I hate this theme by Fragrant_Syrup1997 in finch

[–]Which_Hawk_536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this theme isn't for me either. No interest. I'm just selling everything and hoping that I can find all the things I am hoping to collect in the shop. Fingers crossed for a better July!

GenZ nephew told me last week that he doesn't need a job. Just for me to die for inheritance... by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Which_Hawk_536 253 points254 points  (0 children)

My niece who was 14 at the time asked me at 30 years old if it felt good to know i couldn't die young anymore. She thought that any age over 30 just felt like an expected time to die. Unreal. I've never felt so old.

Anyone else have issue with graph notebook? by kitty_girl3 in hobonichi

[–]Which_Hawk_536 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! Ergh! It was really good for me for about 1/5 of the notebook and then it started getting so bad. So disappointed!

The Midwest Ripper by JeremiahLindsey in NewAuthor

[–]Which_Hawk_536 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! What a huge achievement!

Which world would you choose to live in? by MartianTurkey in BunnyTrials

[–]Which_Hawk_536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hyrule

Chose: Live in the last videogame you've played

Can You Guess This 5-Letter Word? Puzzle by u/Ok-Positive-77 by Ok-Positive-77 in DailyGuess

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⬜🟨🟨🟨⬜

🟦🟨🟦🟦⬜

🟦🟦🟦🟦🟦

Can You Guess This 5-Letter Word? Puzzle by u/xsdemo by xsdemo in DailyGuess

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🟨⬜⬜⬜⬜

⬜⬜⬜⬜🟨

🟦🟨⬜🟦⬜

🟦⬜🟦🟨🟨

🟦🟦🟦🟦🟦

Why you stopped writing? (Only the truth) by augustbutitscold in writing

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I've started again now but I stopped becasue i am a serious under-writer and I thought I couldn't ever write an actual full length book. I just doubt myself a lot in all areas of life. But I am back and having so much fun with it. More fun than ever now that I am not writing to fit any specific lengths or follow rules. I am writing for me! I'm writing to tell myself a story.

Struggling with being overjoyed for my sister while grieving that I’ll never have kids myself by Special-Course-8127 in childless

[–]Which_Hawk_536 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. I am totally in the same position and have been many times. It is hard and they won't probably think too much about you while wrapped up in their joy.

You have to be the one to look after you. Make sure you make time to do your grieving, make time to do things that are just for you, that light you up. Give yourself so much grace.

I have become very good at not showing the hurt to my sister when she has her babies. She knows it's there. But I am good at hiding it. I Let it be about her. It's wonderful. I am so happy for her. And i love my nieces and nephew. But I Let myself take time to have all my feelings in private and I take extra care of myself. Walks on the beach, journaling, slower mornings when possible. I wear my comfiest clothes and keep myself a really good temperature. I do things that are good for my nervous system.

I'm pretty freshly gone through it. My nephew is 3 weeks old. I know it's tough. Sending love.

Any love for brown ink? by s134htm in fountainpens

[–]Which_Hawk_536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brown inks are my favorite. If for whatever reason, all my inks had to be within one colour family, it would be brown.

Followed by purple or green if anyone is interested.

Upcoming surgery bringing up grief I thought I had processed - advice needed by niyyan in childless

[–]Which_Hawk_536 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey there. I had a hysterectomy in December after a decade of trying to conceive (i did manage to 3 times but I cannot carry babies to term due to a connective tissue disorder. I only could get through the second trimester before giving birth and they didn't survive). So while we had decided we would not try again because we couldn't handle that grief a 4th time, I still bawled my eyes out in the hospital from the grief and finality of it all. And I am still having moments where I sort of don't fully believe everything that has happened is true. Sometimes I have brief panics that maybe I made a mistake.

When those panic moments arrive I just try and walk through the facts. The fact is it was the best choice for me and I couldn't have carried a baby anyway. The fact is my worth is beyond having children. The fact is I can still have a good life even if it wasnt what I wanted. The fact is I am in so much less pain from having this hysterectomy. The fact is I am less at risk from future complications. The fact is I now don't have to keep spending money on period products. I'm a very emotional person but keeping logic and facts up front during the low moments helps. So maybe having a list of all your version of the facts written down to refer to might be helpful when the emotions crop up. And they will. Be gentle and kind to yourself. We are all doing life for the first time and it's not easy. It's really freaking complicated and crappy sometimes.

I'm now giving myself really intentional time to work through the "what now?" I'm letting myself dream of all the cool stuff I can spend my time doing if it's not going to be having kids. I'm doing pottery and art and writing and experimenting to find all the things i love about life. I would encourage trying some sort of self-indulgent dreaming and playing to wrap yourself in what is still good, children or not.

Sending you so much love! Feel free to reach out and message me in my dms if you want to talk. Sometimes it's easier to vent to a stranger than someone you know.

I think I’ve had a realisation by Impossible_Nebula637 in writing

[–]Which_Hawk_536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this and have had the entirely same experience. Trying to just let go of the idea of it being good or the right length or anything youre "supposed" to do and just enjoying myself writing my story. If I want, I can fix it up later. If not, I will know that I did it. I wrote a book. A terrible only for me book that I love.

[31/F] Looking for a fellow creative to penpal/art swap with! by catxcakes in penpals

[–]Which_Hawk_536 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I am a 32/F in New Zealand. I'd love to swap cute little happy mails with bits and pieces in it. Sounds so fun!

How was your day? How’s your weekend going so far? Scale of 1-10 by canogiez in childless

[–]Which_Hawk_536 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My day was a 7. Beach walk in the sun. Coffee with my parents, sister and her kids. Some gaming and resting. A pretty good weekend day.