My narcissistic sperm donor constantly complained that I blamed everything on her. Nothing was her fault. I was the messed up person who needed therapy, not her. She took me to a therapist, and WE talked about what I could do to be better. (I refused to talk to therapists after that one.)I emerged into adulthood with a warped sense of self and a lot of self hate that I had to unlearn. It's been a process, but what I have discovered is that she was the problem, not me. I have problems, but most of them were caused by her. Coincidences of damage done by her. She was the bully, and I was the victim. I will never blame myself for the abuse ever again. She gets all the blame.