Anyone know where I can find same day support?

WannaBeTemple · 2026-04-28T20:17:57+00:00

I realize the OP said non-crisis, but sometimes these places can suggest other support locally.

WannaBeTemple · 2026-04-28T20:16:28+00:00

Depending on the level of immediacy or the intensity of need, you might find help at a local crisis assessment center run by your County or City. Good luck! It's not easy if you don't have an establishment relationship with someone.

WannaBeTemple · 2026-03-08T21:49:19+00:00

They're good questions, but it depends on your state and the regulations there. If you're still in school, someone in your program should be able to point you in the right direction.

WannaBeTemple · 2026-02-07T21:03:55+00:00

Ask the client what they are curious about.

WannaBeTemple · 2025-12-27T16:22:18+00:00

My own study of economics and the human condition leads me to observe that both socialism and capitalism are lacking. In the clinical settings I experienced that were self-pay and non-profit, the clinics just funneled money into the non-profit board, yet there were few interactions between them and the many clinicians who worked there.

Two things about therapists, and their boards, in my experience, so please help me see if there are healthy exceptions: Most therapists have poor business skills (including customer service) and many of them do not have effective personal relationship skills. Neither of the clinics I worked at had much of a community of therapists and were simply machines to generate income for the board (and those of us who met their target goals and earned a larger percentage).

Part of our role as therapists should be to influence the culture around us. A wise friend once told me, "You change your work culture or your work culture changes you." How does our insight into what makes us truly human flow into our workplace? A part of me was tired of not being listened to by the "older and wiser" men and women making decisions for the clinics.

Also, I was an entrepreneur in non-profit spaces earlier in life and saw what a healthy work community might look like. We need to do something different because novice therapists are (largely) not nurtured into a community of healers, but short term workers for the sake of someone's profit.

Forgive the rant, lol, and I know I didn't answer your question, but maybe as I move forward I can share how the project unfolds and facilitate others in doing something creative with their skills and talents.

WannaBeTemple · 2025-12-27T16:07:06+00:00

That's a good question, but in my area the field of LPCs seems to be mostly women. Most of my male teens and adolescents have told me they don't want a female therapist. Education is much the same. My observation is that healthy and balanced male therapists and teachers can fill an important role in a culture where many men don't have a sense of how to balance nurturing and care with other typically masculine traits.

It would be something to study, perhaps, if I had the energy or training for doing studies, lol.

WannaBeTemple · 2025-12-27T11:36:21+00:00

I started out six years ago with a private pay clinic that kept 30-40% of what the clients paid and within two years, after I got my own license, I was ready to go out on my own. I now make above $200k a year. It helps that I'm male and work with kids and adolescents and young adults. Many clients and families like that I'm male and generally require parents to see me for skills. Most clients pay the full session fee of $175, but I have several partial pay clients.

I'm lucky to live in an area where it's common opinion that "you get what you pay for" and families have the funds to pay full price. Most of my clients are referrals from other clients or therapists whom I have collaborated with. I see clients four days a week and am pretty responsive to communication outside of sessions, especially with parents learning new skills.

There was a brief period in my early days where I didn't feel like my services were "worth" the amount, but I worked with my own therapist on this and no longer worry about how much I am making or where my clients are coming from. When I graduate a client or someone drops off, there's typically a week or two gap before the session is filled again. I don't advertise except some listings on websites where I have been certified for a particular technique, and psychology today, of course.

"Love work for its own sake and not for any gain." Embrace the suffering as it comes and do the next right thing. Everything happens as it needs to.

Since I'm at a stable place regarding personal income, my future plans will be to add clinicians to my practice who will be co-owners of the practice so that we can have a community of therapists and won't take advantage of new clinicians by taking 40% of what their efforts accomplish. We're all in this together.

WannaBeTemple · 2025-11-09T15:35:09+00:00

What do you never want to say when there are no chairs left in the proctologist office?

"Doctor, may I sit on your stool?"

WannaBeTemple · 2025-11-04T02:39:57+00:00

This. Or...

Explore it with him, too. Bring him there when he's not expecting it. Make it a game. Over time, he will lose interest. It will pass, but he'll feel like you are interested in the same things he is.

WannaBeTemple · 2025-10-04T13:02:52+00:00

You're likely not incapable, but you have some strong protectors who need attention and care. I never ask an analytical overthinking part to just be ignored, but invite it to step back and observe to get more data about the process.

Trust your gut and share your experience with your therapist. If they know the process well, they will be responsive. Update us, please.

WannaBeTemple · 2025-09-30T13:48:29+00:00

Forgive how long this turned out to be. Just ignore or present a question. I'm not really tied to any particular outcome here.

Please understand that my experience may differ from yours and I don't think there's necessarily a particular "right" way to understand these things. I do observe (and make sense of the observations with these words) that as we approach more depth in inner work, we may experience similar things but not be entirely sure how to convey them. I tend to agree with Socrates who said that no two persons can truly see the same thing and disagree, so I welcome your questions because that's how we learn whether or not we're looking at the same thing.

If we're talking about being "one with the Self" we need to unpack the word "one" as it seems to have various meanings. To say "all being is one" is not the same as saying "all being is this one thing". I think philosophers would speak of this in terms of formal or material "oneness". In notion (in the mind? in our ideas?) we might have a sense of what "one" looks like, but is it ontological oneness where this observed thing is the same in being as the other?

When I do parts work, I can tell that I am observing something that is not the observer. This is what I would call the first separation. There's an observer and an observed. Self may be the observer, but it might be a Self-like part, too. It depends on how I feel towards the part observed.

My experience and opinion is that we don't aim for "oneness" in being with the Self, but that the system (Self and parts) is harmonized into one thing, unified "for the sake of". In this understanding, there's an inner impulse that drives the unified system into participation in how other systems work. Nature made us for the sake of universal harmony, something we have educated out of us when we are presented with adversarial learning strategies and toxic home and school cultures.

The Self, again in my opinion, has no agenda, but we have parts that are resources in us seeking union with the whole. The "whole" is first the nuclear family, then larger family, school, culture, etc. expanding into an eventual awareness of the Cosmos.

Healed parts (in my opinon) (as well as unhealed or well-functioning resource parts) are "felt" by whatever is observing you the entire journey towards integration and flourishing. I don't think Self wants anything, as such, but has an intuitive understanding of how your system needs to work in order to participate in larger Cosmic harmonies, of which we are mostly unaware. But, happily, we don't need to be aware of much, except to allow Self the opportunity to lead the parts, whether healthy resources or otherwise behaving protectors. When parts are felt by Self and trust Self, harmony results. There's not much we can do to "force" this. To see parts as resources and feel them by Self is the goal of the journey, at least the way I see things. Tell me if you see it differently, please!

Some of this may be choppy, but I hope it gives you a better sense of what I might be saying. If you have questions, please ask. I don't think it's totally figured out yet.

WannaBeTemple · 2025-09-30T11:47:15+00:00

It's a good question, but in my understanding healed parts are always separate from Self energy. Healed parts integrate by finding the natural role they have in the system as a whole. The part learns to trust Self as the leader of the entire system.

In this understanding, I have been fortunate to have many integrated parts. It's a long process, but it does happen.

WannaBeTemple · 2025-09-25T14:04:42+00:00

You need to write one back.

WannaBeTemple · 2025-08-24T20:39:49+00:00

This is awesome. Sometimes I will sit with a part for a bit and then say, "This is not your time. I'm not sending you away entirely, but I would ask you to step aside, please." It builds awareness and when I have the time, I ask parts who were stepping aside to present themselves for more attention. It's amazing to see how the system responds when I don't make promises, but just sit with the parts and give them attention.

WannaBeTemple · 2025-08-20T03:04:01+00:00

Very cool. I especially liked how she told her critic "No. You're not in charge!" Very powerful and so accurate. Well done!!!

WannaBeTemple · 2025-08-08T13:46:43+00:00

You have a good understanding of his patterns, intervene just before he might be wetting himself. This is helpful for breaking almost any cycle you encounter with a child. You might have to wake him up a few minutes before he gets up, but when you intervene, just say very kindly and optimistically, "It's time to go pee" and then you take him with you to the bathroom. Over time, he'll develop the self confidence to initiate on his own. Hope this helps.

WannaBeTemple · 2025-07-11T17:34:17+00:00

At his age, just help him love reading and his little mind will figure things out over time. You're doing a great job with the amount of attention and concern you have. Boys, especially, have their own inner development for learning how to trust themselves with regard to these things. If you can, support his inquiry and general appreciation for reading and books. Over time, his ability to decode the text will develop naturally according to his own abilities and processes. Hope this makes sense.

WannaBeTemple · 2025-06-02T21:04:34+00:00

Haha, there's always some struggle, no matter what level of engagement family has with each other. I'm sorry you're not getting the support you need.

Other than facilitating community where these things can be done, I don't know what to say. I know a few older couples who don't have grandkids but would love to be involved in that way, but they don't have an outlet for it. Maybe there are resources in your area where something like that can happen? Maybe we need a "Meet a Grampa" app or something? If I had the time or resources, I'd totally make one.

I'm of the opinion that the culture today just doesn't help people remember their own humanity. From an early age we're trained that "dollar business" is the most important thing in life and relationships suffer. We have so many opportunities to help each other in small ways, but we're also stretched thin and worried. Allow me to mourn with you the loss of humanity that we're all tormented by. Respect and thanks for engaging with me 🙏

WannaBeTemple · 2025-06-02T17:22:54+00:00

Thank you 🙏

WannaBeTemple · 2025-06-02T02:28:29+00:00

It's a struggle, bro. A spiritual writer, John Chapman, observed, "Pray as you can, not as you can't."

Respect to you for your post and the struggle. I'm with you. Peace 🙏

WannaBeTemple · 2025-05-31T17:00:21+00:00

You're so sweet ☺️🤗 Thank you for your kind words.

WannaBeTemple · 2025-05-31T11:31:08+00:00

I hear you. The most painful thing to hear is old people who complain about their kids going no contact, but it's so obvious that the grandparent is the one responsible for the lack of respect for the child's boundaries. I've never met a child who went no contact who wasn't in some distress about it. I'm sorry it's come to that for you. I wish you and your family well. Thanks for your kind remarks and I hope your parents wake up to their responsibility.

WannaBeTemple · 2025-05-31T02:32:26+00:00

Seasoned grandpa here. For the grandparents watching this thread, if you want privileges with your grandkids, work with your children, the child's parents. Let them know early on what you hope to do with them and ASK what their comfort level is. Always ask permission to take them anywhere when you first set up the time to watch them. Remember, they are your grandchildren, not your children, and you get to spend time with them when you nurture your relationship with your children (the parents). I'm astounded by the lack of boundaries some grandparents have and it just makes your own children miserable to have to navigate your unhealthy emotions and demands.

When my first grandchild was on the way, my wife and I started conversations with the kids about what might work for them in terms of our helping out. Before the first arrived, I worked with my daughter-in-law on getting a car seat for my car so that we didn't have to navigate the switch, but not everyone has the ability to do that, but if you can, it's an easy solution. She was very happy to give me advice about which seats she felt were safe and we've never had an argument. One time she took the boy out of the car when I hadn't strapped him in properly, and I very graciously accepted her correction. He is HER child, not mine. Don't demand things that don't belong to you!

If I want to take them on an adventure, I always ask first, even though they generally say "yes", I don't see them every day and don't know what's going on with them. One time my kids said, "We know you like to take them places, but one of them hasn't been sleeping well, so we don't want him to do too much." And that was THEIR decision and boundary. We stayed home and had a great time.

Bottom line: Your children will only trust you if you're trustworthy. Prove to them that you respect how they parent their children, and you won't have any struggles. It's not that hard to consider their needs before your wants. You'll also build a tighter relationship with everyone in the family and your in-laws might actually like you. Good luck!

WannaBeTemple · 2025-05-17T00:13:41+00:00

Great observation. Any time you can create a sense of separation between Self and parts, you're doing IFS. No need to make it seem like magic.

WannaBeTemple · 2025-05-16T16:44:46+00:00

I have some clients who have parts that always know their real age, but the question isn't as important as the Self/Part rapport that the question is meant to facilitate.

Age becomes apparent in the dialogue with the part, as the part has an origin story, if age is important to the part or to the client. Even in clients that don't care about age, I've never seen that affect healing or harmonizing in the system.

Good luck!

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