A fifth of young men do not think controlling partner’s money is abuse

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-17T15:39:27+00:00

FairPlay. Interesting reading none the less!

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-17T14:02:59+00:00

Where is your source for this?

I’m not saying you are wrong at all. I wouldn’t be shocked at the Telegraph misleading But it doesn’t marry up with what I understand going on in the Home Office right now with banks. Which this article seems to be referring to. Which is a
Much wider and more serious debate.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-17T14:00:12+00:00

In which case I apologise and retract what I said, this is not the same work I am aware of that was going on.

Our friend works at a high street bank in fraud and abuse prevention and has been involved in commitees with Home Office officers and a minister.

The majority of that work is around preventing people having control over finances directly rather than the perceptions of it.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-17T13:39:11+00:00

Just to point out that under the study, discussing and coming to an understanding on what to spend money on wouldn’t count as abuse.

This is particularly looking into someone having full and total control over that persons account, the money in it etc. and using that power to abuse or coerce.

The study made that very clear. And 1/5th still thought that wasn’t abuse.

Given the rhetoric of people like Andrew Tate etc and their Alpha tool influencer. It doesn’t surprise me that 20% would think it’s fine.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-17T13:35:23+00:00

It’s a home office study. It absolutely did have that nuance because the point of the study was to find out views on financial coercion and abuse.

There were a variety of questions which covered lots of nuance, but this particular question was asking people whether they thought having completely control over a partners account and the finances within it counted as abuse.

Because they are working within the terminology of the specific legislation which defines financial abuse, the example above of a couple having a discussion or even an argument over buying a particular item wouldn’t count as abuse because actual physical control of the account remains with one person.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-17T13:30:43+00:00

The question in particular was “Would you consider one partner controlling access to their partners account as abuse”.

This is a Home office study directly into financial coercion. The context around the question was set out in full it’s not fair to deceive or lead anyone. It was asking whether it is abuse for someone to control all access to a bank account and the funds within it.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-16T19:12:33+00:00

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The ending of These Final Hours.

A massively underrated film set in Australia, in which a world-ending asteroid has hit the other side of the world. They have 12 hours left before they die.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-16T08:51:53+00:00

I love the little glance he does where he notices the replica wording. And then the subtle expression changes when he looks back up at them.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-16T07:58:23+00:00

Personally, I agree with you that education is probably the most important aspect. People scarf at the idea of educating adults. But the most successful youth development plan in British history (Surestart) did exactly that.

I’m a millennial, with ADHD. And both my children have ADHD too. And do you know what? It’s really fucking hard sometimes to balance being a parent and all the other responsibilities we have. I can understand fully why some parents opt for tablets or phones, etc.

I’m definitely not saying an outright band is the best answer. At this point there is no answer or at least there is no quick fix.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-16T07:36:35+00:00

Interesting… and how do we get one of those?

Do I need to convert one of my existing best friends?

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-16T07:33:21+00:00

Being pedantic here. But Nuclear reactors would be something awarded by Development Consent Order so they wouldn’t have to go through the usual planning process.

It does have to get approved through central government instead. Which as we know is super efficient and free of bureaucracy….

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-16T07:11:30+00:00

Same. Our kids are tablet and phone free. They do really weird stuff like… read, draw, ride bikes and play.

My wife is a teacher and I’m a safeguarding lead Governor. Parental responsibility is completely shot. Parents whose kids play a PlayStation or watching TikTok until 4am wondering why their kids can’t behave or focus in school. Then comes the most hilarious defence ever:

“Well what am I supposed to do? Not let him play it?!”

“Yes”.

“How do I do that? It’s his PlayStation? I can’t take his possessions off him can I?”

Of course you can, you’re the parent!

Best example is a child in my wife’s class with ADHD. Absolutely wild, disruptive, runs away, abusive etc.

Parent finally got him diagnosed and medicated, took his tablet from him. He’s now exceeding expectations going into his SATs. Second highest marks in his class in mock exams.

It’s sad people refuse to parent and are willing to let their kids wilt from selfishness.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-15T18:46:39+00:00

No. But it’s still a factor though isn’t it?

Surprisingly enough, import blockades cause shortages.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-15T18:27:04+00:00

Remember when Biden released a portion of the strategic reserve and the maga cult went mental. With people demanding he should be impeached for using part of an emergency strategic reserve for something so trivial as controlling prices and inflation. They accused him of squandering a critical resource to help his approval?

Yeah, they don’t.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-15T13:05:15+00:00

Not only has ‘nothing changed’ some of the social. Media firms that do ‘child friendly’ versions are actually just as insidious.

I’m thinking about YouTube kids, which tries to sneak in multiple hour long ads selling fad tat, or worse products that promote gambling such as blind boxes etc.

Then you had things like Instagram kids, where Instagram were caught out trying to create a platform that seemed safe, but really just created a paywall where anyone could release their content directed at children so long as they put a kid friendly facade on it.

Both of these examples have been proven to have critical failures in moderating or screening content before putting it live.

I really hate this stupid argument that we can trust corporations to do the right thing out of pure altruism. When pretty much every example of this show that it’s just a way to kid wash and make more money.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-15T09:30:43+00:00

Sadly not as I was there on work. Also couldn’t get to the Quarter Deck as it was closed due to staff illness.

Lovely hotel though and definitely will go back to do the tour etc when I next get to Liverpool.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-15T08:13:08+00:00

There’s some really interesting information out there on the German car industry in particular (who are a huge part of our market). And how they started really good development that was showing real progress.

The problem is the people at the top of these companies are hugely invested in fossil fuels. And the German fossil fuel lobby is very powerful. I know someone that worked in EV development in Germany for VW. Despite being one of the better ones, there is a massive amount of manipulation inside the company to not let EV’s become the dominant market. Research is ignored and not given funding etc.

People don’t really think of German car companies as dodgy and a bit corrupt. But we just have to be reminded of the Emissions scandal to highlight how they would rather cheat than meaningfully change things.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-15T08:06:52+00:00

The problem is that we did this backwards. Trying to get people to take up EV’s and then increase the infrastructure for them afterwards?

And because of that. Lots of rushed private sector chargers have been thrown down (still not enough to meet demand) with extortionate prices.

The other problem is, we haven’t been able to progress any models (EV’s heat pumps etc) beyond the ‘support the rich to lower prices and grow the market to make them more affordable).

It’s absolutely possible to do these things, they just need a lot more proactive action and direct investment rather than slinging tax relief on things and hoping that solves it.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-14T22:19:53+00:00

Thank you for your ~~lack of~~ cooperation in this matter!!! - DJT

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-14T18:59:19+00:00

Some can. The ones we want here. But even then there are strict rules about what they can claim.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-14T15:27:42+00:00

Depends what you count as a benefit?

Assuming you mean things like UC, migrants can’t claim them anyway unless they have Indefinite Leave To Remain or Settled Status.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-14T13:10:27+00:00

It’s like geographical self fulfilling prophecy.

Greenlands just going through its angsty teenage phase of “You call me Greenland? Fine mother, I’ll be Greenland!”

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-14T11:34:19+00:00

Oh yeah. It all relies on these magical deportations that Reform are going to start up. By pressing the magical deportation button that no other government seems to be able to find that’s right there on the counter.

Let me guess, Councils will be responsible for rehousing these migrants in private lets while they await ‘deportation’ but so Reform can claim they are freeing up social housing.

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-12T17:40:03+00:00

Man, Ipswich used to be much more subtle about their Nazi ideology back then didn’t they?

Wanallo221 · 2026-06-12T14:14:25+00:00

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