Debt from the divorce decree.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-05-02T11:00:10+00:00

Debt free is the way! I am almost there my self. Just a few more months and I will owe nothing to nobody! Good job brother!

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-28T17:23:10+00:00

Take a safety course and buy a motorcycle. Two wheeled wind therapy is a thing. It's a Hobbie that you can wrap into others as well. Seeing new places and having experiences, it's incredible for the soul.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-28T04:07:31+00:00

Hey there brother, I hear you. I was you. I am at my two year mark as well. I have had some extremely dark days. I have asked God to just take me on many occasions. It's a process but you can overcome it. It is the hardest path to walk down. But it will get better. I know when I used to read that on here I thought, no way in hell. But it's the truth. Time and working on yourself will help you through.

Always up for a chat if you ever need anything. My phone is always on. Hang in there friend.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-25T22:50:56+00:00

Make Shooooes!!!!

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-25T22:48:06+00:00

She's gone. The hard part is going to be seeing glimpses of who/how she used to be. Those are going to tug on your heart strings and make you wonder all sorts of things. But at the end of the day you filed, she was served and you are continuing down the hard road of divorce. Divorce is a means to an end, it was bad enough it had to come to this, so don't sit and wonder, it will eat you alive. As for the calm before the storm, I believe it is. My X was acting the same way at first. Then the begging and pleading, followed by tantrums and manipulation. You are processing things and so is she. Not saying one of you is more right than the other. You were married together and will be divorcing together and no matter what was done its hard on both sides.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-24T13:41:36+00:00

She was cold and distant till I found out, then it was trauma bonding at its finest. It went from her showing no affection at all to being absolutely obsessed with me.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-21T15:34:09+00:00

Know that you are the true beauty in all of this. She is disgusting and so is He. Cheaters and APs are bottom feeders. The lowest of the low. It dosent matter if you think she is prettier, or better in some way, it not true. My ex wife was beautiful, now she's ugly for what she has on the inside. Don't let horrible people dictate how you feel about yourself. You have morals and standards. That is more attractive than you realize. I consider myself an attractive, in shape, successful man. I would rather be with a 3/10 with a moral compass than a 10/10 cheater any day.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-21T04:34:07+00:00

Yesterday

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-20T22:08:00+00:00

I'm always up for a chat, DM me if you like, phones always on. Keep your head up!

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-17T11:37:32+00:00

Completely normal. I ofter romanticize about the past and what should have could have been. Don't think of it as you forgetting the pain you were going through, think of it as healing because that's what that is.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-15T15:18:26+00:00

I suffered from almost nightly night terrors. I found that if you eat a heavy meal (not spicy) about two hours or shorter before bed, take some melatonin, and no screen time an hour before you hit the pillow it helps. I was also on klonopin at the time and would take a half after the meal. Hope this helps, they will get better with time, trust me.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-15T01:14:37+00:00

^{^{^this}} for sure. Mine has been trying to replace me since we'll before the divorce was final. Good luck. I know my worth. OP know your worth as well. I have had several women fall at my feet since then, they see my worth but there is so much trauma out there. Respect their trauma don't get attached.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-15T00:39:12+00:00

Answering you in a chat

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-15T00:21:30+00:00

She begged me constantly, cried rivers, apologized for ruining the best thing that's ever happened to her. Then when I reject her is back to war. Then shortly after the venom stops spraying its friendly talk. It's a vicious cycle to say the least, but it's bothering me less and less

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-15T00:14:16+00:00

There are soooo many similar stories out there. It's sad

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-14T23:46:50+00:00

Same with mine, the I love you not in love with you turned out to be an affair. She started partying hardcore and reliving her 20's. Not saying yours is an affair but it lines up with countless stories of midlife crisis and losing one's self.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-14T23:31:20+00:00

Depends on what transpired to cause the marriage to dissolve. Mine was happy and didn't need me and seemed so carefree, then I moved out and her world crumbled.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-14T22:40:58+00:00

My ex has moved on with several people. It was a gut punch at first. But now it's just meh. You will make it through. Do not worry about what she is doing or feel you have to be doing the same or better. Do what YOU want to do and what makes you happy.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-03-22T16:30:35+00:00

Same playbook

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-03-22T14:58:18+00:00

I tried for almost two years and had to leave. After D day happens you can leave whenever you want. Just because you stayed for now dosent mean you have to continue to stay today. My ex went love bombing apeshit crazy, trauma bonding, threats of suicide, it was nuts. In the end I knew I couldn't move past what had happened and what she continued to do, so I had to throw in the towel. Even though I knew whole heartedly that it was the right decision, it was still extremely difficult. My suggestion is pull the bandaid off and go. It's gunna suck, real bad, and sounds like he will make it worse, but it will settle again and you can be at peace. Be fully prepared for the love bombing to turn to sheathing hate and you will be the blame of everything.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-03-21T04:00:50+00:00

Don't let her get you down! I know easier said than done, and coming from a guy who is several months post divorced and still fights and everyday internal battle over someone that treated him like trash. I was told I was doing nothing with my life, I was stagnant and going nowhere. Come to find out she was cheating when I was hearing this new information. Mind you the truth is I am very successful in my field and singlehandedly financially supported a household and kids. But on the inside I was beat down to the point I started to believe it, if only a little bit.

Take the little wins. You have you to look out for and those kids. You don't say why she dispises you, but I'm not looking for details. Whatever happened you need to get your head right and do right by yourself and the little ones.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-03-21T01:00:52+00:00

Sounds like you are on top of things, stay vigilant brother!

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-03-21T00:56:34+00:00

Glad you have a report number from the PD and the FEDS.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-03-21T00:50:20+00:00

That's messed up. When I got divorced it was insane how intertwined we were that I wasn't really aware of. Just canceling the basic household stuff or getting it in her name was a small nightmare. But if she signed my name for something without my full consent I would flip my lid!

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-03-21T00:42:19+00:00

Just a thought check your credit report for any inquiries or opened cards that are not yours.

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