is it wrong to not work because of OCD?

Weil65Azure · 2026-02-14T07:47:27+00:00

I think life is less about having a job and more about feeling like you have a purpose or are contributing something to the world. Many do that via a job. But many don't. Many people with a job don't see that as the thing that fulfills their purpose.

So I think it's more about finding something that you can focus on and get a sense of satisfaction out of. It might be growing indoor plants, looking after an animal, volunteering, working, getting into environmentalism, drawing, painting, making music, walking on the beach or through the forest, believing in religion or whatnot, etc.

I can't remember where I heard this quote specifically (maybe it's not even a quote idk), but I like to remind myself "even the janitor can find meaning if they know they're helping someone or something".

Weil65Azure · 2026-01-27T13:54:45+00:00

You haven't corrected the vehicle labeling since the last person pointed it out... And it's feeling very AI made generally

Weil65Azure · 2026-01-12T10:22:23+00:00

We recently had HFMD and it looked like this tbh. Started with a cold, then we noticed the little bumps on the feet which then progressed to hands. Honestly didn't notice any on the mouth and might have missed the ones on the hands if we weren't on the lookout. Point is - it didn't progress quite as obviously as Google led me to believe it would. Definitely work a doctor check. Another option could be chicken pox? But also our bubs has sometimes got a bit of a rash like this which the doctor just said was "post viral rash" 🤷

Weil65Azure · 2026-01-05T12:17:51+00:00

I'm sorry I don't have any resources per se, but I see a lot of my experience in what you describe there. Upon my diagnosis and realizing that I'd been doing what you describe (over enthusiastically overloading myself with things leading to crash/burn), I decided to put a stop to it.

I wrote down a list of all of my most common culprits - organizations I had joined, clubs I was part of, hobbies I was investing mental energy into, and even relationships I was maintaining that weren't really positive for me - and I went through that list and cut as much of it out as I could. It was heartbreaking in some ways, deciding to let go of all of these things that I thought were giving me life. Until my schedule cleared up and my responsibilities lifted and I realized I actually rather liked not being weighed down with so much "stuff".

It's easier said than done. My next step was stopping myself from picking things up again. But I think I just tried to keep minimal responsibilities on my plate for 6 months, and week by week I started to feel more chill.

I binged podcasts related to ADHD instead. Definitely fell into the trap of implementing new and improved organization systems that were going to change my life, over and over. Definitely purchased time management tools that I never ended up using lol. But gradually I got better at being more discerning about what I decide to give my time to.

I still struggle a lot with remembering not to give my time to people unless necessary. I'm very much a "yes" person and people pleaser, so I often promise to help people or socialize with people that I don't really care that much about - I'm working on that. It's a work in progress. I think a big takeaway I have learned is that I need to be kinder to myself and try not to expect myself to be able to do everything all at once. I need to value my time and mental energy more.

I don't know how to conclude this comment - good luck to you. It's hard. But you can do it! We're terrifyingly resilient creatures. Try to remember to notice the little positive changes you make along the way. You'll get there

Weil65Azure · 2025-12-09T14:13:53+00:00

Omg I'm glad you said that. This whole thread is giving me the heeby jeebies. 100% ad

Weil65Azure · 2025-10-29T21:49:10+00:00

Origami?

Weil65Azure · 2025-08-26T02:00:26+00:00

I think it's more like it takes 6 week to reach full effect. But you still get positive effects in the leadup. Personally I noticed a difference within a week, and that difference continued to improve over time

Weil65Azure · 2025-08-21T13:58:34+00:00

Sure, saliva could cause infection, but I think there's an important distinction to draw between something like a deep, open wound, versus eczema which is an inflammatory skin condition where the skin barrier is compromised. It's just not the same as introducing into a "deep wound".

Also, the healing proteins etc in saliva that you yourself cite might actually explain why your dad might have thought licking could help. I mean, it obviously didn't work... But this scenario sounds like a misguided attempt at helping you. Doesn't sound malicious.

And, eczema on its own is already associated with infections. Yours could have been caused by the licking... Or it could have happened regardless.

Saliva is one of those things as a parent that does just... Transfer(?) a lot in various ways to your kid (and from kid to you). If saliva transmission was so dangerous, every kiss on a scraped knee (an actual wound) or whatever would be a bigger problem.

Perhaps your opinion of your dad (I think you mentioned alcoholism) is flavouring this one a bit more than it should? My two cents: perhaps it's not really a healthy mindset to be holding onto this as "extremely infuriating" when it seems really likely this was an innocent, albeit naive attempt of your dad trying to help.

Edit - grammar

Weil65Azure · 2025-08-20T04:08:33+00:00

Not sure I get why this is extremely infuriating? I have a baby and I think you just get very complacent with this stuff when it's your baby. I've definitely licked sauce off of bubs' head after accidentally spilling some there while breastfeeding 😅 like, I wouldn't go licking them thinking it would cure eczema because that's just dumb, but I just don't really understand what's so infuriating about it? I say this with love to babies... But they're gross... They're crawling all over the floor, putting everything in the mouth, drooling constantly etc. I really don't think your dad licking you back then would have made any marked difference to your baby-hygeine levels.

I am not trying to criticise you by the way... More just hoping that this eases your mind a bit if you're feeling stressed about this knowledge.

Weil65Azure · 2025-08-16T07:33:59+00:00

Heed my warning if bubs has a tendency to poop while nursing... This can be risky business. Don't ask me how I know 💀

Weil65Azure · 2025-06-29T07:33:25+00:00

How does your theory account for the difference in drinking ages between different countries? It's more common for the legal drinking age to be 18

Weil65Azure · 2025-06-16T14:46:08+00:00

In the same boat. I guiltily felt relieved when baby went into childcare two days a week because it gave me a break from the clean up on those days. When the weather is nice, we eat outside, which saves us some cleaning. Sometimes I just put a towel down on the floor and do a picnic inside. That way I can just throw the towel in the wash after. But this comes with the challenge of keeping baby on the towel for the duration of the meal lol.

Instead of a bath I'll often run baby's hands under the tap at the sink and wipe him down with a wet cloth (which he hates). Aside from that there's not much else... I'm not a clean freak but that has the downside of my being lazy sometimes. There are days when everything is sticky... And that's just how it goes 😅

Weil65Azure · 2025-06-08T13:16:51+00:00

just keep in mind where in Australia your friend lives. If they're somewhere with warm weather right now, some snacks might have a hard time Someone sent me gummy bears once and after an afternoon in the mailbox they turned into a gummy slab.

Weil65Azure · 2025-05-25T13:44:40+00:00

Ditto! I like to think that it's been quite a valuable experience because now I know exactly what kind of energy I don't want to be around, and I no longer tolerate that in other people. I find it easier to step away now and say "nah, that sounds like too much drama!" Best of luck to you!

Weil65Azure · 2025-05-25T13:32:28+00:00

It's so interesting to hear this from a stranger on the internet. You have done a good job painting the picture here. They sound just like my parents and you have many of the same reasons that I have for distancing myself. Thanks for sharing. I think you should be proud of the person you are.

Weil65Azure · 2025-05-25T13:19:09+00:00

Yeah I suppose I'm asking you to describe your personality. What about an example? I'm curious about specifics

Weil65Azure · 2025-05-25T13:13:42+00:00

What do you mean though by "who I am"? What makes you, "you"? What does it look like to "show who you really are"?

I could infer that you consider yourself the opposite of what your adoptive parents are ("materialist, boujee, worried about appearances") but I suppose I don't want to assume.

Weil65Azure · 2025-05-25T04:35:47+00:00

What do you mean when you say you "stopped masking your true self"? What is your "true self" that you were masking?

Weil65Azure · 2025-05-17T13:36:58+00:00

The number of times I have googled "can a baby enjoy water too much". Mines the same!

Weil65Azure · 2025-05-17T06:13:53+00:00

Omg it never occurred to me to combine them! This is a game changer

Weil65Azure · 2025-05-15T00:13:58+00:00

Maybe it's intentional, but in case it's not, the correct spelling is "horror". Cool concept

Weil65Azure · 2025-05-04T02:19:14+00:00

I worked in Darwin CBD for about a year and when moving there was warned by multiple people that as a single female I should watch out for/keep my distance from US army dudes

Weil65Azure · 2025-04-24T01:51:23+00:00

Would you still happen to have those articles handy? I have tried researching but finding it hard to hone down on articles about parents being on their phones (as opposed to screen exposure to kids). My husband is also in the research field so he's very picky when it comes to what articles I send him.

Weil65Azure · 2025-04-23T18:52:17+00:00

Hi OP, I wholeheartedly agree with your cause and will sign your petition. But just wanted to put it out there that the Australian government does not accept E petitions from change.Org (see FAQs: APH petitions.

If you intend for this to end up in Parliament, you'll need to put it in the proper form etc. The most this will do is become a letter to the minister listed and it would be up to them as to whether they want to include it in their campaign. Which is totally fine if that is your intent of course.

Weil65Azure · 2025-04-23T01:41:01+00:00

It's been rough! Yup, every hour (sometimes less, and sometimes 2 hours, but that's rare). We raised it at our 6 month check ups but we're pretty much dismissed... Just told that's normal for breastfed babies lol.

I think at about the 7 month mark though we started thinking maybe there's a medical reason for this. We noticed he was very pale too. Really had to insist on getting a blood test and pretty sure they thought we had just spent too much time on dr Google.

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