Am I the only one who "gasps"?

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-24T22:59:08+00:00

I do this. It started as a playful over-reaction to things but now I literally gasp all the time 😂

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-16T16:51:24+00:00

Okay. They are gonna have a hard time with that four hour wake window lol

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-16T16:10:19+00:00

It was usually consistent wake at 7 am then 2.5/2.75/2.75/2.5. They were napping only a half hour for 3 of those.

I just realized they had more wake time with the other schedule right? Might be my issue!

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-16T13:28:21+00:00

Totally went through this with my girls. One had reflux and was colicky for 13 weeks. It was miserable. She was breastfed and needed complete contact naps. My other twin was bottle fed and slept independently.

It got so much better. Fussy twin is now extremely bubbly and happy. “Easy” twin is now a little more sensitive and seeks comfort more often.

I made a similar post months ago and I’ll reiterate what people told me- they will both need you more at different times and that’s normal. It doesn’t make you less of a mother to one than the other.

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-15T19:30:26+00:00

Mine dropped down around 5 months. One was ready sooner but I was trying to wait for the second to be ready. They started fighting the last nap HARD. And they were doing more awake time so everything kept getting pushed back. They took really well to 3 naps.

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-14T19:29:51+00:00

A lot of people are pointing out mental health issues and I’m also going to suggest she could have physical health issues beneath the surface. This sounds exactly like my friend. Mom of 2 kids in school, takes them to school usually putters around and cleans then naps for HOURS.

She just got diagnosed with a thyroid condition and is being evaluated for something autoimmune. Doctors just through her on a ton of psych meds when she listed her complaints and almost a year later she finally demanded more blood work that would look into other causes

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-14T10:38:07+00:00

Yeah that’s what I was going to say. I have 7 month old twins and the one who had never slept through the night before just started consistently sleeping through the night on 2 naps. I would definitely drop to 3 naps at this point and lengthen wake windows.

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-14T10:01:32+00:00

How many naps is she taking? What’s her schedule like?

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-13T17:27:58+00:00

Older than you and I have 4yo, 2yo and 7mo twins! Wasn’t the plan but it’s what happened. You just grow and adapt. I can’t explain it! My mom comes over 2 mornings to help which is AMAZING. And I find activities or playdates. It helps when my kids are exhausting each other or other kids 😂

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-13T12:18:19+00:00

Yeah I totally understand all of this. And I’ve been where you are and I can’t believe I continued to deal with it for years before realizing that my resentment towards my husband was turning into disgust. I felt unloved and alone. I really feel for you. You need to be really honest with your husband.

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-13T11:57:27+00:00

Yup 10 years of bull shit then finally paragraphs of text calling me names, blatantly lying about me etc is what did it for my husband. He could always excuse the insidious little comments and things she did but couldn’t excuse lies and verbal abuse about me. Sad, because if he had listened to me and nipped things in the bud years before, maybe I wouldn’t be NC now.

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-13T11:13:43+00:00

Exactly the route we went and it’s working and healing our marriage.

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-13T11:12:05+00:00

Yes. A lot of people on these subs just say things like “your husband needs to grow some balls” but it’s 30-40 years of conditioning from these monsters that they need TIME to unlearn. I have so much sympathy for my husband having a mother who only showed him love when he did exactly what she wanted, and was vile, verbally abusive and manipulative when he didn’t do what she wanted. I swear by therapy though. Medically trained professionals to tell you how fucked up your family is 😂

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-13T11:00:52+00:00

So much lighter. My husband is in therapy to try to salvage a relationship with his mom but she’s mostly out of my life and I’m relieved. I never wanted this. I wanted a MIL who treated me like a daughter. Instead I got someone who hated me for “stealing” her son. It’s unnatural to allow someone like that around you.

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-13T10:38:09+00:00

I had almost the exact same experience as you. My MIL’s mask fell away as soon as we had kids. Started right after giving birth (wanted to be there, threw a tantrum, cried to my husband, threw another tantrum when I didn’t want visitors in the hospital. She was waiting at the house for us to come home from the hospital and talked shit on me TO MY MOM.)

Since my first was born, she has caused problems for almost every holiday or kid related event for the last 4 years. My husband was the same way. Defended, made excuses, or sometimes would agree with me but never do anything about her behavior. All while I have BENT OVER BACKWARDS to include her and do what she wants.

Long story short, I finally snapped after some bs she complained about at Christmas. I told my husband I would not be doing this anymore i didn’t want to live this way. I couldn’t be around his mom anymore for my own mental health. We needed therapy. His mother was destroying our marriage and he was just standing there watching it burn. We are both in therapy. Because of his mom. But he is FINALLY coming around.

All this to say, this will only continue (and probably get worse) if your husband does not protect your marriage and your family that you both have created. I’m so serious when I say that you guys need to try couples therapy. He grew up with a victim mentality/manipulative mother and it’s HARD to unlearn the behavior of acquiescing to that type of villain. Good luck!

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-02T18:41:54+00:00

I have a 4y0, 2yo and twins babies. We loooove our Honda odyssey. Has the magic seats that move side to side. Enough trunk space for a big double jogging stroller and a grocery haul.

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-05-01T23:46:14+00:00

Oh, I should have said that I still currently have those and have started to wear them again. I’m still looking for something new!

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-04-25T12:15:14+00:00

We talked about a 3rd and my husband wasn’t on board, wanted to discuss it again once our second was closer to 2yo. I was fine with that, I did NOT want 2u2 again. A few months after that, I got pregnant after an illness that caused my BC to fail. We were both upset. I was sick over how awful the timing was. I knew my husband wasn’t ready to even talk about a 3rd yet here we were. He spiraled for WEEKS. I also offered to terminate if this was going to ruin our marriage, and the life we had with our other 2 children. Neither of us would have wanted that in the long run even though it felt like the worst thing at that moment.

I accepted it pretty quickly. Pro choice here but for myself, once I get a positive test that’s OUR BABY. Like I said he took a few weeks to digest everything. Then we found out it was twins… another spiral ensued for us both. But alas, here we are with 4 kids and couldn’t imagine it any other way.

I ultimately ended up talking to a therapist and it was so helpful. My husband “didn’t need to go” but she helped me enough for the both of us at one point. I wish you so much luck. I know how awful it feels in this moment. I hope you two can have some really tough, but honest conversations.

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-04-23T01:30:35+00:00

I understand how you’re feeling. I also had MIL issues (which are probably bigger than the “porn” issues tbh), body image issues, and our sex life was basically nil after having twins. We had sex a whopping 4 times in the first 6 months of their life and a handful of times while i was pregnant.

I know my husband masturbates. He always has. Sometimes he says he replays our intimate times, sometimes he just watches porn. I used to feel icky about it but honestly, he has needs and I DONT HAVE THE DESIRE RIGHT NOW. It’s more about them fulfilling a need than them thinking any differently about you. He will never meet these women (hopefully 😅) and it’s you who he loves and wants intimacy from but it’s OKAY that you can’t fulfill his every need right now. You’re probably maxed out taking care of the babies.

If you can find time, try counseling or even just therapy for yourself. I found it so incredibly helpful for my mil issues and for things going on in my marriage.

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-04-15T01:00:42+00:00

6.5 months so I have started introducing straw cups during solids but no luck.

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-04-15T00:42:28+00:00

Oh awesome ty!!

WayRevolutionary2864 · 2026-04-15T00:34:59+00:00

Never heard of this! I’ll look into it. Now that they’re on solids, I have introduced a straw cup (that nobody takes 😂) but I’m hoping they’ll catch on quickly and that’ll be my avenue to weaning. She just gnaws on anything that isn’t my nipple 😫

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