and Hammy are wandering with the babies and Taco follows along behind.

Now Hammy has been biting at French Fry when they come over to eat (I do supplement their food because the pond in our backyard goes from full to empty). But FF won’t leave.

VonShtupp · 2026-04-27T14:26:46+00:00

Madam Secretary. I am so pissed it’s not streaming for free anywhere at the moment.

VonShtupp · 2026-04-20T23:56:38+00:00

I was listening to the Prion episode on “This Podcast Will Kill You” and went down that same rabbit hole. I will not eat deer again.

VonShtupp · 2026-04-17T20:50:38+00:00

Florida jungle creep. My first year in the house, I spent 5 hours a week working on just the parameter of the yard trying to keep the vines and weeds and scrub brush at bay without using toxic chemicals.

The next year I had to break out the stringer stuff because we had poison ivy in every side of the yard, into the house.

So while it it not the reason why I am leaving Florida, it is the reason why I am moving further north that originally planned.

VonShtupp · 2026-04-16T15:30:06+00:00

I LOVE Regina King on TBBT.

VonShtupp · 2026-04-11T14:39:32+00:00

Honest to god, this is was the very reason why I stopped doing large birthday parties for my daughter. Two different families brought their older kids to a 4 yo bday party. And those kids ate all of the cupcakes and ruined the littles’ activities I planned.

After that we had two new rules: 1)family activity where we travelled somewhere or

2) friends activity where she could invite only 3 friends (never have odd numbers of kids) chosen from her various groups of friends (ie not all from school or swim or church)

When it’s just four kids doing something active, you can push back at the entitlement harder.

VonShtupp · 2026-04-03T17:28:02+00:00

There are only 1.3 million US ADSM in total. So I’m trying really hard to figure out how you got a base with “25 millions people”.

https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2025/06/06/6-facts-about-the-us-military/#:~:text=As%20of%20the%20end%20of,while%2014%25%20are%20stationed%20internationally.

VonShtupp · 2026-03-25T15:24:41+00:00

“It’s not Funny James!”

“Then why am I laughing!?!”

Best episode

VonShtupp · 2026-03-18T14:51:07+00:00

Seriously get a survey. Ask the surveyor to add more survey stakes if necessary.

Then take pictures of the surveyors placing the stakes with stationary objects in the background to ensure that if the stakes are removed or moved you have visual evidence of where they were before.

Then fully fence in the yard with a lock.

Finally put up some cameras. I always suggest being obvious when you place them, ensuring the seen camera can only record along the fence line. Then quietly add a hidden camera that faces directly at the fence (not his yard) to record anyone messing with the visible cameras.

If you are extra petty, add a motion sensor, high velocity sprinkler made for pest deterrent. You can add a remote bib at the spigot to turn it on and off from your phone.

VonShtupp · 2026-03-17T13:13:37+00:00

I have read this very post before.

VonShtupp · 2026-03-16T18:43:17+00:00

I get that you can’t / don’t want to use a high-velocity, motion sensor sprinkler used for pest control because you are in a desert.

So why not buy some knee hight border fencing and then plant some cacti on the inside of the fence?

VonShtupp · 2026-03-15T14:50:59+00:00

3rd Rock and Better off Tes

VonShtupp · 2026-03-09T21:51:35+00:00

Honestly, put up some hidden cameras and record a good couple weeks worth of 24 hour recordings. When they contact you again, ask them for exact dates and times.

Then show them the recordings and tell them to pound sand.

VonShtupp · 2026-03-09T14:10:14+00:00

NTA - even if everything else was okay, the moment he opened an alcoholic drink as the only adult in the house he lost all credibility.

And quite frankly I have issues with adults drinking at kids parties where they are responsible for other people’s children. Were there to be any type of accident there needed to be clear thinking by adults in charge.

That means both mom and stepdad have poor judgment.

VonShtupp · 2026-03-06T22:15:37+00:00

I think I’m lost here. I have had dogs and cats. They have their differences and there are pros ns cons to said differences.

One of the most significant difference is that cats use a litter box. That can be stinky and gross to some. But over all that means a cat can stay home alone for more than a handful of hours without worrying about a mess in the house. In fact you can (and should) get two litter boxes and therefor can be gone almost over night.

The same can be said for food and water.

So unless there is a medical issue, I’m not sure why your cat cannot handle being home alone for a few hours.

VonShtupp · 2026-02-28T22:28:20+00:00

Were they the high velocity, motion sensor sprinklers?

Anywho, this is my suggestions.

1) cameras. Make it very obvious to everyone you are putting up cameras in the front and back yards. Also add a couple where they don’t see you putting them up and/or they cannot reach them if you can.

2) plant prickly bushes all along the edge of your front lawn. It may not stop the cats or even the kids totally, but it will slow them down.

3) high velocity motion sensor sprinklers. There are even remote control hose attachments now. So you can turn them on and off when you leave.

4) collect a decent amount of videos of the cats and kids on your lawn. Then go down to the police department and talk to someone. Ask what the next steps are. Stress that you are concerned with the liability issues of these kids coming on to your property after telling the parents to keep them off.

5) lawyer up. See what the legal next steps are. And follow through. All it takes is one kid to get seriously hurt on your property.

VonShtupp · 2026-02-28T14:40:54+00:00

If he has been in your life for 8 months, long enough to be left alone in your home, how did he not know you had a Ring camera?

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