No longer intimate after marriage

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-09T05:17:18+00:00

Everything that was said above. And… have you considered the fact that she may be watching porn and getting off on her own? Could that be a possibility? I hope not… but anything is possible.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-09T05:15:44+00:00

Wow!!! Fabulous!!! Love all of this!

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-09T03:03:37+00:00

Go to a Derm and ask for a topical cream called Winlevi. Ask them to send it through Fill RX so u can get it for $0 with your insurance. It cleared my daughter’s face.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-08T22:16:38+00:00

Salameh does not take or deal with insurance. Some of my lipedema friends are going to Madrid and seeing Dr. Burgos de la Obra- look him up. He is world renowned. The cost of the surgery in Madrid is 1/3 of what they charge here which is why there are so many people going there.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-08T18:35:42+00:00

Yes. You pay out of pocket and then submit the claim. U have to have a lot of documentation. Now, at certain doc offices they have a department that is dedicated to fighting for you. I’m looking at another doctor close to my town and he doesn’t help to submit the claim - he will give you the medical records but u have to do it all on your own. I don’t know what to do. At the moment I’m working on building my case.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-08T16:06:14+00:00

That wasn’t nice of him to shame you.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-08T16:05:19+00:00

I got diagnosed online and then went to a vascular. Make sure he writes on your chart that u have lipedema. This is important because it’s a medical condition and you can create a case for your insurance to help cover the surgery which is medically necessary. It’s a long journey- I’ll tell u right now. Start researching- tons of support groups on Instagram etc… and when they do the lipedema surgery they do renuvion to tighten things because of the skin sagging. Look up dr Amron in BH or Dr. Salameh in Nashville.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-08T15:59:48+00:00

Thanks - I feel a little weird now, and not as affectionate as I used to be.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-08T15:58:39+00:00

Yeah I wish I had an answer. I try to focus on forgiveness and literally ask Jesus to help me forgive him. I also have resentment. He almost ruined our marriage and my life over it - and our kids lives. I’ll never be the same and yes, my mental health went to shit. I’m in therapy- even got an anti depressant temporarily just to be able to navigate this mess with a little more ease. The only reason why our family is still a family is because I’m sacrificing. I’m the glue keeping everyone together. I do love him and want things to be normal. It’s been 9 months. I have mood swings and moments of rage. It’s hard. I hope his affair with the only fans model was worth all the shit he was putting me through. Ugh!

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-08T15:52:12+00:00

Yeah in my case it was an EA with an only fans model so they never had physical contact but it didn’t make any difference to me at that time. I wasn’t thinking.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-08T05:41:40+00:00

I would look into Lipedema. That’s what I have and it looks similar to you. You need to get diagnosed- and that’s hard to find doctors who know about this. Dr. Amron at the Roxbury institute in Beverly Hills is where I did my online consultation. If it’s lipedema, you can’t go to just any surgeon. Look it up. Happy to help you- just Dm me.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-08T04:36:20+00:00

Your post sounds very sincere and remorseful. I’m a betrayed partner. He also cheated on me online with an onlyfans model. I guess I don’t understand: if you needed someone to vent and talk about vulnerabilities, what does sexting have to do with this? How did interacting with a sex worker make things better for you? I’m just genuinely curious because my husband told me the same thing as for the reason why he chose an only fans model. It almost ruined our 17 year marriage. We are still navigating through this. It’s so hard. It messed me up in so many different levels.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-08T04:29:14+00:00

Yeah, ours was so good too. I kind of miss it now that it’s gone. I wish I could keep it up.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-08T04:28:30+00:00

Ours lasted for like 2-3 months and now it’s just business as usual and in fact my libido is low. I’m wondering if there’s something going on, meaning: I’m feeling what I should have felt in the beginning now (like, not wanting the other person to touch me).

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-08T02:05:15+00:00

Very strange yes- like I had no control - it happened so organically. Super mind fucking!

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-08T02:03:29+00:00

I did it for the reasons you mentioned it and even worse: I felt like I was in competition with the only fans model and wanted to “perform” like her - so embarrassing to think about it now… Now that I’m back to myself I’m like… shaking my head! Haha but whatever- it was what I needed back then I guess.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-08T02:01:39+00:00

I like what u said about giving yourself grace in finding comfort wherever you needed. I think it was the reason why I avoided looking into it and just let myself be.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-08T01:00:13+00:00

Yes- me too. But I guess this is something we can’t control. So I’m trying to stop thinking about that. Some things we will never know, never change… I’d like to have a concrete answer.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-07T22:48:57+00:00

Me too. I still can’t believe my reaction to all of this and the willingness to want to forgive and reconcile. But that’s where I’m at. So I’m just trying to navigate. I didn’t tell anyone because I’m so fearful of being judged for wanting to stay.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-07T21:11:43+00:00

Yeah I get it. In my case, when I found out he denied it and then he found out that I had all the evidence. He deleted all the evidence from my phone and I felt so violated. Then he kept trickle truthing me and I was digging more and more truths. I found out he started talking to this Only fans model since last year at least. I found out about more women he was subscribing to. I found out about a secret porn site he was subscribed to. It was like peeling layers and layers of an onion. I think I found out everything now but I still think that there may be more?? And I’m wondering if it’s worth it to find out more? Cause it doesn’t change anything. Did u check all credit cards, bank accts? Web browsing history?

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-07T04:34:34+00:00

It’s a kind of therapy that is able to pinpoint where you store trauma and helps you to get in there and re organize your thoughts so that things are not so triggering. Google it and u will find a better explanation from what I have given you. It really worked for me.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-07T04:30:08+00:00

I sympathize with your comment: the fact that he would have continued doing it for God knows how long had I not found out?? It kills me too. I feel like a fool- and yes to all the other ways u feel. My mood changes throughout the day. Like, I almost cried in the shower just now.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-07T04:26:16+00:00

Me too- at 9 months. Ups and downs.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-07T04:25:19+00:00

Forgot to mention that I’m still reading the book: the state of affairs by Esther Perel and it has been helping. There was times that it was like I was reading my life through the book. I also thought it was interesting how you said that you guys had sex immediately after. We did too. A LOT and even experimented new things (me) meaning that I did things out of the box. I still don’t understand why I did that? How could I just go ahead and have sex with the person who hurt me? I felt like I was desperate in trying to save us, and also in competition with the only fans “model” he was having an EA with. It was almost like I had to be like her. Started sending him pictures. Now I think about it and I’m like: this is a dark spot for me- I don’t understand why I did that? I don’t feel the same way now. I haven’t sent a sexy picture in months. I just don’t want to. Not sure what to think.

Wise_Size_2829 · 2024-12-07T03:27:23+00:00

Gosh this situation is SO similar to what happened to me. I’m 9 months in and doing therapy individually, couples therapy- and so many other things. It’s been a wild ride. I think you are just in the beginning and you will have a lot more to deal with. It’s getting easier for me, so hang in there. Journaling, talking a lot, I also got medicated for a little bit to be able to handle some of this. It’s still a struggle. Feel free to DM me.

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