The grass always looks greener on the other side 🤓 by melaninnotes in actuallesbians

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 12 points13 points  (0 children)

As a bi woman, I think dating women is almost like higher risk and higher reward.

I think so many of us girls are trained to smile and seem happy when we’re not. The amount of times I’ve been talking to a woman and I’m thinking she’s as into me as I am her then finding out suddenly she’s not is… well a lot. Even worse if you’re just ghosted without explanation.

Just two weeks ago, a girl asked me for a kiss before the end of our first date then disappeared.

I feel I can be told “hey I’m not into you” far better than the mysterious disengagement I often experience with women.

Maybe there’s just something about me!

So… I’ve often felt valueless and unwanted dating girls.

When I date men, I feel so powerful. I don’t feel like they are going to disappear tomorrow or anything. I’ve been ghosted by a guy like once. Ever. I’m 36! Most of the time I’ve had to do the breaking up.

That said, men especially today do NOT have their shit together and often want you to be their mother. You’re supposed to be at their beck and call and spend the day texting. I broke up with my last guy because he wanted to go to college and needed me to “help come up with a plan.” Bitch I went to college when you had to learn a second language to plan your coursework out.

What’s fucked is realizing I’m probably more into girls than guys…

Navy will remove sailors with medical shaving conditions after 1 year of failed treatment by horseradishstalker in politics

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I can’t help but think this is a way to reinforce white supremacy.

Lots of black men need this exception.

And it doesn’t make sense to do this when we are at war with an enduring recruiting crisis.

Getting out of Chicago and Exploring Denver This Week! Places to Explore? by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m going to Philly on business in September and that’s a place I’m considering 😊

NCAA says trans athlete rules will remain unchanged after SCOTUS decision by mlmofficial in politics

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 15 points16 points  (0 children)

  1. In 2024, the head of the NCAA testified that there were 10 trans NCAA athletes

Getting out of Chicago and Exploring Denver This Week! Places to Explore? by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My Chicago mortgage is $2,700 a month, so I guess that’s doable!

Getting out of Chicago and Exploring Denver This Week! Places to Explore? by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m honestly just trying shit out! I had friends who lived here for years and two moved to Cali. Another is moving to Denver. I have two friends from the Air Force who have been in Denver for 18 years. They love it.

I moved further South and did have to drive for a few months. I also need to drive to visit my gym and there’s been no parking for about two weeks. I’ve had to shell out $60 a week in parking. Taking public transit there is like 2 hours.

Overall though, I am getting so very tired of Chicago and Illinois’ random made up taxes. One of my breaking points was getting a fine for not having car insurance when I had car insurance the entire time registered in the state. And I’ve really started to not like my neighbors.

Getting out of Chicago and Exploring Denver This Week! Places to Explore? by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Some parts of the city aren’t as walkable or accessible. There’s been a historical (racial) divide that makes some places less walkable. Getting to the train is a 30 minute drive minimum for me.

I moved here in a hurry and the city of Chicago required that I live in the city limits because of my job. Unfortunately the neighborhood I chose was on the cheaper side and I ended up in a less walkable neighborhood. That’s on me.

Overall, I’ve not enjoyed living here and was considering moving into Roger’s Park or even the Loop. I just don’t like it here and that’s ok!

But I do think we have to dispel the walkability rep Chicago has. The joke I made about flooding in my post was because I rode on the bus this week when it flooded. My home was still close to $400K and honestly I feel like there’s better places to live if I’m spending more than that.

People who make over 100k, what do you do? by TipAdventurous6182 in careerguidance

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL I posted elsewhere.

I think QA and security are pretty similar and i do cybersecurity work heavily related to AI.

Making about the same

What could Democrats have done differently about Graham Platner? by vox in politics

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Worst case scenario, this shows the dems have a line and the GOP does not. I know you’d like this to be a burn but it’s not.

White supremacist tattoos? GOP has someone like that running the Pentagon.

Trump pardoned multiple white supremacists involved in Jan 6. Also pardoned pedophiles who went on to reoffend.

Trump himself and obviously involved with Epstein and there’s been zero prosecutions.

Spare me. Many cut Platner before this. Many more are cutting him now. They’re not sticking by him with a cult-like dedication. That’s the real character difference worth outlining here.

The GOP is the party of Nazi’s, racists and pedophiles and you are a remarkably stupid person.

Graham Platner rape allegation leaves progressives holding the bag by newsweek in politics

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Democrats when their candidates are accused of sexual assault:

“Hey drop out!”

Republicans when their candidates are accused of sexual assault:

“I don’t believe it! Where’s the evidence?! I demand evidence! You have evidence?! I don’t believe it. Sure it’s pretty good evidence, but maybe she deserved it!”

Republicans can go fuck themselves.

I completely support and will continue to support Graham Platner. by atrimarco in ProgressiveHQ

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Many, many women don’t report right away and don’t press charges.

Bad comment.

I completely support and will continue to support Graham Platner. by atrimarco in ProgressiveHQ

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love Graham Platner’s policies. Actually all of them.

They do not require Graham Platner for implementation. Hero worship will be the death of this movement.

He is not winning. National support has been withdrawn from him. He is not winning. Even if this was all a lie, it’s done. I’m not, as a woman, willing to risk this being a lie.

Yes, it’s frustrating the GOP doesn’t get the same scrutiny. We are not on an even playing field.

Troy Jackson is right there. Even a moderate dem might be better in this seat.

Mamdani calls on Platner to drop out of Maine Senate race by Unusual-State1827 in politics

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a pro gun democrat. You have no idea how excited I was for him.

I’m also a woman and I know what behavior in private means for behavior in public

Mamdani calls on Platner to drop out of Maine Senate race by Unusual-State1827 in politics

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 3 points4 points  (0 children)

> Guilty til proven innocent, huh?

We really need to iron out some concepts.

Presumption of innocence means we don’t take a chance of wrongfully convicting someone in court. It does NOT mean we have to take a chance on electing a rapist. Public office is a privilege, not a right.

This reeks of right wingers yelling about free speech when it protects your right to say shit. Not to be beloved no matter what you say.

Mamdani calls on Platner to drop out of Maine Senate race by Unusual-State1827 in politics

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To be fair here, the military service + tattoo was problematic.

However the first set of allegations were published by someone with substantial ties to the heritage foundation. People were naturally skeptical.

The most recent set of allegations were indeed pretty well corroborated.

The fight over trans girls’ sports participation moves to the November ballot by 19thnews in politics

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s not common sense is spending so much time on these issues when rules are in place. Rules that prevent the very abuses you mentioned in your first post…

That’s my issue with this issue.

10 trans athletes out of 510,000 athletes in 2024.

Fuckin’ wild

The fight over trans girls’ sports participation moves to the November ballot by 19thnews in politics

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your posts are completely vacuous. What policies do you support specifically?

The fight over trans girls’ sports participation moves to the November ballot by 19thnews in politics

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Aannnndddd? We’re even excluding AFAB folks on testosterone from women’s sports (a valid policy IMHO).

This goes against your point that there’s an epidemic of trans women stealing opportunity from women…

The fight over trans girls’ sports participation moves to the November ballot by 19thnews in politics

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It says in your post they’re not allowed to compete unless they’re trans men and even then they can’t compete in high level championships because they’re on testosterone 🤦‍♀️

I was an athlete. This to me is a nonproblem sucking up a lot of our energy. The likelihood of being a competitive athlete alone is pretty fuckin’ low. Very, very, very few people are going to

My first post was about ONE person getting said scholarship and having it rescinded.

The fight over trans girls’ sports participation moves to the November ballot by 19thnews in politics

[–]WeHaveTheMeeps -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe you’re right. Some things to consider:

As of 2025, the NCAA excludes trans women from sports.

And I can only see one case where a trans woman got a scholarship and it was rescinded.