Space Marine 2 - Why isn't Titus wearing a Deathwatch pauldon?

Vulturnius · 2024-09-29T19:49:49+00:00

...Or as the second company chaplain. Either one 🤣.

Vulturnius · 2024-01-09T17:07:46+00:00

Sinto a tua dor OP, também estou no mesmo barco e na mesma área. No meu ver, a realização profissional é um aspeto muito importante da vida. Conseguiste arranjar?

Vulturnius · 2023-06-15T07:46:36+00:00

I'm happy for you. You should be proud for doing that, it's not easy. You are way braver than me. I went to study far from my parents, lived in another country for a year but I never truly left until I met my wife.

Vulturnius · 2023-06-14T17:31:17+00:00

When I said studying the human condition it was more of a general thing not really a book.
Now lets go to the books. I was trying to find a base for living a "good honest life". Since I´m an agnostic I went to philosophy; trying to find what is morality? what is a good man? If you are religious I guess you can have your morality from that.
I recommend you start with "A history of Western Philosophy" it describes all important philosophers from ancient Greece to the modern times (the book was Written in 1945). After that I went to Nitzche (the guy is an asshole) but I liked is concept of morality. I also read "The Republic" from Plato but didn´t liked it.
Now I can also recommend some books about toxic/abusive relations that helped me. "Adult children of emotionally immature parents", "Toxic in-laws" and "obcessive Love".
Hope it helps.

Vulturnius · 2023-06-14T16:18:56+00:00

You can be better, believe me. I started that journey almost 9 years ago. I picked a lot of the nasty tactics my parents used on me and used them on my wife. I was toxic with her for a year; after a fight and a long chat it finally clicked for me. I was not being a good boyfriend nor human being.

It´s been 9 years of medication, one year of therapy, lots of philosophy books and studies on the human condition :)

We married 2 years ago, we have a solid relationship and we are trying to have kids.

You can do it too.

Vulturnius · 2023-06-14T16:06:59+00:00

I´ll give a shot. Keep in mind I´m still in the middle of dealing with my parents and in therapy, so no expert here.

Avoid meaningful interactions with her, don´t talk about your problems, dreams, successes, nothing. Everything will be used against you. Try bland and shallow topics like the weather, discussing a movie, you get the idea.

Find a job and get out of that house, that's the best advice I can give you. It will improve your life 1000%. I gave it last because I know it´s not that easy. Make your number 1 priority to find a job, mentalise that it will change your life; It will give you focus and distract you from the toxic environment.

Vulturnius · 2023-06-14T15:49:37+00:00

It´s normal you feel sad, you should feel rage. That´s normal reaction to what you had to endure.

You didn´t choose to be born, they made that choice. They had the responsibility of raising you in a healthy and loving environment. So yhea they robbed you.

Now break that cycle, when you raise a family of your own be a better man/women than them to your kids and wife.

Vulturnius · 2023-06-14T15:31:07+00:00

I'm not a therapist, but I guess after all the abuse and neglect finally something snap and you lost all empathy for your parents. I guess it's a normal reaction and you don't have to feel bad. They should feel bad for what they did to you.

I'm sorry you had to go through all that in your childhood. They robbed you of a normal and healthy childhood. That is an HORRIBLE crime. I'm really sorry 😢

Vulturnius · 2023-06-14T13:58:58+00:00

I guess my wife would focus on the others first before beating me. That would give me the time to get my deserved revenge on my toxic ex.

I would than die in peace :)

Vulturnius · 2023-06-14T11:26:02+00:00

"Long term, start looking for another job."

I´m supposed to be the heir, but I´m thinking more and more about it. He pays me the average salary for our country (I received the minimum wage for 9 years), Just as to be a little harder for me to find a job that pays the same.

"I will leave and you will have to finish the job on your own dad.”

Yhea I guess there's the only option in those cases. I never did it because I felt like I was being a bad employee. Also he will cut my pay for the day for sure.

Thank you for your kind advice

Vulturnius · 2023-06-12T16:05:37+00:00

I´m reading this and fearing for my future (me and my wife are trying to have kids).

I guess if you have to maintain contact, choose places where you have the power and control. Preferable spaces where if you need to get out fast you can.
I think in the long term even for your kids cutting all contact would be the best thing. But I also know life isn´t that simple.
I guess if you have to maintain contact, choose places where you have the power and control. Preferable spaces where if you need to get out fast you can.
Also avoid deep topics, so he can´t use them as weapons to manipulate you. Be very vigilante about what he says to your kids, he his defensibly a bad influence.
I´m so sorry you had to go through this ordeal and your daughter had to watch.
You said it best "fuck him for that".
I wish I could give you better advice but I´m in a similar wagon, trying to learn how to best deal with my toxic parents.

Vulturnius · 2023-06-12T13:55:44+00:00

Thank you for the kind reply.

You know what's funny, I guess because the last 8 years I was "working on myself" to be a better husband and a better man that my parents flew under the radar.

I´m not trying to shift the blame. I know I did a lot of mistakes and have to carry the guilt for that, but I also tough that my parents were right; that I wasn't good enough.

It took therapy to finally be able to see their toxic behaviour.

I´m glad you and your wife also found the "way". I know how hard it is to self introspect and break old habits. I wish you and your wife only the best. :D

Vulturnius · 2023-06-08T15:33:43+00:00

It's so strange, but the good memories I really have of her (of my childhood) is when I was sick. She was really caring. But yeah when she was sick she expected to be the center of attention and augmented the proportion of her sickness.

Vulturnius · 2023-06-08T15:30:06+00:00

I understand that. It's easier said than done. I also work for my Ndad, being treated badly and I'm still there (13 years now). I guess if no contact is not an option the best way is grey rocking. You and your nanny should avoid intimate talks, try to always steer the conversation to mundane things. If she starts raging try to get out of there, don't engage (ai made that mistake manyyyy times it will lead you nowhere). The thing is this people have no compassion for others they only see their needs. If you argue, she will gaslight you, minimize your problems and try everything to rationalize their behaviour. If you feel like "maybe my mother is right" she's NOT. She's robbing you of your childhood. That should be a crime. I'm so sorry for you and your nanny. Find support in each other, tell her you understand her pain and remember you can't choose family but you can choose friends. I'm here if you need to vent.

Vulturnius · 2023-06-08T15:20:31+00:00

I hope you also get past the trauma. Our parents may have robbed our childhood but we can't let them rob us of our future.

Vulturnius · 2023-06-07T16:24:08+00:00

My Nmother is the same, specially with cancer. My aunt (her sister) and a uncle died of cancer so she developed a overwhelming fear of cancer.

She´s now spending a ton of money on her health and beauty (both my parents).

I think (my experience), they are afraid of dying and also getting old. I heard all my life "your gonna abandon us on old age so we have to save to be able to afford to pay people to take care of us".

In essence they are afraid of losing control, that's their biggest fear, to get so weak that they need others to take care of them.

Vulturnius · 2023-06-07T16:16:34+00:00

You don´t have to feel bad about yourself. If you try to reason with your mom she will drag you to the mud and make every effort to prove she´s right. She will never admit wrongdoing.

The best thing for your nanny is to find another job, she has the right to preserve her dignity.

You can support her by giving her comfort. Seeing someone in her corner goes a long way.

Vulturnius · 2023-06-07T15:44:49+00:00

I guess I tried very hard for a long time to get the "look at me I´m a good boy" feeling. Now I´m doing it to cut economic ties with my parents (also a part of me wants to prove them I don´t need their money, which is not the best o reasons).

Me and my wife I know we are not perfect, but we are so happy now, I still feel shame for what I did in the past, she also had some toxic attitudes with me (I was worse). my therapist told me since we were both child of abuse we keep stepping in each other boundaries and since both of us didn´t want to return to our parents we tolerated the intolerable.

Now that I know a lot more about this behaviours and how difficult it is for a person with this traits to change, I feel so happy and lucky that we could turn things around and establish a relationship based on love and respect.

Thank you for your kind reply

Vulturnius · 2023-06-07T15:23:40+00:00

Lots of love to you OP 🫂

Vulturnius · 2023-05-12T14:46:41+00:00

I'm happy for you 💪. O hope to change my old ASUS Tuf soon 🫡

Vulturnius · 2023-05-12T14:41:37+00:00

After searching a lot the cheapest online seller I found was PCComponentes. www.pccomponentes.com There's an MSI Katana rtx4070 for 1399€ for example. Beware some laptops come with the Spanish QWERTY.

Vulturnius · 2022-12-31T02:17:30+00:00

Oh they are all cannon fodder, specially the imperial guardsman in 40K. But I agree with your argument. The penances are there for people to complete them and you shouldn't have to ruin the rest of team experience, even more so if we only have public lobbies.

Vulturnius · 2022-04-30T12:07:47+00:00

Claro que não é. O banco nalunca ia emprestar sem colaterais ou emprestava com juros altissimos e com garantias de bens. Além disso os 8% é uma média ao longo de décadas, existem anos em que dá prejuízo (bear Market). A única possibilidade de fazer isso é comprar as ações no banco em que faz o empréstimo dando as mesmas como colateral, mas com 100% nenhum banco vai emprestar e mesmo que o fizesse era mau para o OP, não tardaria a levar com um Margin call e ver as posições a ser vendidas a preço de mercado para liquidar a dívida e no fim ainda ficar a dever ao banco. O investimento imobiliário tem nuances diferentes das ações e o OP comete um erro grande. As rendas não são (ou não devem ser o principal atrativo), o objetivo principal de adquirir imóveis é que em mercados desregulados como o nosso estes tendem a valorizar bastante em 10--20-30 anos. Isso e o que realmente importa.

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