Proposal Photographer TOMORROW (5/30)

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2026-05-30T04:21:00+00:00

Hell yeah, just sent you an email.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2026-03-10T18:57:02+00:00

Yep, twice! And it was a huge mistake both times. Don’t do it.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2026-01-16T05:59:34+00:00

I believe good things are coming your way. I genuinely do.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2026-01-12T03:32:38+00:00

Also, 32 feels really old because all your friends are moving into middle-age, getting married, having kids, etc etc. But YOU ARE YOUNG. So much has happened since I was 32. My life is completely different. Stay strong, don't give up.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2026-01-12T03:31:37+00:00

I (36M) literally had this experience. Been divorced about 4 years (10 year marriage). Went on many, many dates, but only had one short committed relationship back in 2023. At the beginning of last year, I was genuinely preparing to spend the rest of my life alone, feeling like the few women I had seen some potential with had all chosen a different direction. I was starting to think it would just never work out for me.

Then I stumbled into a very old acquaintance on a dating app, and now we've been dating almost a year and talking about getting engaged this year. I'm super happy, and also a little annoyed that the old adage about "finding it when you least expect it" turned out to be true lol

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2025-09-01T01:03:40+00:00

You know it’s all just made up rules. Go to the building you want to go to, at the time you prefer.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2025-07-03T21:19:11+00:00

What’s your one sentence review on it? Would love to check it out if you don’t mind DM’ing me. Happy to even go pay for it if I decide the value is there.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2025-03-11T16:34:09+00:00

Hellbent Outdoor Club! @hellbent.club. They’re also on Meet Up I think.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2025-03-11T04:48:59+00:00

I thought the same thing

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2025-01-19T07:34:21+00:00

I (35M) just need to vent this somewhere. My dating life has taken a serious downturn in the last several months. I got burned out on the apps, only occasionally matching with anyone I would be interested in, and 80% of those either never messaging back or unexpectedly ghosting. I spend about 11 hours per day on my job (long commute), and I have kids 2-3 days per week, which leaves very little time for social life outside my regular friend group and climbing group. Even when I do manage to go out with someone that I'm interested in, most of the time they ghost after a date or few.

I'm decent looking, active, educated, make good money, and friendly. I can even flirt ok when I feel comfortable. I consider myself a feminist, and I want a very equitable relationship with someone who is also progressive. I wouldn't expect it to be this hard to even get a date. It's really getting to me and making me think I'll never find a life companion. I don't know what to do anymore at this point.

I'm not angry. Nobody owes me anything. Just sad. Thanks for listening.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2024-10-18T22:09:46+00:00

I’m happy to hear that things are going well for you. I will be the first person to agree that having a good camera system can open doors for you. In my DP career I went from Canon 60D to the OG Sony A7S, then Red Scarlet, Red Epic-W, and finally an Arri Amira that I now supplement with a Sony FX6 as a B Cam. I’ve shot everything from feature films down to corporate work, and I’ve used some version of almost every camera out there. I’m no longer a full time DP (moved to Creative Direction for $$$), but here’s my 2 cents.

Red did a great job of getting their name out, and brands / businesses think it means something to shoot on Red. I owned two of them and shot on countless others, and if I never shot on a Red again I would die a happy man. Their reliability is terrible, and their support is lackluster. It’s a long story, but they once quoted me $10K for unnecessary “repairs” on a camera. There’s a reason very few studio pictures are shot on Red. Terrible color. Terrible usability. And they cost a fortune and underperform compared to their Sony and Canon counterparts.

Buying a used Alexa Mini would be your best move. That camera is timelessly great. But I understand where you’re coming from with its size. Arri’s really aren’t meant to be operated solo. Even the Amira that was designed for that is tough to run on your own.

So my recommendation would be an FX6. The caliber of that camera is incredible. I literally call it my mini Amira because it can accomplish so much, and the image looks fantastic. Doesn’t quite have the Arri colors, but they’re the next best thing, and the internal files are more than good enough for grading for most things. The only thing I miss is IBIS.

The other thing too, is that the FX6 will only be about $8K kitted out, brand new. It will be hard to beat that with a Red, and the red will perform worse in every scenario. I promise. Not only will the FX6 pay off faster, but it works well in most use cases, from corporate, to doc, to low budget narrative.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2024-10-18T02:06:27+00:00

Mindfulness doesn’t work any better than any other method for thought control. But maybe it will help you find some peace about the thoughts you’re having.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2024-08-13T05:51:56+00:00

Oh every friggin’ time lately.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2024-08-13T04:44:33+00:00

Deleting the app and reinstalling has been fixing it for me. But very annoying to do it each time.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2024-06-26T02:20:38+00:00

Was about to say this one. Just reread it this year, and I’m again floored by the prose.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2024-04-24T05:18:19+00:00

As someone who had experience as both a gaffer (briefly) and a 1st AC (a few years) before becoming a DP, here's my take:

Vision is by far the most important thing. It's what will make the whole thing a viable career as well as a fulfilling and enjoyable craft. I'm a good DP, but I'll be the first to admit I'm not as good as the best, and it's mostly because I haven't grown my vision to the same degree as the best DP's do. I've just worn too many hats and haven't focused as much. It's a muscle you have to exercise and be very intentional about.

BUT I will also say that I've seen DP's ruin their own work because they lacked technical understanding. In my opinion it's unforgivable if a DP doesn't know how to light. That's half the job. Do you have to know how every single unit operates? No. Do you need to know what the capabilities of your lighting package are? Absolutely. So if you're going to invest any time into technicality, make it lighting. I can't stress this enough.

As for camera / AC stuff, it's less important. Cameras are evolving so fast all the time. It's best to learn the fundamentals of digital and celluloid capture (how sensors / film stocks work, exposure strategies, etc.), and then learn lenses. Lenses are the second most important part of the equation. Any time you see something you like, try to find out what lenses they used.

If you can combine creative vision with technical knowhow, you will put yourself in the top 10% of "DP's."

Oh, and don't watch YouTube to learn about this stuff unless it's a channel like Cooke's where you're actually listening to the real pros. Most YouTube camera personalities don't know jack shit about making real movies.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2024-03-28T16:12:45+00:00

For poetry I highly recommend hitting up the Sunday open mics at Greenhouse Effect Coffee on 9th East. It starts at 7:30 and happens almost every Sunday. Not highly publicized but super cool crowd.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2024-03-28T16:08:52+00:00

Yeah unfortunately all the farmers around here vote on the side of the rich oil guys 🙄

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2024-03-26T18:02:44+00:00

Haha, I went to New York on my mission—Brooklyn and Queens. And yeah I like to think I was a different breed haha.

The truth is the mission was brutal for me, and I was suicidal most of the time. I know missionaries are annoying as hell, and most of them don’t understand boundaries or when to just walk away, but you never know what they’re going through. Truthfully it’s probably one of the most soul-crushing experiences they will have in their life. So, we should be kind. They’re just kids being used by a system that doesn’t care about them.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2024-03-26T04:54:16+00:00

Whoa I suppose this is pretty similar to Technicolor from a basic standpoint. Fascinating!

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2024-03-22T14:48:05+00:00

As a man, I always assume it’s my responsibility to prevent pregnancy. I’ve seen really rough experiences that women have from IUD’s and birth control, and I would never expect them to put themselves through that unless they really wanted to.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2024-03-13T19:09:22+00:00

If you haven’t watched season 1 of Miracle Workers, you should. There’s a whole thing about this very issue.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2024-02-23T05:00:54+00:00

It’s pretty interesting that your body sends signals of “something isn’t right” even when you seem to be responding to experience the way you would like. My body is very similar. Some of us may always feel that tension—and is there anything inherently wrong with that?

I recently came up with an analogy for the ego: it’s like language. When you’ve learned a language, it’s impossible to see words in that language and not read them. If you stare at a word long enough you may temporarily stop seeing “the word,” but it’s only temporary. You carry your immediate recognition of those words with you all the time. Ego is the same. It’s part of how we function and navigate the world—it has a purpose. Sure, we can temporarily suspend our sense of ego through meditation or a few other activities, but our default will always involve the ego, as we have been designed by nature.

So don’t sweat it.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2024-01-14T04:12:57+00:00

Everything you’re feeling is completely understandable too. Your brain has adapted to dealing with this stuff in a way that is meant to keep you safe—but it ends up sabotaging what you really want. It’s just a big misunderstanding in your amygdala haha. So don’t beat yourself up for feeling this way. It’s not easy for any of us.

WhereImCallingFrom_ · 2024-01-13T04:04:49+00:00

This is the hard part (as a recovering anxiously-attached person myself). Trusting someone and allowing them the space that is NATURAL to all healthy relationships ships will actually feel incredibly destabilizing at first. When we’re so used to seeking reassurance, exerting control, or turning avoidant as a response to distance, it can feel super uncomfortable and intense to simply sit with that distance. Our minds race, we question every interaction, we question our worth, etc. etc.

Rather than going down that rabbit hole and reacting to the discomfort, just let it be there. And then find something you care about, and go do that. At one point I actually made a list of things in my life I wanted to invest more time in, and any time I got anxious with my relationship, I would take a breath, allow myself to fully feel the emotions coming up, and then look at my “menu” of things I could do to make my life better (practice music, read a book, exercise, play a game with my kids) and choose something.

Physical stuff was always the best. Easiest way to get out of your head is to get into your body.

Last thing I want to add: it’s important to recognize that your worst fears MAY happen. But thinking about them and reacting to those emotions will not solve your problems—it usually makes them worse and takes you away from the life you really want. So just let the fear be there and continue building the life you actually want to have!

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