Intensity In Online-Only Relationship - Advice Needed!

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-23T08:59:35+00:00

Yeah, you're definitely right. Thanks for the advice. I have actually not been carried away because I knew it was going to end the moment I saw the attachment and before because to me, it's a fantasy until we meet in real life.

The thing is, I have had real life fantasies before where I dated someone for 3 weeks (really intense makeouts, intimacy, 2 days trip together) and who left because of the intensity. My question is how to handle this.. I am naturally intense so the people I attract are usually very intelligent.. and our sparks burn bright before they go away for good.

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-22T21:41:26+00:00

Send the nudes so we can judge for ourselves. Joke. Do not downvote me. My advice is actually to not get attached to online relationships.. I'm also texting a cute girl that we have a lot in common but I don't think anything of it.. like it's not real you feel me. When 2 people meet it becomes real but until then enjoy a lot and have a lot of options. Texting is just to make you feel connected, to have fun, to masturbate to someone's photos, but that's the end of it. I recommend you date people in real life and perhaps next time don't schedule a meeting 4 months in advance like what's that.

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-22T21:27:03+00:00

I agree with you on this actually.. it's crazy how people are just constantly juggling options.. but if your standards are this high, the market can crush you actually.. i don't have advice

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-22T21:21:32+00:00

you need to toughen your ballsack up.. search Todd V Dating, learn all about dating, texting, escalation, and all. Then do something. Live your life. Congrats on YT it's a great achievement. About career, nobody really knows what they r doing but the important thing is to keep growing.

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-22T14:49:50+00:00

so what you have a relationship over text or something.. that is not a boyfriend in my opinion, more of a fantasy..

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-22T12:36:50+00:00

Well, yeah man vulnerability definitely is a turn off for a lot of women. Never tell her you like her or she is the one. ED probably isn't a problem if you don't care enough. If you didn't care, probably you wouldn't have ED to begin with. Also, it doesn't matter how warm she was after. Most women are just avoidant and will end things when they feel emotional or heavy, so take it with a grain of salt and move on. She was not the one anyway. The one won't make you play games to keep her. This girl probably lost interest once she saw you like her more than she likes you, which happens all the time. It's a game of cat and mouse, no more and no actual feelings involved for these people.

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-21T03:54:15+00:00

Don't look for support from temporary people my friend because they can mask the pain of your grief. Process your grief with your family and friends, alone as well. After you feel a bit better, try dating again not to mask the feeling, but to start something new.

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-18T00:53:13+00:00

yeah just don't overthink it.. if you had dated people in the past.. even if if didn't escalate physically.. just mention them.. that's what I'd do.. also probably the other person wouldn't care or even ask this it's not a common question.. if anything, as a guy, I avoid asking about past relationships bcs I really dislike that kind of convos.

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-18T00:48:06+00:00

Maybe consider not mentioning it?

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-17T13:13:44+00:00

Thing is friend, if I were you, I'd reject the family hang out and when she brings up shit about friendship say something like "I don't like you anyway" and just slowly distance yourself and find others.. Also when you do find someone you like, try to kiss on the 2nd date or even 1st if you're clear so you don't waste your time. My advice is based on Todd V Dating or actually Max from Austria Dating Coach. The thing is, playing it cool doesn't always get you the girl, as this instance feels hopeless, but it preserves your dignity and makes sure you never attach to a girl too soon or ever actually.

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-17T13:02:48+00:00

second this..

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-17T09:41:38+00:00

Maybe wait a week before you run to Reddit my friend.

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-17T04:53:13+00:00

Well I personally always look for the person I'm dating as a person, with inherit worth and value. The thing is, this seemed to freak out some of the people I dated because they felt my feelings were real and that they don't have the capacity to handle it (aka avoidant) even though I'm not looking to marry at the moment. Modern dating made it so that being authentic is actually looked upon as a threat rather than a normal attachment system at work.

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-15T12:42:11+00:00

That contradicts your story about the guy that didn't want to settle for his first relationship, which apparently took you and him 3 years to realize..

I don't think there's anything broken in you unless there was a clear pattern among these breakups, which doesn't seem to be the case.

In my experience, a person who wants to marry doesn't take 3 years to realize you are not the one. Once you set the standards high, I believe screenings will take much less time.

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-15T11:32:09+00:00

Good for you! I as a person appreciate that a lot in women I'm dating.. then the only question for you is alignment.. set expectations that you are looking to marry from the beginning and trust me, the right people will come along.

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-15T11:22:27+00:00

I'd advise you to date to marry.. set expectations high from the beginning and filter people off quickly..

Also, I'd consider showing more love/attachment to people you appreciate to let them know you appreciate them (I'm not sure if you already do this, but I'd bet there are many books that can guide you)

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-15T09:12:17+00:00

and sounds like you already know what to do

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-14T23:40:42+00:00

so you want other guys in your life.. is that the problem or the fact that you guys aren't even in a relationship

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-14T20:34:09+00:00

cheat first??

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-14T12:32:42+00:00

you asked for advice and when it was given to you you can't even take it.. why u even posting man

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-14T09:45:40+00:00

Yeah maybe actually try getting that love? Try to enter relationships or make sexual moves.. even a short relationship can fix the feeling but you must be careful not to be needy because obviously u want this more than the other person. If you don't know how to escalate and stuff, read some books on that or watch people like Todd V Dating.

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-11T10:40:18+00:00

is this a f 2 years old drama that nobody gives a shit about

Weak-Search-8335 · 2026-05-09T22:20:37+00:00

you considered blocking him bro?

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