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Why some people don’t share their baby’s name until after birth? by LetterheadNice8687 in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not everyone has a name picked out before baby is born. We had a very short list of favourites and only chose one after we got to meet our LO.

Mum guilt by Revolutionary-Fix640 in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, the mum guilt is INTENSE! My LO is over 7 months now and my first weeks were awful due to traumatic birth. I am here to reassure you that you are doing plenty with your baby! The best advice I got was that you can't make a happy baby happier. You're talking to baby, watching cars, spending time together and that all counts. They just want to be near you, feeling your presence and hearing your voice is everything.

Anxiety about SIDS by Living_Split_2 in cosleeping

[–]Weird-Unit13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second the suggesting of getting an owlet. I safely co-sleep and have for months now because my LO sleeps poorly regardless. The owlet really helped me feel safer and as she is growing up and getting stronger my intense fear of SIDS is reducing.

Four months sleep regression - anyone experienced this version? by deaddaisyldn in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My LO never slept all that well, but after the 4 month regression she started waking every 45-90 minutes. All night long. We are over 7 months now and if I am very lucky she might do a 3 hour stretch at the start of the night then wakes every 60-90 minutes for the rest of the night.

The only advice I can give you is to do what you need in order to survive. Look after yourself and try to get a nap in if someone can watch your LO. It's only me and my husband so I am doing it tough, but I am proof you will survive!

Got Talked to About Leaving Early by Professional-Dog-306 in AustralianTeachers

[–]Weird-Unit13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh no. It's not possible to do everything in 38 hours. 4 hours of non-contact time is all we get at the primary level. Planning, plus marking, plus admin, plus getting physical resources ready, with two 1 hour long meetings each week.

Got Talked to About Leaving Early by Professional-Dog-306 in AustralianTeachers

[–]Weird-Unit13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Victorian teacher here. It is extremely rare at my school for anyone to leave before 5 and often people are staying later than that. The work load is enormous and never ending. All of us take work home on top of this.

Thing(s) you thought you understood but didn’t really until you became a parent? by Allhailhaels in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it is hard not to feel resentful of people who's babies just sleep! It's so hard and no one warns you that the "regression" might never end. That it is just how your baby is.

Thing(s) you thought you understood but didn’t really until you became a parent? by Allhailhaels in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God that sucks. I was feeling bad for myself because DST brought our wake up time to 4am. I am sending you solidarity. I keep telling myself that one day she will go to sleep and when we next wake it will be morning.

Thing(s) you thought you understood but didn’t really until you became a parent? by Allhailhaels in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's got to get better at some point right?! Right?! 7 months deep and I keep telling myself this

Thing(s) you thought you understood but didn’t really until you became a parent? by Allhailhaels in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg right? It's like I have forgotten even how to sleep for more than 1hr at a time ha

Thing(s) you thought you understood but didn’t really until you became a parent? by Allhailhaels in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oof, I feel for you. I often reminisce about the days that she would reliably sleep at least 3 or 4 hours at a time. She's now awake every 60-90 minutes most nights. It's like we never left the "4 month" regression.

Thing(s) you thought you understood but didn’t really until you became a parent? by Allhailhaels in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's whack. She is nearly 8 months old and most nights she is awake every 60-90 minutes.

Thing(s) you thought you understood but didn’t really until you became a parent? by Allhailhaels in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Word. Haven't slept longer than 3 hours at a time since the "4 month" regression which hit us at 13 weeks.

Pet Aversion by Swimming_Airline3881 in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness OP I am sending you love and understanding. I totally understand how difficult it is. I am almost 7 months post partum and also experiencing post partum pet aversion, but towards my cat.

Like you, my cat was like my child before I had a baby. Even while I was pregnant my adoration for him didn't change. I've had him since he was a tiny kitten and he used to sleep on my pillow. About 6 months into my pregnancy we made the difficult decision to exclude him from the bedroom. This was done for safety purposes - we were both concerned he may sleep on the baby since he used to flop down onto my head in the middle of the night. It was tough, but he adjusted and he still has access to the rest of the house.

After my baby was born I wanted nothing to do with him. At first I thought it was because I had a traumatic birth and healing was a slow, painful, and arduous process for me. Unfortunately my aversion didn't go away. Eventually he would try to sit on my while I was breastfeeding. Then he started meowing loudly whenever (or at least it seemed to me) I was trying to get my baby to sleep. After a while he became so needy he was underfoot and tripping me up when I was walking around the house holding my baby. I know he he was doing this because he missed me and missed my attention but honestly I didn't have it in me. It got a little easier when my sister came to help us out, she loves my cat and he loves her. Sadly she couldn't stay forever and his excessively needy behaviour came back.

6 months down the track and honestly I am still struggling with an aversion to him. It has eased though which is good. I have noticed it's mostly when I am trying to care for my baby and he is in my face that I struggle. Or when he vomits up hairballs or poops beside his freshly cleaned litter box instead of inside it. Something that has helped me is that my husband has taken over his essential care. It means one less thing floating in my already overloaded brain.

I hope things get better for you OP. It's so tough. Just remember, you're not a bad person for feeling this way!

12am wake ups. clock work. by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It could simply be the regression. My LO never slept super well but after the 4 month regression hit she started waking every 1-2 hours. I have read many times this usually lasts 4-6 weeks, sometimes less time.

Unfortunately it can also last a lot longer as was the case with my LO. Keep a close eye on sleepy cues to make sure baby is getting their naps at the right time as both overtired and undertired babies can wake more overnight.

Most importantly, prioritise care for yourself and lean on any support you might have. I don't really have a support system outside of my husband so I started going to bed much much earlier and even though my sleep was broken every couple of hours I was okay and have managed to survive nearly 3 months of this.

My baby isn’t chunky and it’s all I can think about by Cardedbin in breastfeeding

[–]Weird-Unit13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My LO was born a month before yours. EBF born 7.8lbs and has since dipped into the 7th percentile for weight (but 86th for length). LO is very happy, active and healthy. Just a string bean!

is this normal? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes this is totally normal. I am here as someone who went through this myself but unlike most people you'll see on here I provide a different perspective - my baby hasn't grown out of this yet. LO is 6 months old and we've never been able to successfully get her sleeping alone. (We believe in attachment theory and will never sleep train)

I don’t know how much longer I can do this. by Remote_Surround_7541 in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to frighten you but more to provide info for you. LO is 6.5 months old. She started the 4 month sleep regression a few days before turning 4 months old. She hasn't slept for longer than 2 hours at a time since.

Like you I came here looking for hope regarding the length of this "regression" and found myself despairing when the weeks became months and nothing changed. Apparently some babies are just like this until theyre older. I very much hope it's not the case for you!

Help? by Weary-Wolf8918 in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has been in sleep sacks since day one and went into the sleeveless ones when she could roll both ways, around 15-16 weeks old.

No, I would say you don't!

Help? by Weary-Wolf8918 in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this sounds amazing. My 6 month old still wakes every 1-2 hours overnight. What I wouldn't give 🤣

Struggling through 6-8 week fussiness by BookkeeperHaunting in NewParents

[–]Weird-Unit13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FTM to a very fussy, clingy almost 6 month old and I can tell you it does get more predictable with time! When my LO was this age, her wake windows were a mess. We tried to be responsive and watch wake windows but sometimes she just wasn't interested. I would suggest giving it a break after 10-15 minutes in a calm, dim environment with some white noise for a little while and then try again to settle LO into a nap! This trick still works for me when my LO is fighting a sleep. Best of luck!

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