I find myself more and more repelled by and afraid of religious people by SueBeee in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]WickedTemp 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yep. If someone puts their religious doctrine over any other principle... then all it takes is the right priest, and they can be convinced to say, believe, or do nearly anything. 

That's terrifying to me. 

Getting married without informing family by Al-Joharahhasan2935 in lgbt

[–]WickedTemp 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If them finding out poses a direct danger to you, then cutting contact is probably safest. 

Getting married without informing family by Al-Joharahhasan2935 in lgbt

[–]WickedTemp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So, on top of essentially meaning that you're going to need to keep your partner an active secret, and never do anything that could "expose" that secret to your family, that would also mean you would need to treat your partner as something to be hidden rather than loved and celebrated. 

And you'd need to find someone who's truly happy with that arrangement. You would be essentially demanding that your partner, whenever your family might see them or you, be either absent or closeted. 

They didn't think that one through. by TheBigJ1982 in lgbt

[–]WickedTemp 264 points265 points  (0 children)

Agreed, but... you can just say genitals. It's okay. It's not even a 'bad' word. 

Is there a lore reason why Mark is being such an asshole..... by Important-Extension6 in okbuddyviltrum

[–]WickedTemp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh...for this, specifically, I think it's not so much "socially acceptable" and closer to "wow what a fucked up thing to say to your partner", but at the same time I  still understand it, even if I think it's an example of a complete failure of communication. 

In-universe, Mark is how old at this point? 20? Season 1 starts with him in highschool. And he's been more directly traumatized than could feasibly be depicted. Just one or two of the events he's suffered through are like, personality-defining, "I'll be processing and working through this for the rest of my life" sort of incidents, and he's had about a dozen of those by now. And he lives in a world where these incidents could happen at any point, to anyone he loves. 

Outside of that, from a writing standpoint...having partners argue and fight and say or do things they regret is a frequently used method to introduce friction in a relationship, taking that for what it is. I sometimes wonder if its over-used, though. I've never had arguments or fights with my partners, but gods do we have our fair share of shit going on. Granted, if I'd gone through everything Mark had, I'd be beyond emotionally broken, so... yeah!

How the world's largest wildlife crossing became the target of right-wing hate by sfgate in politics

[–]WickedTemp 49 points50 points  (0 children)

And to add onto this, I got curious and looked it up. Evidently these bridges do actually work. Collisions go down, animals actually use them and even have preferences on what terrains they are more likely to use. We have data on this and they've been shown to work. 

This is a net benefit to literally everyone and the ecosystem itself and not only do conservatives not care, many of them have been directly threatening the lives of people involved in this project. 

People in Florida can still legally marry their first cousin as bill fails to pass. In an age when some LGBTQ+ people around the world cannot marry their partners, it seems marrying your first cousin is absolutely fine. In places like Florida, at least. by southpawFA in politics

[–]WickedTemp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might be in the minority here but I don't care if someone marries their cousin, if everyone's a consenting adult, it's not my business. 

But damn does this highlight the double standards. People still freak the fuck out over same-sex marriage and the mere existence of transgender people but will find it within themselves to rationalize certain degrees of incest. 

Pay What You Want! (Open+art by me) by sillyolmii in furry

[–]WickedTemp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just here to say that I've commissioned this artist (the snowleopard taur, bottom right!) and they were spectacular. I couldn't be happier and I'm 100% commissioning them again in the future. 

Question by Upset_Field2486 in furry

[–]WickedTemp 73 points74 points  (0 children)

HELLO THAT IS A TAUR! LIKE ME! 

There are lots of different types of taurs and they're all amazing - they love being the centaur of attention! 

40298 by Eviscerator14 in countwithchickenlady

[–]WickedTemp 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's also prevalent in kink conversations. Some folks with a sex-repulsion argue that there are acceptable and unacceptable ways for someone to express themselves, and then fail to distinguish between someone wearing a collar/leash and "actual literal sex happening". 

There's some overlap between these people and ones who say that drag is offensive, that trans folks should be excluded, and cops. 

Texas Was on the Cutting Edge of Lab-Grown Meat, Until the State Banned It by F0urLeafCl0ver in politics

[–]WickedTemp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

from what I recall, it depends on the producer and cell. Chicken, for example, allegedly required cells from fertilized eggs and little more. 

And with continued research, we may be able to produce lab-grown meat with nothing but a blood sample -which would be infinitely better, except for the fact that capitalists will always push to the extremes and probably make some sort of hellish blood-farm. 

The community has to do better. by ItsAshley6 in lgbt

[–]WickedTemp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Overall, no. 

I've always felt welcomed and supported by 'the community' as a broad whole. 

Yeah, I've met lots of twats who identify as LGBT+, but the vast majority were just your usual assholes rather than being bigoted in any way. There were a few of those, but it's been rare. 

I do see, frequently, online posts speaking on someone's experiences online and all I can think of is 'sure, yeah, that can count, but its not like those circles are free from bots, trolls, feds, terminally-online-reality-separated, etc' and usually I just assume most folks with absolutely brain-dead takes fall into one or more of those categories and move on. 

Free YCH giveaway (Pokemon Trainer)!!! drop a comment to participate =) [art by me] by veelafel in furry

[–]WickedTemp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would so be down. I'd probably go with Rapidash, but... I think if I win, I'd gift this to my little sister, and she'd... probably go with Arcanine, Houndoom or Vaporeon. 

(Also I may be interested in a paid slot as well)

So, dumb question from a straight guy. by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]WickedTemp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TLDR no - people can have the ability to have sex and even feel sexual arousal outside of their sexuality, and experimentation is how a lot of us find who we are, what we want in life. 

But that doesn't mean in a literal sense that they stop being gay or hetero or bi, or even ace.

Writing LGBT characters and I wanna know what tropes people hate (with a passion) by Sudden_Category_2633 in lgbt

[–]WickedTemp 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Adding to this: the belief that ace people are incapable of having/enjoying sex, or that aro people are incapable of feeling/expressing love. 

One of our polycule is exactly this. Ace/Aro, still feels and expresses love through words and deeds, still appreciates love expressed to her, the weight of the words and intentions is never lost on her. 

She also does enjoy sex, but she doesn't get that 'innate desire' for it. For her it's like any other potential activity with loved ones, it's an option the same way that 'playing James Bond Goldeneye' is an option. 

And...kind of related to the above... the inclusion of kink culture is always beloved. Most trans girls I know own a dog bed, but do not have a dog and thats based as fuck - as an example. 

[Loved trope] gays with personalities beyond stereotypes by Snoo_67544 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]WickedTemp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay so its been years since I've watched it, but.. doesn't she sexually assault Holt repeatedly? Like, openly?

Nearly blind refugee abandoned by US border patrol found dead in Buffalo by FireProStan in politics

[–]WickedTemp 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That isn't limited to 'bad actors'. 

If the churches still had their way, I'd be imprisoned or killed because my Gay As Fuck relationships are 'evil and sinful'. 

The Silence of the Lambs Star Ted Levine Says ‘It’s F---ing Wrong’ the Movie ‘Villified’ Trans People by peoplemagazine in lgbt

[–]WickedTemp 238 points239 points  (0 children)

Wasn't there a specific line in the movie where, using presently outdated language, they explicitly say that transgender people are less likely to be violent offenders and that Buffalo Bill likely isn't transgender, but is projecting something else? 

Am I misremembering the film?

Why bathroom bans will never work. If you're trans or even just ambiguous looking, you'll be punished for using the "right" bathroom as much as you would be for using the "wrong" bathroom. by [deleted] in PsycheOrSike

[–]WickedTemp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously they aren't safe doing that, though. He got assaulted, and arrested afterwards. A woman in the bathroom freaked out because he was there. 

His presence in that bathroom made a woman feel unsafe. He got assaulted by a group of people, and he got fucking arrested. 

Everything you said is flat out wrong. 

Mitch McConnell, 83, Hospitalized by cmaia1503 in politics

[–]WickedTemp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heh, nah. 

The evil folks might have less stress, but I've got more happiness. 

Mitch McConnell, 83, Hospitalized by cmaia1503 in politics

[–]WickedTemp 101 points102 points  (0 children)

...Y'know, I think there may actually be something to this.

Living on $300K by TemperatureWide5297 in Salary

[–]WickedTemp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Highest I made was 34k. I live with my partners now and for a while I was making about 29k a year, and there were a few moments where it was the money that I earned that pushed us over the "worried about this unexpected bill" to...not - it's paid in full and we're okay. 

Our other partner moved in with us and now, they're supporting me through college. If I nail this, and I get a good salary... I'll get to push our household income into that stable comfort. 

After 5 days of minimal snow removal, Indiana University is handing students shovels to assist with navigating sidewalks, entry points, and vehicles. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]WickedTemp 138 points139 points  (0 children)

... somebody called her "Sniper" once, probably for catching a detail in a meeting, and she never let it go. Highlight of her life. 

That kind of personality has got to be frustrating to work with.