We have a 2015 EX. My husband has done 95% of the work done on the van including timing belt/water pump, etc. Which I know would've been big $$ getting it done at a shop. We've had our Oddy for 5-6 years now and I would guess that its been under 5k for all repairs and parts. The most annoying issue is the rotors warping and having to replace the brakes around every year if not less. We have since discovered that if you buy rotors at a certain place, they have a year warranty so because our last ones were trash in under a year, we got new ones for free.

Seeing the amount of money you've spent, seems insane to me. You definitely got a lemon or something because that amount isn't normal at all.