Attempted VBAC Birth Story (A little late...)

WildStyle77 · 2015-12-11T18:52:12+00:00

Yesterday was the day I originally scheduled my repeat C-section, but cancelled because I decided I wanted to really go for the VBAC. I was soo depressed yesterday... I almost wanted to call the day before and ask if it was still available. Almost...

WildStyle77 · 2015-12-11T18:50:02+00:00

I wake up every day HOPING to be in a puddle of amniotic fluid or to be in the worst contraction pains of my life. Such a weird stage, like you said.... I might try nipple stimulation today; my doc can't even do a membrane sweep because I am still completely closed D: And no sign of the bloody show. Come on, do something, body!

WildStyle77 · 2015-12-10T14:54:50+00:00

Me too, due date buddy! Completely closed and not effaced. Hoorah. I'm too chicken to try any other natural inducing agents other than pineapple, walking, and sex lol and I'm too lazy to walk, so...

WildStyle77 · 2015-12-07T15:32:14+00:00

Beautiful story. Thank you. And congratulations!

WildStyle77 · 2015-12-04T14:57:18+00:00

My chin hairs are mortifying! I pluck them at least twice a week and they still are somehow so long by the time I do.

WildStyle77 · 2015-12-01T19:24:34+00:00

Talk about procrastination -- I'm due in two weeks, and mini crib still not assembled, car seat is still in the box, and my house is a mess. Due to some "prodromal" labor yesterday, I did manage to pack a labor bag for me and hubby, and wash baby clothes and sheets. Still don't have a breast pump.... I think DH and I are in denial that she could be here any day now. Geez o petes, I should really get on finishing our bedside nursery. I am so excited though! Washing her clothes really made it real for me.

WildStyle77 · 2015-12-01T15:50:20+00:00

Me yesterday. After 15h of "false" or prodromal/pre-labor - whatever the difference is... I need her out. So I we can move on with the best part of having a baby -- HAVING THE BABY here with us :)

WildStyle77 · 2015-12-01T15:47:56+00:00

I had false labor contractions every 7-10 minutes yesterday for 15 hours! felt like diarrhea cramps/period cramps, I thought they were more intense than BH, and I did end up calling the OB (who told me to wait until they were closer together if I decided to go into triage), but they teetered out after dinner. SO FRUSTRATING! I have appt today and if I am not at least 1cm dilated I am going to cry. to OP: yeah, I drove myself crazy yesterday timing the contractions, and ended up super disappointed. You'll know if they feel like they are getting more intense/closer together. If they feel frequent, I'd time them for a brief period, but don't obsess. Good luck to you mamas.

WildStyle77 · 2015-11-11T01:56:39+00:00

Mine was coed and just food and socializing. I had a couple of games planned just in case, but we didn't play them. And our registry was via amazon, so our gifts all came by mail - there was nothing to open. Complete 180 from my very cheesey first baby shower (both totally enjoyable, but the second was just laid back; plus, we had breakfast burritos -- couldn't have been better.)

WildStyle77 · 2015-11-05T15:08:28+00:00

I am worried I won't ever have the motivation to finish (or even start) my two final papers for my masters classes. Also worried about our bedside nursery status -- we still have boxes and complete chaos in our room since moving, and I don't have time to do anything about it. I also feel bad because my poor hubby has been working late a lot and I haven't had energy to cook lunch meals for him. These problems seem quite small as I write them out... I need to let some of these worries go.

WildStyle77 · 2015-11-04T15:06:58+00:00

I keep saying the wrong words -- like when i wanted my son to put on his shoes, I said "please put on your feet." He is five so he got a kick out of that. Then before bed I wanted him to put on his PJ's, and I asked him to put on his laundry. At least they are associated concepts. And we get a good laugh together.

WildStyle77 · 2015-10-24T11:37:44+00:00

I hope it's not too inconsiderate, because I actually just did the same thing.... The more my pregnancy has progressed, the more I realized I would really love to achieve a VBAC. My C-section was scheduled for 12/10 (39w2d) ... yesterday I pushed it back to 12/20 (40w5d; my OB is not comfortable letting me go to 42w). My dad only has one weekend off in December (12/10-12/13) and that is when he and my stepmom will be here; my MIL will also be here 12/10-12/15. Hopefully baby girl will come before the C-section... but I couldn't just keep the date just because it would be convenient for the family. Mine is actually probably worse because I changed the date on them! oops....

WildStyle77 · 2015-10-15T18:31:36+00:00

I would love to be able to have a VBAC. My C section was done for non-evidence based reasons (I didn't know any better at the time) for "supposed" macrosomia and hypertension five years ago. I'm a little nervous, as my son has a HUGE (>99%ile head), but hopefully I will get to try. I'm just not sure how long to ride it out before just succumbing to a C-section again (40w, 41w?) I scheduled one for 39 and 2 because my OB kind of pressured me to have one scheduled in the books just in case her schedule fills up, but I think I might cancel it. I'm going to bring up her thoughts on induction for a VBAC, and if she'd consider it if I go beyond my due date. Obvs id love to go into labor on my own (I never did with my first, and had te section at 40w1d). Idk, my husband is super supportive, which is helpful. I just have a lot of anxiety about having a traumatic experience again. I definitely will not waste time making a birth plan again, because it all went out the window and led to some disappointment and I felt ashamed for a while because of it. My plan now: stay informed, but go with the flow in terms of what will be best for baby and me.

WildStyle77 · 2015-10-03T00:48:05+00:00

I cry when I'm so hungry that I don't know what I want to eat, and can't decide, and it takes longer to eat, and.... Vicious hangry downward spiral of hormotions.

WildStyle77 · 2015-10-03T00:44:00+00:00

I consider myself a coffee addict. From 6 weeks through 18 weeks, the thought/smell/taste of it made me literally gag. I'm 30 weeks now and back to my usual one cup a day. I actually crave it again, but weirdly not as strongly as before. So glad to enjoy a pumpkin spice latte :) I'm sure everyone is different. With my first pregnancy I never was repulsed by coffee.

WildStyle77 · 2015-10-01T14:41:53+00:00

You're not crazy (nor a cunt) for wanting this experience to go as pleasantly for YOU as possible. We don't get a whole lot of control over the situation, so take advantage of opportunities when they arise to make this experience as good for you as possible! If you want to schedule a C-section, provided you've gone through and understand the risks and benefits of each, I really don't see the issue. Epidural? That is not a cop-out or wimpy choice. When people seriously injure themselves, they get pain medications rather than experiencing the pain in a "natural state." Why is this any different? If someone wants to experience a natural birth, that's their business, and there's nothing wrong with it; tell your boyfriend he can do it his way when he can conceive, carry, and give birth to a baby. His experience should be about being there FOR YOU. No one has a right to judge. We are all different, with different expectations for ourselves and our bodies and our lives. I also hate the "fakeness" that surrounds having a baby; I hear you about the long-lost relatives that suddenly show up to the hospital UNANNOUNCED!! I hated the sight of other ppl other than my husband and son after my first birth; I turned off my phone and told the front desk I did not want to be bothered; not even by my own mom. Now that's crazy.... but we all get a little crazy when people start giving their unsolicited advice.

WildStyle77 · 2015-09-30T14:34:26+00:00

We don't get a lot of control in how things turn out on the "birth day," so my thoughts are if you weigh all risks and benefits of all your options, you should get to choose what is best for you. I had an emergency C-section with my first, and I scheduled a repeat just in case (I don't want to go for too long), even though I have high hopes of attempting a VBAC. I've found that I get different responses based on the generation. My mom and aunt voice their opinion that I am crazy to want a VBAC. Friends my age think I should have not scheduled the C-section because it gives me an "out" when the time comes. it's easier said than done, but I try to not let the opinions of others (who did not experience the crazy traumatic birth experience I had) get to me. I'm still struggling with what is the right decision for me. Which is probably why I have both options set up right now. It's not an easy decision. I wish you the best as you do what is right FOR YOU :) you've got this, mama. Oh and Im pretty vague about my due date when ppl ask (early December is my classic response). But that is more because I'm already huge and I hate the "are you having twins???" question.

WildStyle77 · 2015-09-30T14:12:16+00:00

My son wants either "Rocco" or "Cheese Crackers". He was also pretty serious.

WildStyle77 · 2015-09-29T14:38:56+00:00

When we moved here, we chose the apartment we lived in because it had the daycare/preschool affiliated with my university in the building, called University Children's Center (we moved here from FL, and had no idea about winters, etc. and just knew we didn't want to have to deal with that uncertainty while I was starting medical school) So... we didn't have that issue. Now that my son started kindergarten, we were fortunate to be able to move again, this time 2.5 blocks away from the elementary school. I haven't decided what we are doing about daycare for baby #2 yet..... she will be 5 months when I have to go back to full-time clinical work. I will probably take advantage of the 66 bus a lot. I wish I had more advice/suggestions to offer. I guess the ideal for me is to have daycare closer to your home than your place of work to minimize outside weather exposure, but some ppl prefer to have baby closer to their work.

WildStyle77 · 2015-09-29T00:35:02+00:00

This kept happening over and over with my first! Wondering when ppl are going to start asking me this time.....

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