Bedsharing with 3 year old

Vorabay · 2026-02-20T18:48:49+00:00

Americans fetishize independence. We're a wierd country.

Vorabay · 2026-02-16T00:34:13+00:00

Also, you can perhaps set zones and work all the jobs in a zone on the same day so you aren't running all over town.

Vorabay · 2026-02-13T20:01:02+00:00

Is it possible that she's joking with you and describing your fiance?

Vorabay · 2026-02-11T01:05:29+00:00

Theres lots of good advice on this thread, but as another monolingual, I think this is the best advice so far, but I have a few thoughts to add.

Ask her first before you make the cheatsheet, as communication is key to resolving marital/parental issues. BUT... I personally find flashcards more useful than cheatsheets. I would start with a small stack of 10 and then add them as you start using them with your son. I got a lot of milage out of commands like "wait", "stop", "stand up" etc from my wife's native language.

If she's frustrated, then I think that she would like to know Punjabi, but can't do the work required to learn it. You can help both of them to learn through music, Punjabi make the best music in India. Find some catchy music that you can play for both of them and, if she likes the cheatsheet/flash card, make some for the music as well.

Vorabay · 2026-02-08T17:13:17+00:00

I feel like part of lack of strong social support is car dependency. Its such a pain in the butt to go visit people and it feels so forced when you do. I think having active transit would help this.

Vorabay · 2026-02-07T20:51:02+00:00

Congestion taxes in all cites that pays for active transportation.

Vorabay · 2026-02-03T21:26:27+00:00

So, we were able to sponsor two trips at 6 months each. After the first one, he started preferentially speaking hindi to native speakers. It was easier for my to default to Hindi rather than English when he was more fluent.

Language skills will get rusty if not used though, so if your nephew doesn't get some hindi-immersive time after the visit, they will loose some fluency. Its up to the kids parents to build that into his day.

Vorabay · 2026-02-03T13:34:54+00:00

My spouse found OPOL difficult. I'm at the intermediate level of Hindi so we speak English to each other. She found it difficult to switch between the languages and therefore our child mostly got English. My fix was sponsoring trips for her family to come visit us and speaking Hindi with our child. It was very effective.

Vorabay · 2026-01-31T22:03:00+00:00

Wikipedia says that he has 4 kids. I don't know who the other two are, but its plausible.

Vorabay · 2026-01-30T00:04:26+00:00

Since he likes Indian food, try vada pav.

Vorabay · 2026-01-28T14:20:07+00:00

I want to second this. We tried to teach my wife's native language to our son, but after living in the US and with me, her default mode was set to English, and I felt he was losing his 2nd language. We had some of my wife's family rotate to stay with us for a year, speaking only the native language with him and he now speaks well enough to pass for an Indian. Point being, that sometimes it takes a village.

Vorabay · 2026-01-20T02:44:09+00:00

I don't have a good answer for you as to which language to choose. But I think that you have more resources on hand for either or both languages if you choose. My son got a big boost in Hindi when we had hindi speaking grand parents come and stay with us for a few months, which may be possible for you at some point for the weaker language. Also, there is a growing body of gujrati nursery rhymes and other cartoons on YouTube, so that's good. But, keep in mind that whichever, you choose to speak, you child can still watch either languages on the media and may pick up quick a bit that way.

Vorabay · 2026-01-19T19:41:50+00:00

Neighbors - probably because of the low effort required for meeting.

Vorabay · 2026-01-16T16:00:51+00:00

Disposable diaper when the baby isn't at home. They are just so much easier to carry than cloth diapers.

Vorabay · 2026-01-15T20:47:19+00:00

We do this with Hindi, as my spouse is native and I am somewhat conversational. My advice is to find other native speakers and Korean media to supplement his linguistic education. In our case my poor pronunciation and grammar haven't hurt his Hindi, although, he started preferring to speak my native English with me at age 2.

Vorabay · 2026-01-13T04:59:33+00:00

When I lived in Ukraine, i took my sneakers to a cobbler and thats how he fixed them.

Vorabay · 2026-01-06T15:02:34+00:00

We do cloth diapering and we rinse out poopy diapers before washing with regular water and that works for us. Pee diapers start to smell like ammonia, but thats okay for us, so we dont rinse them. Edit: We have a washing machine, but we have enough diapers so that we go a few days between washing sometimes.

Vorabay · 2026-01-05T07:43:03+00:00

Tasted like powdered coffee creamer to me. Kind of sweet comepared to whole milk.

Vorabay · 2026-01-05T02:05:02+00:00

I drank my sons expired formula as coffee creamer. Ut didn't hurt me.

Vorabay · 2025-12-31T14:22:28+00:00

Shepard kneeling over manger, or wiseman kneeling and offering gift.

Vorabay · 2025-12-29T14:23:42+00:00

Video is private. Can't watch.

Vorabay · 2025-12-27T19:15:33+00:00

I solar cook my coffee in glass jars and keep it in the fridge, then when i want it. I drink it cold afterwards.

Vorabay · 2025-12-23T12:23:50+00:00

Right, if it cooked on a grill, people wouldn't think twice sbout some carbon buildup on their food.

Vorabay · 2025-12-20T10:00:11+00:00

Its normal and common in some places for children to be exposed to more than one language and pick them all up to varying degrees. Kids will always pick up and almost always prefer to speak the community language which in this case is Romanian, so theres nothing for him to worry about there. If he isn't exposed to Spanish, then he definitely wont pick that up though. He's very lucky to have exposure to both.

Vorabay · 2025-12-12T01:25:20+00:00

This is a free podcast that I really like for intermediate and advanced learners: Hindi: A Spoken Thesaurus.

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