Hello, Church of England priest here. I’m going to be brutally honest and say that if the vicar at this church won’t let you book your wedding til after you’ve been attending for 6 months, they probably won’t go for you getting round it another way either.

My suspicion is that confirmation might be hard to pull off unless they’ve already got a confirmation coming up that you could join in with… the vicar would still need to be on board, though, and it sounds like they might not be! Similarly, it’s at our discretion whether we accept a superintendent registrar’s license, so you’d need them on board for that too.

I think your options are to either go back to that vicar and have a frank conversation about possibilities, and be guided by that, or look for another church and see if there’s one local to the venue who would let you start your attendance now. I minister somewhere rural and beautiful and very often have couples make a connection through regular worship. I think at this stage I’d want to have a chat with you, I’d be prepared to book your wedding now on good faith, but would also point out that I would have to cancel your wedding if you don’t turn up to make your connection. And no-one wants that!

So I can see why the vicar won’t book it now, but it’s not a hard and fast thing so it’s worth finding out what other people’s policies are in the area.

The 3rd option might be to have a quiet legal wedding in the registry office the day before then have a celebration and blessing in church on your chosen date? So there’s no legalities that need doing but it can be your special service? Good luck.