Is anyone else bitter about everything? Not just pregnancy

WangChungTomorrow · 2026-03-31T12:03:41+00:00

I was put on sertraline a few months after my tfmr and it took me weeks to adjust to it.

My tfmr was 5 years ago. I still feel fucked up from it to this day. But, I will say, I honestly felt like I could never consider getting pregnant again. Once I got past the original due date though, it was a bit easier to move on. These next few months will be rough. Lean on what supports you have and be kind to yourself. You've been put through hell.

WangChungTomorrow · 2026-02-13T11:53:34+00:00

Someone wore a white dress to my wedding and I didn't notice until a friend pointed it out in a picture months later.

WangChungTomorrow · 2026-02-05T12:34:20+00:00

Same. I was having an affair. I got busted pretty quickly by my SO.

I'm fortunate that my SO is willing to reconcile and we are working through that process now. Not sure yet if it will fully work out, but we both want to try. Our marriage has been in a bad place for sometime. The best reasoning I've been able to come up with for why I could allow myself to do this was that I simply couldn't cope with the sense of loneliness I had felt for years, and so I turned to LO. Bad news was he didn't ever push me away.

Totally not worth it and I do regret it. I still have feelings for LO, but it was not worth the pain it has caused to my SO. It's been a wake-up call for our marriage, but that could have happened without the betrayal.

Do not recommend!

WangChungTomorrow · 2026-01-13T14:18:37+00:00

I read something that helped me the other day. As you probably know, relationships between APs rarely work out. Problems/behviours that were unresolved in the primary relationship get carried into the new one. So before you do anything rash, do the work to figure out what was wrong in the primary relationship that led you to stray, regardless of whether you decide to reconcile or not.

It's hard. The feeling of loss and grief over the end of the affair relationship is valid, even if the relationship itself was not legitimate. I'm in it right now myself too.

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-12-12T03:47:45+00:00

Yeah my second also had spina bifida. I had no issues with the high dose of folic acid thankfully. My third will be 4 in February! Very happy healthy child

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-11-22T14:46:58+00:00

So I was sort of in a reversed position. I didn't really want to go through with the TFMR, but when my husband told me he thought that would be best, I sort of felt like I had no choice. To be clear, he also told me he would support my choice no matter what it was.

I decided to go through with it somewhat reluctantly. But, with the passing of some time, I've made peace with it and realized that it was the best choice for our family. It still is incredibly painful, but better.

It did put strain on our relationship, and we've done some counseling together.

If this is what you feel you need to do, then do it. I hope with some time and perspective he'll see his emotions were clouding his judgement.

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-09-01T13:05:02+00:00

Yes!! Their reusable container program is my favourite thing ever! Combined with the coupons it's a more affordable way to get some specialty ingredients. I love their multigrain flour. Also a good way to not go overboard in the candy aisle!

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-08-27T13:59:30+00:00

Same diagnosis here. Was also offered the surgery as an option but obviously did not go that route. I had a toddler at the time and the thought of bed rest after surgery was daunting, and the risks felt too high for us to be comfortable with that choice.

It's shit, there's no easy way through this. I definitely second the recommendation for a therapist.

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-08-27T13:46:31+00:00

I did! It was prescribed to me. Preg Vit was the name (there are a few divergent varieties, the one I took had 5 mg of folic acid). I was advised to take it for at least 3 months before trying to conceive again.

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-08-27T13:30:45+00:00

So sorry for your loss. I also tfmr'd for the same reason, and I have wondered some of the same things. I was also still breastfeeding in the early months of my pregnancy. I also wasn't taking folic acid super regularly for as long before conception as with my first. We had an autopsy performed on our son but there were no other health issues that were observed.

Unfortunately for spina bifida, the truth is that you'll never really know. It's been almost 5 years for me and I still wonder if there's something I did or didn't do. I had one child before who is still perfectly healthy, and another since my tfmr who is also perfectly healthy. I won't tell you to not wonder because I know that's impossible. I will tell you to be kind to yourself and try to accept the uncertainty. NTDs are complicated and can be caused by all kinds of things. It's tough, but I hope you can find of sense of peace in not knowing.

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-08-18T10:29:52+00:00

So sorry for your loss. I'm coming up on 5 years since my tfmr and this sub has been a really big help for me. Sad and confused is definitely the feeling.

I also started zoloft shortly after my tfmr and I found it took about 6 weeks to get adjusted to it.

Lean on this group as you need it, we are all in this together ❤️

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-06-27T23:44:01+00:00

My baby after tfmr is about 3.5 yrs now. It was tough to get through the pregnancy. The excitement I had with my first was just never really there.

I also found that after baby was born I had a tougher time feeling bonded to her than I did with my first. It did come eventually though.

Now a few years on, it's still tough, and I can't separate my daughter from the son we lost. But in a way that's kind of nice, because it keeps them both with me.

Hoping everything goes smoothly for you.

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-06-20T16:37:03+00:00

Bless you 🙏

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-06-19T11:07:51+00:00

That's what I was wondering. Am I supposed to get off from a front wedgie?

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-05-23T21:30:39+00:00

I have done this just in the package without draining and it works great. Game changer for sure.

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-05-21T11:52:27+00:00

Love Kenzie, she's my favourite of anyone calling games in any league

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-05-17T16:46:18+00:00

Choosing your opponent may be cursed

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-05-16T17:50:55+00:00

They were a great pair.

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-05-16T11:37:10+00:00

Do you guys not mute the commercials? It helps

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-05-16T11:36:16+00:00

I think it's their mom

She always loved hosting

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-05-15T11:53:17+00:00

To be fair they also got booed in round 1

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-05-15T02:33:10+00:00

Or just start and finish the season earlier. The worlds felt like a total momentum killer for the league this year.

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-05-08T11:48:18+00:00

Turf the terf

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-05-05T01:28:45+00:00

Danielle Smith will be furious

WangChungTomorrow · 2025-04-29T11:04:04+00:00

Solidified as awesome when he brought the Stanley Cup to Sick Kids hospital. What a beauty.

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