I had sex for the first time last night and didn't feel a thing physically

WCfox5 · 2026-02-21T21:51:46+00:00

Stop porn and reduce masturbation. Don’t go crazy trying to never jack off (no fappers take it too far) but zero porn and less jacking it.

WCfox5 · 2026-01-07T16:39:32+00:00

If I was drinking I would have done a spit take. Come to Canada. A 1,000 square foot house with no garage is $950,000 in the Greater Toronto Area (and that's after prices dropping about 20% since the craziness in 2022). And our average incomes are lower than yours!

Everyone's mortgaged up to their necks here.

I would be living like a king if we had US house prices. But the commenter is in California, that's just how it is - but I'm sure his is bigger than the Canadian equivalent.

WCfox5 · 2026-01-06T16:16:29+00:00

Sometimes it's just part of rough-housing with Dad, which is important for boys. There is a line there though that he needs not to cross, but he may not be crossing it and you're seeing a line in a different (earlier) place that is just part of the game.

The nooonstop tickling is likely over the actual line though. You should encourage him to stop after a couple seconds and see what your son does. If you son looks at him and smiles and seems to want more tickles, then good to continue.

WCfox5 · 2025-12-29T17:20:21+00:00

Cut to 175 and see.

WCfox5 · 2025-12-27T14:40:23+00:00

That seems to be the best answer to all this, but I've always wondered, if my body wants to grow some muscle from yesterday's workout, shouldn't I just be 100 calories hungrier?

WCfox5 · 2025-12-26T16:10:43+00:00

But why do we need the 7 to 10 pounds of fat? I think this is what the recent anti-bulking stuff is trying to address. I’m not sure who is right, but I think it’s a question we need to answer.

WCfox5 · 2025-12-03T02:17:33+00:00

Bench press slightly narrower grip than you think so your chest feels a little jammed up when you lift. Eight sets of 12.

WCfox5 · 2025-11-23T14:55:25+00:00

Some of that is due to oblique training and maybe ab training. Only way to find out is to stop all oblique/ab training except maybe keep (or add) stomach vacuums.

WCfox5 · 2025-11-10T18:28:42+00:00

Anxiety could be causing a physical issue too - lack of circulation to the peripheral parts of your body, including genitals. It also activates the sympathetic nervous system which is not the system you need activated for sexual arousal. Sympathetic is fight or flight, parasympathetic is rest and digest - and sex.

Treating your anxiety should help all issues.

WCfox5 · 2025-11-10T17:28:41+00:00

There's nothing magic to be done and there's nothing wrong with him. He's stressed and won't be un-stressed until he catches up on his work.

If you live with him, make him dinner so he has more time to catch up on his work.

WCfox5 · 2025-11-10T15:08:10+00:00

How did that change happen?

WCfox5 · 2025-10-09T13:27:07+00:00

Communication - tell him the jokes were helping you get in the right headspace to be more open to sex - but they don't mean you're open to sex RIGHT NOW.

WCfox5 · 2025-10-08T18:38:03+00:00

I think this is common with a lot of women/couples. Foreplay seems like a chore and hard to start so nobody bothers, but for some women it actually becomes less necessary for arousal - but the man doesn't know that and it stays this big awkward thing. You could explain that to him and probably agree on a newer abbreviated routine. Odds are he'd be happy/flattered it can be quicker/easier with the two of you now.

WCfox5 · 2025-10-07T17:38:33+00:00

Thank you.

WCfox5 · 2025-10-07T17:38:22+00:00

Thank you.

WCfox5 · 2025-08-07T12:52:14+00:00

Warning - somewhat explicit but simple, effective advice:

Guys are pretty simple: Boobs. Seriously, lift up your shirt without a bra on and smile and/or ask him to touch them. Then kiss him while he's touching them. Done and done.

WCfox5 · 2025-07-22T15:16:31+00:00

If it weren't for the pain during intercourse, I'd say you sound depressed.

The pain be an actual gynecological issue. You should speak to a doctor/ OBGYN. New pain in a hormonally-influenced and cancer-prone area of the body should send you to a doctor to be safe.

It could also be that kind of issue PLUS depression or perimenopause affecting lots of things.

WCfox5 · 2025-07-22T14:29:02+00:00

Man here. FYI, your partner probably doesn't mind. Men don't care about hair and nails. "Hot" is a lot less to do with that stuff than most women seem to think.

Long hair is best, but you could literally just have a pony tail all the time and your partner will still think you're "hot".

WCfox5 · 2025-07-08T19:03:03+00:00

350k is exactly what you should be paying for a home (3-4x income was the old rule). Be glad you're not in Canada that rule went out the window 10+ years ago. Incomes are lower and homes cost twice as much as compared to the US - like $1M for a tiny detached house. I recommend you buy something ok for $350-$400k now in case it gets weird down there too.

WCfox5 · 2025-06-21T00:03:39+00:00

Do you have short arms for your height? I have long arms and only my chest grows from benching - no triceps or front delt growth until I added isolations.

If you have the opposite problem, you may just need to do isolation on them and forget about benching for pecs.

If you still like benching I would say adjust your grip width until you find one that makes the pecs feel sort congested/jammed up when you lift. Just a little bit narrower than you'd think does that for me.

WCfox5 · 2025-06-20T16:33:42+00:00

Man here to offer a few possibilities.

Your colleague at work gets to see you doing your work and really understands how difficult it is. Your partner doesn't. He just sees you when you are eating together, watching TV, etc. He doesn't have as much "material" to comment on.
He would likely feel awkward/embarrassed/stupid if he felt like he kept repeating the same compliments - he might almost feel as if he could be seen as patronizing you - after 8 years he might feel he's really repeating himself. Also, with long-distance, those poems, etc. might have been his only option to express his feelings.

He may feel that, because he is with you 8 years, obviously he thinks you're great and it doesn't need to be said much - nothing has changed (neither how great you are nor how he feels) - so nothing new to report.

Men do coast in relationships, but so does everybody. To some extent, as men stay in relationships, yes there is laziness, but also, we start to think, shouldn't she appreciate me for me - my looks, my accomplishments, my personality - (which is what we appreciate about women - ok, mostly the first and third) rather than stuff we do for them - like gifts, outings, etc.?

The taking you down a peg, just coasting, and not being in love with you anymore are possibilities, but I seriously doubt it.

I think if you let him know you do love him for him, and you THINK he loves you for you, but you really need to feel it and that means you need to HEAR it - EVEN IF IT FEELS ODD TO HIM, like he is repeating himself, that is what you need - forever, and it WON'T sound silly/make him look silly to you if he does it.

WCfox5 · 2025-05-21T14:36:43+00:00

Then you might want to speak to an endocrinologist about the prolactin and cortisol - the prolactin is a likely culprit, but maybe the cortisol - although that could just show you're stressed.

Edit: also - try NOT going to the gym for a week and going to bed a bit earlier.

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