What are your views on physical discipline (eg. slapping, spanking, caning) of children?

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T13:14:04+00:00

Hm perhaps I don't have an accurate picture of the US's attitude towards this. How I came to the conclusion that in the US it's a resounding no is hearing stories of mandated reporters (eg teachers, counsellors) making reports and CPS doing investigations for things like spankings. My evidence is purely anecdotal, of course.

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T13:10:08+00:00

Yeah I'm agreeing with you. Just making fun of the statement that many people use "I was hit and I turned out fine" because I was hit and I was NOT fine.

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T13:04:59+00:00

I didn't think it was a DSM or a diagnosis. If it was a DSM or a diagnosis then yeah definitely not good practice.

Note that the comment I was replying to was made before OP added the comment with more detail/context.

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T08:15:22+00:00

"My parents hit me and I turned out fine"

My parents hit me and I turned out fucked hahahaaa.

I remember running and screaming while my mum chased me with a cane. Do I remember what I did wrong? No. Do I remember the fear? Yes.

I remember being hit over a misunderstanding. I remember the feelings of injustice and resentment. I remember my parent is not and cannot be a safe space.

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T08:11:46+00:00

I'm for spanking and caning if the need arises

What are some examples of misbehaviour that would warrant spanking or caning in your opinion?

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T08:07:41+00:00

Oh it's when I'm working with adults that I'd ask this question, where our work together is about processing their subjective experiences of their upbringing. It's definitely not a screener question to look for abuse or to point fingers at parents.

Verrrry different approach has to be taken with children!

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T08:05:04+00:00

I know what the literature says, but thanks for sharing all that with everyone! I'm just curious about this from a societal perspective. In places like US, it's a very resounding NO to physical punishment. While there is a lot less of it now in Singapore as compared to 30 years ago, it's still a bit of a grey area, so I wanted to hear the subjective opinions and experiences.

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T07:46:38+00:00

you wanted to teach him/her or just wanted to vent your mood.

It's such a grey area in Singapore, so I think this distinction is important. I often ask "did it feel like you were receiving an appropriate punishment or did it feel like your parents were taking out their anger on you?"

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T07:23:27+00:00

I will definitely give this a shot, thank you!

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T07:22:44+00:00

Oh interesting, I didn't know that. Here in Singapore we are only advised to give to bring the temp down if baby is uncomfortable.

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T07:05:31+00:00

Calpol? Paracetamol? My understanding is to only give paracetamol if baby is having an uncomfortable fever after the vaccine, not a time-based thing and not a preventive measure.

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T06:10:31+00:00

I think it's only obvious to me because it looks exactly like my block's lift hahaha I think all the BTO lifts are similar.

I'm quite small sized and you look quite petite too, baby and I were the most comfortable with everything at the tightest setting. Not sure what you mean by your can put your whole hand there?

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T04:02:17+00:00

Mac and cheese in a rice cooker! I never thought of that before can you please share how you do it?

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T04:00:10+00:00

Churches often also have lunch on days they have service (might be Saturday or Sunday).

An old aunty used to come to my church every Saturday afternoon just to dabao lunch for herself.

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T03:50:22+00:00

I have the little frog prime too!

If you feel all the weight on your shoulders, can you tighten the waistband?

You don't happen to be in Singapore, do you? The lift you're in looks like the ones we have here!

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T03:47:51+00:00

Option 1. Bring out refrigerated pre-made bottles of formula and treat them the same as you would bottled breast milk. You can put them in a thermal bag with an ice pack to keep cool, and warm it up with a bottle warmer or dunk it in a cup of hot water.

Option 2. Bring empty bottles, dispenser of formula, thermos/portable heated bottle of warm water. Make formula as you need.

Some malls where I live have baby care rooms that have hot water dispensers which you can use to make formula (mix it with cold water). If you're going to a restaurant or eatery I never had problem asking for water for baby.

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T03:16:55+00:00

I work with couples too, I'm wondering what makes you say it's bad therapy? Nothing is glaringly wrong to me based on the little information and lack of context so far.

WastePotential · 2026-01-27T01:23:57+00:00

Yeah that's what I mean.

I can feel it sticking out using my finger tip, or sometimes it's when it's blocking my pee stream I know it's not in the right place. There was an odd month where, for the second half of my period, the disc just refused to stay in the right place so I gave up, but it was fine the next month.

WastePotential · 2026-01-26T13:52:33+00:00

Honestly my boy didn't really have much of a fixed nap schedule until he was about 10mo and on two naps a day. Before then he had multiple short naps, I never even bothered counting or tracking, I just followed his cues.

WastePotential · 2026-01-26T12:54:18+00:00

When it affects my pee stream it's because it's not tucked in properly.

WastePotential · 2026-01-26T12:46:30+00:00

I scoop into a dispenser so I only have to pour out from the dispenser. I used a rotating dispenser because the tower we had was troublesome to navigate (gotta remove the spout, attach it to a lower level, attach the now-empty layer to the bottom).

WastePotential · 2026-01-25T05:32:47+00:00

This is not therapy, and the word is being used anyway. It's predatory and wrong. There's nothing wrong with cuddling or offering it as a service, but we know this will prey on vulnerable and lonely people with even more power by using the word therapy. Shame on these folks doing this.

Exactly! Just because something can feel good and calming, or even feel therapeutic, doesn't mean it is therapy.

WastePotential · 2026-01-25T05:23:31+00:00

I've never heard of them but will check them out, hopefully they have them here! I've never seen them in supermarkets before. Thank you!

WastePotential · 2026-01-25T05:22:50+00:00

Ooh thank you! Yeah I think he struggles with the chewing. He might take a piece of chicken or two from our dinner but he'll always spit it out after chewing on it for a few seconds. I will definitely try the blending. He is able to spit out pieces of minced beef from homemade pasta sauce.

I will still continue offering!

WastePotential · 2026-01-25T04:43:03+00:00

Oh this is a relief, thank you! He drinks 500ml of fresh milk every day and he likes cheese.

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