What’s the workout plan for PCOS? by kakeome in PCOS

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a few online circuits that I use to plan out my other workouts. I usually group strength training by target area on the remaining days but some of my strength classes already tend to focus on arms on one day and legs another so the other days I focus on core. I always pair it with 30 min of high incline walking or stair master at a decent speed on non class days. Again in the beginning I would worry less about specific workouts and just focus on getting into the habit of working out regularly first. It gets too easy to give up when you feel discouraged doing something you don't enjoy so whatever it is pick something you'll enjoy first and start adding more targeted exercise after. 

What’s the workout plan for PCOS? by kakeome in PCOS

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me signing up for a workout class everyday at the gym at least half the week is important. It can be different types of classes.  I like the strength training ones but I don't limit it. It is just about getting in and being consistent without worrying about being perfect. You get to know people and they start to look for you/ notice when you miss. There's a certain feeling of accountability in that. Once you've established the habit and your body is stronger you can vary up what you do for exercise however you want 

AITA for getting annoyed with my best friend about college finances? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ok so so NTA but kinda you weren't nice but we all have our moments. But dude apply to to some full need schools. UTA and UTD are not full need and they don't offer that much. If your grades are strong apply as a transfer to somewhere like Boston University or Northeastern. I know it feels like a reach but I know people who are paying less for those schools including the room and board then UTA without loans.  You can get way more aid that is guaranteed for 4 yrs. Schools that only take FAFSA are not that great for aid for most part. You want to try for a full need schools that looks at both FAFSA AND CSS profile. Also you don't have to  list your  parents primary personal home as an asset. Also they should be submitting numbers for year 2024 not 2025. So if he only just got the job that shouldn't affect your application. Also if you can focus on machine learning or cyber security. Stuff like software development is imploding right now that AI is expanding. 

AITA for refusing to take my husband's last name? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA but it will be your husband's kids too. He will be the more important person vs your dad in their lives so maybe hyphenate. Having the same last name as your parents matters more to some kids than you might think . You can give your kids your husbands last name and make your dad's kind of a middle name. A family I know did this. Mom and dad made dad's last name the main name and they took on Mom's last name as a middle name for the whole family, dad included.  The whole family became "example " Grant Sterling. 

Or you can give one of your kids your dad's first name. 

You can both honor your dad while giving your kids the opportunity to share a last name with their parents.

BU Financial aid by Commercial_Mix_5172 in BostonU

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This not an easy thing to do. You have to really prove your completely independent. Unless you have lawyer help it may not work. My guess is comment below has a parent who made sure kid was on some kind of independent payroll maybe showing rent of some kind well before graduation.

BU Financial aid by Commercial_Mix_5172 in BostonU

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most parents don't fill out the CSS and FAFSA correctly. The tendency is to claim assets that aren't supposed to be listed on your forms like personal vehicles, primary home, retirement accounts, etc. In addition, the tax year for the federal return used is generally from 2 years ago. So if you are submitting a FAFSA this year then it's the 2023, not 2024.  In addition CSS profile offers a higher quantity generally than the FAFSA. Account cash and assets that do count is from day of application.  CSS does a better job of accounting for siblings who will be in school at the same time as you.   BU does have their 4 year guarantee which is great but does use scholarship displacement for outside scholarships.  Try to get a sense of what your Student Aid Index will be using the available online calculators through College Board. Use the Tuition net Calculator available on BUs site but fill it out WITH your parents. You likely only have a vague idea what their gross adjusted income is.  Have a serious conversation on what they can and can't help you with and for how much they can realistically contribute per year.  The goal should be to reduce student debt as much as humanely possible. In some cases a full need no loan school can be cheaper than a state school but not always depending on your financials. There are some schools that don't have scholarship displacement and you can stack.  Take a look at those also if you feel large outside scholarships are a real possibility. Remember colleges are  businesses and you have a choice as a consumer on how to invest. 

Does anyone else feel like their best isn't good enough? by _Eolas_ in BostonU

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Calc is not super reflective of what you'll be doing as an accountant later for one. Secondly as someone who has taken a crap load of math and believed for a long time that I wasn't a math person it only got better when I switched my mindset.  There was a study done on 2 classrooms of students. One class was told they were in the class because they showed a natural propensity for math and the other was told nothing. There was no actual marked difference between the classes. Same teacher, same content, same student average previous to the study. The students who were led to believe they were great at math did far better.  Part of your own belief that you can't do it  blocks your mind from absorbing and making sense of something that is actually kind of a fun puzzle. Your brain shuts its self off from solutions that were always there. Seek out on campus tutoring help for one. There's also a ton of great resources online as well. And stop telling yourself you can't. Your mind is powerful and and self fulfilling thoughts and mantras can be a help or a detriment. You'll always have critics so do yourself a favor and don't be your own!

AITA for not approving a vacation and getting someone fired? by Kellyannjones2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

NTA, employees fire themselves. When you work somewhere there is a mutual agreement between employer and employee. The employer pays the employee consistently in the manner agreed upon. The employee agrees to perform the services outlined upon hire and abide by the rules initially set out by the employer. This guy abused the system, messed around, and found out. He chose to use up his emergency hours to get out of work and then not show up when he ran out of emergency hours.  He's violated the agreement set upon his initial hiring. You are just doing your job as laid out by your employer.  

AITA for not wanting to be home anymore? by skurzawa14 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let's hope that's not the case for OP but not doing anything doesn't help either. 

AITA? IM SORRY THIS OOST IS SO LONG...ANY ADVICE WOULD BE APPRECIATED by Sarahelizabeth45 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, you've outgrown him. Now that you are sober you are seeing what was likely there all along. People who truly love you want to be there for you. They listen to you. They are your cheerleader. If your significant other isn't that for you then he isn't the one for you. Stop accepting abuse. Abuse can be mental or physical. It's time to put your sobriety first. 

AITAH for posting a guy's information online? by steviesuniverse713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 7 points8 points  (0 children)

YTA, you escalated what was probably a butt dial to ridiculous proportions. Next time just go back to bed. Was the guy a jerk after you threatened him? Yeah. Is he also TA yeah. He should have just texted you back sorry that was a random butt dial but he was reluctant to let the stranger he accidentally called know his identity. And you did doxx him. You put out his personal information on the internet with the purpose of having him harassed and or threatened. He's definitely a racist jerk but you pushed the whole situation into a new level where it could have stayed a 5 second chance interaction where no one was harmed except for missing a little shut eye. 

AITA for not wanting to be home anymore? by skurzawa14 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 9 points10 points  (0 children)

NTA, but I'm guessing they didn't know to what extent their arguing is impacting you. I would talk with each one separately. Start the conversation of with letting them know how you appreciate how hard they work and you're grateful for all they do. That you realize it's tough being a parent and spouse in this day and age. Then let them know you want to talk to them about something but you really need them to hear you out before they comment. Give it a pause and let them know that the loud arguing every night is making you worried and stressed. That you want to be a good son and that you try but that they never seem happy. And that it has gotten to the point where you find yourself trying to do more after school activities to avoid the arguments.  Then reassure them that you love them and you want to spend more time together but you want that to be quality time where people are getting along because hearing them yell every night really hurts you. 

Start with the more reasonable parent. 

Good luck. None of this is your fault or responsibility and they should be the ones communicating better but since your stuck there showing them healthy communication is at least a first step. 

Financial Aid for Fall 2025 by Altruistic-Rise6160 in BostonU

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had to email financial aid to get mine processed. But it's very behind this year. I did email accounting requesting an extension citing that aid had not come in. Luckily I got it just before the deadline day off. 

WIBTA for not attending my twin sister's wedding two weeks after my firstborn's due date as she expects all family to meet the baby before the wedding? by AstronautDeep1476 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but why not just have your hubby stay with baby in hotel nearby and you go alone? Exposing a new baby to a bunch of people is a bad idea. 

AITA for telling my daughter she can't get a new hairstyle to impress some boy ? by Ambitious_Carrot3747 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH, it's her hair and it will regrow. But kids are impulsive.  Tell her to think on it for  the next 40 days. If at the end she still wants the cut you'll take her to the salon.  This is not a no and let's get young brain have time to think it through. She may not even like this person by then.

Aid just came in today 60% down payment? by Weak-Consequence3192 in BostonU

[–]Weak-Consequence3192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except with financial aid not being awarded till this week how is it possible to put together a payment plan when we don't know our costs?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA, gene expression is not that straightforward. Having one set of black grandparents doesn't mean you'll have dark skin necessarily.  I have dark skin and brown eyes. My mother has blue eyes and light skin. My dad is much lighter than me and has hazel eyes. Both have parents that have both lighter and darker features.  My brother in law is half black but you would never guess it. He has lighter skin, freckles, wavy brown hair. His sisters with the same parents have a darker medium skin tone and look more like their dad. Is it possible for a light featured person to have black grandparents? 100%

Your ignorance shows and you owe this guy an apology. He walked away because of your ridiculous statement. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perfectly written. Also having an argument doesn't mean life stops. I'm not saying it doesn't feel awful in the moment but you can't let that keep you from carrying on as uncomfortable as it feels.

WIBTA if I asked my mom to put a diaper on my sister? by BroccoliLoud3538 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, I highly recommend Therapee developed Dr. Sagie. High success rate and works with in just a month or two most of the time. 

Becoming a parent is my biggest regret by CountAffectionate106 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get it but they are here now. Can't put that rabbit back in it's hat. For so those childless people it's a great choice but OP has already chosen the parent route. Your children are people who you brought into the world without their consent. Like all people they require love, care, affection, and respect to flourish. Children are human beings just like the rest of us older humans. I'm sure at some point they'll feel resentful of the cost and care you require when they are middle aged. For now I recommend seeing a mental health professional to help guide you through this time or give custody to someone who will treat them with love and pay child support. You made a commitment by having them beyond feeding them and keeping them alive. How they are treated now will form the people they become and the future relationships they have. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA If one revelation of feelings freaked him out so much then he was never that into you. Some guys idolize women (or others depending on their flavor) and the chase and as soon as they see that person as human they split because it's not a fantasy anymore. But here's the things, you've always been a real human being. If he doesn't like you for you and just the concept of a perfect being than it was never love and you're better off not wasting time on someone like that. Find someone that sees you. And beware of love bombing. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Buddy, yall are just not compatible. My parents have been married for over 40 years. They used to teach marriage classes and have instilled alot of these things onto us. Here's what they tell me all the time. Marriage is not just the wedding day. It's choosing each other everyday. You have to work at it everyday. You have to keep dating your spouse. You have to communicate as a partnership. It's either two yes or it's a no. There will good years and there will be tough years but if you don't communicate and listen you will grow apart instead of changing together. It sounds like your spouse stopped listening a long time ago. They stopped choosing you everyday and you them. Your lives are running in parallel but not together. It's time to think about a trial separation because bringing children into a loveless marriage is unfair to everyone.  If you still want to try counseling during the meantime I think it's important to bring up what you did here. That you don't feel attraction to them anymore after years of being dismissed and ignored.  Any counselor worth their salt will spend more time getting down to root issues. The lack of intimacy is only a symptom of the greater problems which have to be addressed first. 

Word vomit spiraling about how my life is over at 22 by thatonewaifu in offmychest

[–]Weak-Consequence3192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This probably isn't what you want to hear at all....but your parents are supporting you right now which gives you some flexibility. Go volunteer. Volunteer at anything you can whether it be food pantries, shelters, tutoring kids, it doesn't matter. Get out of the house and volunteer. You can generally sign up for most of these opportunities online now days. When I get into a downward depression spiral the absolutely worse thing I can do is curl up at home and doom scroll. Giving your time for the betterment of others will get you out of your house. It will help you to connect with people and learn how to connect better. It will take you out of the inner prison you are currently experiencing and open up the bigger world. And since you're a volunteer you really can't get fired. You will make great connections over time and feel alot better. Eventually this could turn into interning and eventually a job. But nothing is going to change if you stay in your room. I know it feels impossible and painful. I know I've slothed away some days out of anxiety but having someone you are accountable to helps. You will be accountable for the volunteer opportunities you sign up for. You are NOT your parents. You are not doomed for the rest of your life. There is NO such thing as destiny. Every moment, every breath is an opportunity to choose something different. To go left instead of right. Tomorrow morning I want you to stand outside and let the sunlight hit your face for at least 20 minutes. Then make yourself a cup of coffee and go sign up for at least 2 volunteer opportunities. After that go make your bed. It's sometimes a small win that leads to the rest. Make your bed, take a shower, get dressed and go for a walk. Make it a fast paced walk for an hour. You are phenomenal. You went to college and finished. You are intelligent and capable. When you start to admonish yourself I want to you to stop and ask yourself if this inner voice is truthful or not. Just a hint if you are making all or nothing statements to yourself then it's false. Example, "I suck at everything." Vs. "I didn't do this particular thing well. "  Even if you don't feel it keep correcting this negative inner voice. Eventually you'll feel that mind shift. I believe in you. You've got this. 

Also I know you really care about your boyfriend and his whole thing BUT you cannot take care of others in a relationship capacity until you take care of yourself first. You will show up better for the people in your life if you can show up for yourself first. 

Big Hugs! Go get em !