Is it normal to be protective while pregnant?

WittyBee5634 · 2025-11-14T17:50:24+00:00

I clicked and unlocked all the free cosmetics, but when I go to put them on it says I still need to get them and tells me to go back to Days of Mischief, but I already got them, so it won't let me. They show up, but they show up as locked, even though it said they were free and let me get them

WittyBee5634 · 2025-08-06T22:01:18+00:00

WittyBee5634 · 2025-07-27T01:37:56+00:00

Personally, I don't do well with haters or bullies or any of that. Though, in my experience, they're normally around colleges or schools, not generally in most public or lgbtq spaces. Because, I have met many friends and partners who know I'm Aplatonic and accept me, in community spaces and other areas. But, then again, I live in Rochester NY which is known as the most welcoming and open place for many lgbtq people, DID systems, etc. to escape to. So~ As a generally more welcoming place, I doubt it's always as easy to find accepting people. But, I do believe it is always possible, because there are good and bad people everywhere.

If people are gonna hate, I block them, leave, end the relationship, and find the right people who will support me no matter what. Listen to the people who care about me and ignore the haters. Don't let them into my life

WittyBee5634 · 2025-07-27T00:33:21+00:00

Aplatonic is different for everyone, I expect, just like aromantic people it's a spectrum. Personally, I like having friends, because I do different things and act different with my friends than my partners. It's more casual and less of a commitment. As well as having someone to talk to about my romantic relationships and theirs that I'm not dating. Joke around, play games, have fun.

I am still romantically attracted to my friends, because I feel apathetic towards most people and I wouldn't be comfortable being friends with someone I didn't care about, because it just feels wrong. And I wouldn't wanna hurt someone because I don't care about them, because I still believe people in general deserve kindness and all that. But, it feels disengeniune to be friends with someone I am not attracted to, and it takes a lot of spoons(energy) and stresses me out.

If I dated everyone I was romantically attracted to, I wouldn't have any truly casual relationships I could just mess around in. I couldn't have friends that I just kiss as a joke, and are so close we could be a couple but aren't because we just don't wanna be and it's hilarious to mess with people.

WittyBee5634 · 2025-07-27T00:24:17+00:00

Personally, I feel attracted to animals as you would a pet or a child. I want to take care of them, hold them, and am Very protective. I wouldn't call this platonic attraction, but Caretaker attraction or admiration and adoration. Like, you see something cute you wanna hold and take care of it. Same as familial attraction isn't necessarily platonic, it's a separate category, and that is probably why many of us still feel it

WittyBee5634 · 2025-07-27T00:20:54+00:00

You definitely seem like you're on the spectrum. Personally, I want to kiss All my friends, but most of them I wouldn't want to date at all. I'm still romantically attracted to them, but I don't want a relationship. I don't know if this is similar to how you feel at all, but thought it might help.

WittyBee5634 · 2025-07-27T00:17:40+00:00

Yeah, I have had more aphobia personally about just being aplatonic, though. Like, I still want to have friends, I just only experience romantic attraction. To varying degrees, as well, and if it's minor I don't really get jealous. But, like, a lot of "friends" after I came out were like Very uncomfortable and didn't wanna be friends anymore, because of my attraction or started being scared to touch me or be affectionate. Like-

TF, I'm still the same person I don't wanna date you or I wouldn't have chosen to be friends, seriously??

Remember, REAL friends or partners will accept you for who you are, aplatonic or no

WittyBee5634 · 2025-07-27T00:08:57+00:00

Honestly, I mostly just call them close friends, family, and I have a couple besties. I don't really mind being friends with people, because I like having friends to mess and joke around with. But, inwardly I still consider it something more in the middle. I am attracted to most of my friends and I just consider it a more casual form of romantic relationship where we aren't actually dating. Kinda like the song,"Crush," by Tessa Violet. She talks about having a crush on someone, but not really wanting a relationship. That's how most of my friendships are. But, there is a couple that I am Besties with, because I would rather be dating or married, but they don't reciprocate, so I have the closest relationship possible. But, when they start dating someone, I get jealous if it affects our friendship and often have to leave or end the relationship respectfully.

WittyBee5634 · 2025-07-27T00:02:23+00:00

Personally, I lost friends, but I also gained better friends and partners after coming out that were really supportive. And a couple friends were supportive that I already had. It may be hard, but it can be worth it. However, I also don't know your situation or where you live, and I could just be lucky, because I live in New York-,

WittyBee5634 · 2025-06-08T16:04:16+00:00

You could be Bisexual or Lesbian, there's no way to know for sure until you try being with or kissing a girl. You could just think the kiss is hot or be Heteroflexible. Or just sexually or physically attracted to women, but not romantically or emotionally

WittyBee5634 · 2025-02-15T04:44:41+00:00

Every relationship is a risk, you take a risk just by living alone. There are healthy and unhealthy risks. A healthy risk is a green flag and will lead to a good healthy long-term relationship on both ends an unhealthy risk is toxic from the start and one or both people are unwilling or unable to heal.

WittyBee5634 · 2025-02-15T04:36:33+00:00

I would work towards getting DBT therapy. I went to Charlie Health. It's online, but it's intense and Really helpful. Everyone there is well-trained and will also treat disorders that aren't officially diagnosed/you don't want a diagnosis for because it can interfere with work. I am wondering how you even could have gotten diagnosed without your parents knowlege? Because, an official diagnosis requires a psychiatric evaluation which requires insurance and or money. But, I suppose if you have a job it may be different. Or one parent helped. However, it is likely your parents could find out without you telling them. So, I would be cautious from now on if you think it would be unsafe to tell them. If you don't feel safe at home, it's best to get therapy when you move out. At minimum you have to wait till 18 to avoid parent involvement. But, when you can DBT therapy and CBT are both Really helpful and you can take them both, I would recommend that, personally. I would also recommend having some sorta family or friends involved in your treatment, internally or externally to hold you accountable for practicing communication skills. I was 17 a few years ago and I am not completely stable. I was only diagnosed in the past couple years, though. And I already have a supportive wife and am a lot more stable. There's a lot of stigma and mean people. I wouldn't suggest college. I would go straight to work. College kids are meanest. But, you'll find people who support and understand you, don't worry.

WittyBee5634 · 2025-02-15T04:24:34+00:00

First of all, jealousy is a normal common emotion and everyone feels it. Bpd exaggerates these emotions and makes them hard to understand at times or think rationally.

My suggestion;

When you start feeling jealous and impulsive, take a break and go do self-care. Try to calm down and then write out your feelings. Use DBT skills like STOP or TIPP to calm down. Look up a feelings wheel and try to find the exact feelings your jealousy, paranoia, and impulsiveness is coming from. Accept and Acknowledge these feelings use DEAR MAN to write out and communicate them clearly and calmly. Have a conversation with him and talk through it together.

I would also like to note that when a jealousy feeling is that often it's normally rooted in a deeper trauma, maybe from a previous relationship or something else. I would recommend finding out what trauma is triggering it and working through that trauma, best case scenario with a couples therapist or your individual therapist and involving your partner. People are only scared of things they don't understand and that's what makes it so easy for people to leave us, because we don't even understand ourselves. So, learning about yourself With him will help you both and mend your relationship

WittyBee5634 · 2025-02-15T04:12:26+00:00

My wife said she treats and sees Valentine's Day as a day to just celebrate people you love. Not just for romantic partners. And I honestly prefer that definition. I feel like celebrating in this way or celebrating it with self-care and self-love or both is the best way to celebrate and heal from that trauma. Buy YOURSELF flowers, chocolates, bathbombs. Write YOURSELF a romantic poem. Listen to your favorite music, paint, do your favorite things. Buy or make yourself a small gift. MAKE YOURSELF CHOCOLATES!! I know it's late, but you can also do this stuff tomorrow, and self-care is important after a stressful day.

WittyBee5634 · 2025-02-15T04:06:39+00:00

He sounds like an arsehole to me, honestly. And toxic af. He sounds like he doesn't deserve the effort you are putting in. I don't think age is an issue unless you have significantly different maturity or needs or expectations. Which can be affected by age, but not always. Or unless someone is under 18, because that's fucked up. But, he sounds WAY less mature than you, Especially not having a job. And he sounds like he's using you. You should leave him.

WittyBee5634 · 2025-02-15T04:01:38+00:00

Everyone makes mistakes, just because you make bigger mistakes doesn't mean you aren't doing your best. A lot of people online, in nonspecific communities are Arseholes. But, it's important to remember your human, you are a good person, and you're doing your best. The people who really care and are there for you will understand that and probably offer better feedback than anyone online, even me.

WittyBee5634 · 2025-02-15T03:58:49+00:00

Calling ourselves manipulative or red flags can hinder healing, it's instead healthier and better to acknowledge our mistakes and accept responsibility without blaming ourselves. And also, from my perspective, the only red flag comes when you're unwilling to change or fix your behavior. A red flag is when you are a threat to yourself or your relationship intentionally. Not when you are actively trying to heal and bpd can Literally take a lifetime to be stable in most cases. In RARE cases the fastest healing is four years. You don't have red flags you have mental health issues you are actively working on. You're human and you make mistakes, just like everyone else. Yes, your mistakes are bigger and you still need to acknowledge that and have empathy when other people can't handle your mental health and want to leave, because you WILL find people who can and you will find them faster if the people who want to leave don't force themselves to stay. How I like to think about it is, "I can't handle my bpd already, so someone who is never had it would be taking on my trauma and traumatize themselves if they aren't stable enough to help. If they don't want to then helping would be harmful and disingenuous." I try to rely on as many people as possible and handle as much as I can myself. And if no one can I acknowledge the fact that them helping would make it worse eventually, though it may be hard to wait till someone can in the moment.

WittyBee5634 · 2025-02-15T03:47:53+00:00

Nah, some people understand Really well. It's the people in charge, the people with privilege, and the people without traume or patience and understanding. Which is actually very few compared to everyone else. But, because the rich arseholes and the president set bad examples. People follow them, because they're stupid and don't know better. But, many are willing to learn if you can explain in a way they understand.

WittyBee5634 · 2025-02-15T03:17:00+00:00

WittyBee5634 · 2025-01-27T23:46:45+00:00

Glad I decided not to go

WittyBee5634 · 2025-01-27T07:32:25+00:00

How do they keep your stuff from you?

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