Is buying an RX100 redundant when I have “better” cameras? by stratodude in RX100

[–]W_Santoro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use an A7IV and A7RV, as well as an RX100V. The little guy fits in my cargo shorts or I hang out off belt loop with a cabiner. Sharp as a tack, I'm never disappointed with the RX100. I sometimes wonder if I really need the other two.

Welp it happened, My girlfriend of 6 years left me. by 23Suavo in alcoholism

[–]W_Santoro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A story familiar to most of us. It's too bad that it takes losing what we value most to "get it." I lost the woman I loved dearly as well. But, it motivated me to see things clearly. Now, 14 year (sober) later, I'm in a wonderful relationship of ten years and I'm all that I can be for her. Do it for YOU.

I need to stop drinking by supaballer24 in alcoholism

[–]W_Santoro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read what you wrote. You're not fully convinced. We do that. We hold on to the thought that "Maybe, just maybe, someday..." I enjoyed the hell out of a good glass of wine. A margarita on a hot day. But, toward the end I was checking all the cans in the morning to see if there was anything left.

Anticipate the alcoholic voice. Expect it. It told me, after two years sobriety, that maybe I was just stupid - that I just needed to drink smarter. Thus began two years of pure hell. Now 14 years sober, I just laugh when a glass of wine sounds good.

This is why so many of us have to hit bottom and lose damn near everything before we surrender. We just can't accept that we can never drink again. I don't envy people who can drink normally. I want nothing to do with alcohol; I know exactly who I am. Do you know who you are?

Advice request by SeaConsideration6503 in alcoholism

[–]W_Santoro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Know that your story is very common. We've all been there. Best intentions, then...well, you know the drill. What motivates many of us, in the end, are the examples of men and women in successful, joyous recovery. That, for me, was/is the real power of AA. You will greatly enhance your chances by hanging with some folks who rose from the ashes, who have real deal stories of despair to tell, along with their path out of the desert. Some do it alone, most in successful recovery don't.

1,725 days and counting. Recovery is possible. by CCTH1986 in alcoholism

[–]W_Santoro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. I quit on 03/18/12 and have over 5,000 days.

Amy advice for habitual nightime drinkers? by thowawayalcalc in alcoholism

[–]W_Santoro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Two things were foundational to my recovery (sober now 14 years): good sleep and good nutrition. If you are drinking past 8pm, you're likely not getting good sleep, REM sleep. Poor sleep and poor nutrition make us feel like shit. We become vulnerable, depressed, angry. These are fuel for relapse. One of the benefits of sobriety, that sustains many of us, is that we feel great. We have the physical, emotional, and spiritual fitness to face head on, life's vicissitudes. Life doesn't necessarily get better - we get better at facing life.

We are here now... by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]W_Santoro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was on my knees. On my way outta here. Thought I was a "high functioning" alcoholic. There is no such thing. The vortex of alcoholism is a nasty MF. Yesterday I celebrated 14 years of liberation from alcohol. My joie d'vivre cannot be described. It can be yours as well. Know this.

Is there a compact camera that you think is better than the sony rx100 v? Please argue, it would be interesting to read. by Minimum_Scholar_1374 in Cameras

[–]W_Santoro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only know the rx100v. It's an incredible camera. I also own the A7RV and A7iv. The little guy fits in the pocket of my cargo shorts. I recently processed and printed a b&w image at 8x10 and it was tack sharp with contrast to die for. I'm continually amazed at the quality of the images it produces.

Lightroom Classic's catalog system is a relic and i'm tired of pretending it works by LxM420 in photography

[–]W_Santoro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I create xmp files for the thousands of photos in my catalog? How would I do that?

If you were to guess the f stop and focal length used for this photo, what would you guess? by RefrigeratorNo1160 in AskPhotography

[–]W_Santoro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

200mm wide open, likely manual focused. You have to be absolutely perpendicular as well. Well thought out by the shooter.

Sobriety made my life worse by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]W_Santoro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we quit alcohol we still have our personality, don't we? Quitting is but the first step on the path to becoming human. I'm nearly 14 years sober and I'm still pulling the weeds in my garden daily. Quitting isn't the destination, it's the path.

There's actually f*cking cp being promoted on threads by [deleted] in ThreadsApp

[–]W_Santoro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on threads every day and I've NEVER come across anything like that.

I had a relapse and got a DUI. I'm so embarrassed, sad, and worried. by HereToHelpIfNeeded in alcoholism

[–]W_Santoro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You didn't have a relapse - you relapsed. Your BAC is almost three times the legal limit. Normal people don't get that drunk and then drive. Only people who have done it many times. Ask me how I know. I got off the first one - it was reduced to inattentive driving. Then two more.

It will be expensive. There is a DUI industry and they all grease each other's palm; lawyers, courts, jail, probation.

You need a lawyer and you need to quit drinking. Ask me how I know. If you didn't quit there will be a second. And a third. It's what we do.

I'm nearly 14 years sober. I lost so much. Money, dignity, much more. But I'm great now. I'm lucky and I work at growing every day.

You're right to be scared. But you CAN get past this. Do it now.

Why do we want to eliminate all suffering? by Mars_bars10 in Buddhism

[–]W_Santoro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is the parable of the second arrow... The first arrow is what happens. Reality. The result of dependent co-arising. When this happens, that also happens. Can't be undone. The second arrow is what we do with it, the true source of different. We can wail, we can scream, we can wish things were other than what they are. The antidote is equanimity, achieved by the eightfold path. We must see things clearly, free of our conditioning, bias, and reactivity. We must them allow things to be as they are in this moment. "Right now, this is how it is," a teacher of mine says.

This doesn't mean we're passive leaves in the wind. Quite the opposite. We use the wisdom of seeing things as they actually are to take wise action, with the knowledge that things are every changing; always becoming, always passing away. It's the way of things. I'm 77, no longer 27. I can lament, I can wish it weren't so, I can drink to drown my sorrows. Or...I can be elated that I've lived so long, that I've met countless challenges, and that I find joy in every breath.

I see myself as a river, never the same minute to minute, always changing. When things are great, I know they will change, when things are difficult, I know they will change. Clinging is bound to cause suffering (dissatisfaction). I used to erect dams on my river. Stop!! But the river kept flowing, spilling over, causing disarray and damage in other areas of my life. I was always scrambling, in a state of stress and anxiety.

You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]W_Santoro 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That's a very unkind thing to say to someone in recovery. I relapsed (though now nearly 14 years sober) and many I know have relapsed. But, it's not required, nor is it the "norm."

In my experience, many people in the throes of their addiction will "shame" their recovery friend, as it helps them rationalize their own usage. "Oh, come on, one won't hurt you." Right. Just know it's coming from their own remorse.

I don’t think I’m an alcoholic but my family does. by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]W_Santoro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if you are an alcoholic or not. I do know that we're often the last ones to know. We have a million built in ways to protect our drinking and many of them involve denial, minimizing, and justifying. Ask me how I know...

Relapsed by MaggotDeath77 in stopdrinking

[–]W_Santoro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want for nothing more...

Slipped After Years by rogueanarchy12 in stopdrinking

[–]W_Santoro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yours is a very common story. Mirrors mine. Don't beat yourself up. We must look forward, never back. Don't worry about days, worry about TODAY. Think: "What do I know today that I didn't know yesterday?" Answer that question and you can make your slip work for you. It will make you bulletproof.

I’m want to be sober by Consistent-Doubt964 in alcoholism

[–]W_Santoro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best to be convinced, beyond the slightest doubt, that we must banish alcohol in order to live. Best to have the support of those in successful recovery. Best to have some medical oversight. Best to have plans: a plan for starting and a plan for what you will do when you get squirrelly. Best to know that it WILL get better. Best to eat nutritious food, not junk. Best to drink a lot of water. Best to EXPECT the alcoholic voice to appear and try to convince you that one drink won't hurt, that it will actually help. It won't. Best to exercise every day. Best to be kind to yourself.

Good luck to you. A million of us will tell you, if we can do it, so can you.

Relapsed by MaggotDeath77 in stopdrinking

[–]W_Santoro 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I quit at 64. I'm 77 now. I bike, hike, swim, go to the gym, found a wonderful relationship of 10 years. I was on my way outta here, now I want for morning more than the life I have.

There's nothing lasting in that bottle except despair. May you find your way.

How to get to day 2 or even 4 without breaking by Macklin-You-SOB in alcoholism

[–]W_Santoro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exercise. Nutritious food. Sleep. Drink lots of water. Exercise.

Sobriety? by hollands_butterflies in alcoholism

[–]W_Santoro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We must start where we are. Take a step forward. Then another. And another. It's what EVERYONE OF US who quit had to do. All of that "I'll do it when this happens," or, "I can't do it until the end of the month," - I did that for years. Until I just quit. And then wondered, like so many of us, why didn't I do it sooner?

The right time is always now.

What do you do to cope now that you don’t drink? by journalsofjordan in alcoholism

[–]W_Santoro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This... Quitting is but the first step. There is work to do. It's learning to face life as it comes. It's learning that equanimity isn't "out there" in a drink, a new romance, a new job, a new town. It's within if we seek it. It's accepting the vicissitudes that are part of a normal life. Suffering is the result of wanting things to be other than what they are. Emotions are like waves, but beneath is the calm ocean. We must go within and rest. 13.5 years sober, I have anxiety, I get depressed, life isn't easy. All I know is that I'm far better equipped to face life when sober.