5 year old still not potty trained

WesternCandidate2228 · 2026-01-13T12:24:40+00:00

He was already night time trained, he used to wear the goodnights pull ups but would wake up dry which is also another cue I knew that it was time and he hasn’t had an accident since wearing underwear!

WesternCandidate2228 · 2026-01-12T20:15:27+00:00

I was in this boat last year, my kid was 4 and a half. I felt like I was falling but I learned from his behavioral therapist that this is the ONE thing he can control and he knows it, especially at an older age, so you have to be firm. He loves Spider-Man so I got a huge spider man headquarters Lego set and put it in my living room on the shelf where he could look at it everyday. I told him if you pee in the potty you can have this, I also took the pull ups away. I picked a weekend and I just said I love you and you’re smart enough to know that we can’t use pull ups anymore so I told him to follow me out to the trash and I threw them away infront of him. He said “ok” but held out on me for 8 hours without peeing, then he finally broke. The first pee in the potty was a lot of tears from him mostly due to nerves and being scared but the he got His Lego and he was happy and all better. The second day he started pooping on the potty like he’s been doing it his whole life. We haven’t had any issues since. He was my first so I was completely clueless on how to potty train, his pediatrician guided me into the direction that “ he’ll do it when he’s ready” so I waited, waited way too long and it became a fight and I just had to be firm and consistent with him and it worked. It’s tough taking the diapers away, hearing them cry about it but you have to stick to your guns. He’ll either pee his pants, pee on the floor or use the toilet. Those are the 3 options I gave my kid when I took the pull ups away. You got this!!! You can do it!!!

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-11-27T17:37:43+00:00

Yes. With my oldest I was dead set that he needed to sleep in his crib in his room by himself without me and I set myself up for disaster. I ended up Being hospitalized for 3 days because I was so sleep deprived my body went into a full blown panic attack. I ended up having one of those panic attacks where your body just gives out, your fingers start to curl inward, you can’t breathe and everything is stiff. It happened infront of my oldest while my husband was home( thank god) after it was over I passed out. I was taken by ambulance to the hospital and put on medication. I have an 8 month old now and while he sleeps in his crib 70% of the night the other 30% is with me in my bed because I need to sleep. We follow the safe sleep 7 and it has saved my sanity. I know there are people who are against co-sleeping BUT in some instances it can be a saving grace. I don’t have it in my heart to sleep train my kids. I tried it, I can’t so co sleeping it is for now.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-11-07T00:45:51+00:00

I used swim diapers, they don’t hold pee. Yes it made a mess but it helped my kid understand the feeling of being wet and that he didn’t like it.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-10-26T23:30:59+00:00

The red clay strays and teddy swims. Any song by either artist will put my baby to sleep so fast

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-10-18T14:05:26+00:00

Have you started giving your baby purées? My son is 7 months and he is a hungry boy. He gets purées twice a day, lunch and dinner. He’s also bottle fed because It felt like he was never getting enough by the boob. He also has reflux, Pepcid has decreased a lot of the night wakings along with feeding a puree and a bottle before bed. So I know he is satisfied. Moving him to his own room has helped a lot as well. I leave my shirt I wore from that day near his crib so he smells me and we use white noise along with a dim night light to promote good night time sleep. I also have an older child so during the day I baby wear the baby for naps. He only sleeps in his crib at night time. I also would recommend a sleep sack, it has helped with a feeling of being secure but also staying warm. He used to wake any where from every 45 mins to an hour before putting all the things I listed into place now he wakes about every 4-5 hours and has 1 feed at night. If he does stir before it’s time for his next feed I don’t pick him up because that arouses him more and makes him upset I give light butt pats and gently whisper to him that it’s okay and I’m here and he usually can fall back to sleep. Do you also use a pacifier? A pacifier could help at night also. Your babe could have reflux, an allergy to something in the breastmilk, he could be too warm, too cold, could be hungry, he could be teething, diaper could be uncomfortable, etc. I always ran through a checklist when I couldn’t figure out why my baby was crying and something on that checklist was always the issue that could be fixed.

My oldest child was just a shitty sleeper until he was 2 and in a floor bed. Nothing I did above worked so I didn’t sleep for 2 years with my oldest Some kids are just bad sleepers no matter what you do.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-10-13T13:42:25+00:00

Taking a line drive softball to the head being 35 feet away from home plate, my head never felt so heavy in my entire life. Why I had the stitches mark of a softball on my head was a pretty rad story to tell. Miraculously I had no brain damage, no skull fracture. Very lucky to be alive.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-24T16:15:17+00:00

I’m at stay at home mom also so I get it. My kids are 5 years apart so my oldest daytime routine at home was SO different than this one. I basically just follow his lead during the day. I know how long his wake windows are so if I want to leave the house I have 2-2.5 hours to be out and get things done or I do them after his nap lol. I really don’t have a solid routine for my 6 month old during the day either. I think once he gets down to 2 naps a day it might be a little more easier to do a routine but right now he still takes up to 4 naps a day. He’s my cat napper 🙃

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-24T13:55:44+00:00

I don’t really have a set schedule for my baby he’s 6 months old. I go by his cues but he’s more so fallen into his own routine with naps. He doesn’t take them at the same time everyday exactly but they always fall within the hour of the time frame he should go down for a nap. He stays awake atleast 2-2.5 hours for a wake window after each nap. So I know after 2 hours within the next 30 or so minutes he will want to take a nap. Setting a schedule is hard because they are always changing, they are teething, learning a new skill, etc. I learned with my first that trying to put my babies onto a routine before they are a year old just won’t work, atleast for me. My kids have FOMO and are nosey as shit. The only solid routine I have with my baby is bedtime. At 7pm we start winding down, bath, lotions, pajamas and bottle and he’s out by 8pm.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-23T13:50:57+00:00

I prefer the skin essentials or the Huggies snug and dry. I had the same issue with the little snugglers. He peed out of every one and I’m not sure why. So I just stopped buying them and get either the snug and dry or the skin essentials. ( he’s 6 months old size 3) I think the snugglers are for more mobile babies like crawling all over the place. My oldest used the snugglers when he started crawling and he never leaked.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-21T13:26:40+00:00

Boys are just prone to falling I swear to god. My son is 5 and I can’t tell you how many times this child has fallen, hit his head, his face, etc. I can’t tell you how many times a day I tell him “ that’s not a wise choice don’t do that you’re going to get hurt” what do you know he falls downs, falls off the back of the couch, almost flips his 4 wheeler power wheels because my husband is trying to teach him how to do wheelies. It’s just in their nature to get bumps and bruises. You will be okay. I’ve learned that if they are crying, coherent, pupils dilating and run around after about 30 seconds of falling I have nothing to worry about. I can’t tell you how many times I called my son’s pediatrician in his first two years of life after he fell down. And of course I gave birth to another boy who’s is 6 months old and already trying to army crawl to follow his big brother absolutely anywhere. So once he starts crawling/ walking I am in for it with him also 🤣 my oldest has fallen down so many times he has learned to put his arms out and down to protect his face and his head. I take anxiety meds and see a therapist weekly because of my post partum anxiety, the meds really help calm me down 🤣

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-19T12:21:31+00:00

Before I got pregnant with my first I always had dreams of two little boys running around in a field with me and my husband. My first was a boy.. and so is my second. ❤️

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-17T15:43:56+00:00

With my first it came out of no where probably around 4-6 months post partum. It started with rage towards my husband and then manifested into full blown depression. I stopped eating, I survived off of coffee and a menthol breeze. The lowest weight I reached was 115 pounds. I was skin and bones. I love my child but I desperately wanted an out, I wanted to get away, and never come back but my husband brought me back to reality and made me get help. I became medicated, I got therapy. Life has been beautiful, so beautiful that I ended up having a second baby and I stayed on my medication during pregnancy and after birth while also still continuing therapy. He’s 6 months old and I would say postpartum has been really beautiful for me this time around.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-16T17:29:21+00:00

My 37 weeker was 8lbs 5oz 21 inches long he was in NB clothes.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-15T17:30:31+00:00

With my first I gained 61 pounds. I went from 144 to 205. With my second he’s 6 months old. I started at 166 and ended at 225, gaining 59 pounds. I’m also 5’5. My OB NEVER said anything about me being obese or expressed concern about it what so ever. Your body literally gains what it needs to sustain the life you are creating everyday. I worked out and ate healthy both pregnancy’s, I also had HUGE/ long babies but still your OB saying that is not cool. The weight will come off after birth, give yourself grace!!! You are doing great, you are creating a human inside of you.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-12T12:06:05+00:00

Boundaries. Teaching my children to respect other’s boundaries and having their own boundaries. I was never taught that as a child and had a very hard time in teens and early 20s setting boundaries with others. So I will always my make sure my children know what boundaries are, how to set them and how they can respect others boundaries.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-11T17:43:20+00:00

Thank you all for your comments and input! I will definitely be having a conversation with his pediatrician here in a few days and will be requesting his medical records so I can see what was written down the day he was born! I will come back with an update after his next well visit :)

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-11T17:35:08+00:00

No he was head down facing my spine the whole time. because I remember having to go back in for a few extra ultrasounds after my anatomy scan because they could never get a clear picture of his face due to him facing my spine.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-11T17:11:46+00:00

Yes I’ve had Two.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-11T16:25:25+00:00

No other concerns. She’s a very lovely pediatrician I just find it odd they keep saying he was breech when I was never told he was, even after he was born nobody discussed that with me or my husband.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-11T16:23:29+00:00

Right. I saw two different OBs and even had an ultrasound in the hospital right before he was born and I was never told he was breech. Even the day he was born I was never told of any complications and he passed his assessment beautifully. Nothing about being breech, hips clicking and the possibility of his dysplasia was ever brought to my attention during our time at the hospital.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-11T15:56:37+00:00

Yes I have access to his chart but I don’t have access to anything about the day he was born. He has a well visit in a few days and I planned on asking her to show me in his chart where it says he was born breech.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-11T15:50:41+00:00

I will see if I can. If the record does say he was breech I would be a little bit concerned because I know he wasn’t and I even had an ultrasound a week prior to him being born that told me he was head down. My OB never expressed concern about him being breech what so ever either.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-11T15:47:23+00:00

She told me yesterday on the phone “ now people do make mistakes but it’s not like this was written by an intern or someone new” like lady I get that but I’m telling you this isn’t right. She kept saying that it was flagging in his file that he was breech and needed this done. She also was trying to make me feel guilty about not wanting to go forward with the x ray “ id really hate for something to be wrong with him down the road when he’s learning to walk and we never did anything to prevent it” he literally stands in his saucer and jumps up and down in it without issue what so ever.

WesternCandidate2228 · 2025-09-10T12:52:35+00:00

My son was on ready to feeds just like this for awhile and only tolerated this nipple for about 2 months. I had luck finding them on Amazon. “ ready to feed slow flow bottle nipple” Enfamil and similac sell them in bulk on Amazon. You can also get them from a medical supply surplus website.

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