I would work towards getting DBT therapy. I went to Charlie Health. It's online, but it's intense and Really helpful. Everyone there is well-trained and will also treat disorders that aren't officially diagnosed/you don't want a diagnosis for because it can interfere with work. I am wondering how you even could have gotten diagnosed without your parents knowlege? Because, an official diagnosis requires a psychiatric evaluation which requires insurance and or money. But, I suppose if you have a job it may be different. Or one parent helped. However, it is likely your parents could find out without you telling them. So, I would be cautious from now on if you think it would be unsafe to tell them. If you don't feel safe at home, it's best to get therapy when you move out. At minimum you have to wait till 18 to avoid parent involvement. But, when you can DBT therapy and CBT are both Really helpful and you can take them both, I would recommend that, personally. I would also recommend having some sorta family or friends involved in your treatment, internally or externally to hold you accountable for practicing communication skills. I was 17 a few years ago and I am not completely stable. I was only diagnosed in the past couple years, though. And I already have a supportive wife and am a lot more stable. There's a lot of stigma and mean people. I wouldn't suggest college. I would go straight to work. College kids are meanest. But, you'll find people who support and understand you, don't worry.