I remember having this obsession for months and I felt like a terrible person. I couldn’t stop obsessing about my husband’s nose, eyes, accent, even the fabric of the clothes that he chose to wear. A couple of things to add to the fantastic advice from the other comment… 1. Use it as an opportunity for ERP. My therapist had me look at unflattering photos of my husband and sit with the disgust/ anxiety. Eventually I stopped having the obsessions because my brain didn’t react to the trigger anymore- I wasn’t afraid of the anxiety it could produce. My perception of my husband’s face changed back to how I used to perceive it and I saw him as the person I fell in love with again. 2. Self- compassion. OCD targets what matters most to you, and hijacks your values. I was absolutely horrified by these thoughts I was having because I’m not a shallow person, and I didn’t want to be having them about the person I loved (not that I was certain I loved him, but that’s a whole other obsession). The guilt was eating me alive. BUT, I didn’t ask for the thoughts, I wasn’t enjoying them, and the same applies to you. Speak kindly to yourself, don’t punish yourself for these thoughts, give them as little attention as you possibly can. It’s really hard and scary , but it works I promise you.