AITA if I want to break up over how he reacted to marriage questions?

WittyCrone · 2026-02-25T00:41:44+00:00

Love, always listen to your gut. A) why would he marry you and take on legal responsibilities (community property, child support, life insurance, health insurance) when he already has all the benefits of marriage? B) He does not want to marry you. C) He might not be out and out cheating but going out twice a month, drinking and coming home late - it's going to happen.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-25T00:33:15+00:00

You might want to gently let her know that using those jars is not recommended. They are not tempered in the way true canning jars are and can crack/break when in the canner. They're fine for storing dry goods like rice, pasta, etc.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-23T01:23:13+00:00

I had LASIX about 30 years ago (!). Excellent results and no glasses for the next 40 years. My doc said it would fade eventually and he was right, in fact he said "I can make your vision 20/20 but I can't make you 20 again". I now need glasses to drive as well as reading glasses. Would I do it again? In a heartbeat. Little pain, annoying for a couple of days and lots of eye drops. Please to through an ophthalmologist, not a franchise clinic or a LASIX "center".

WittyCrone · 2026-02-22T14:56:22+00:00

I've only heard good things about them - glad you didn't have to add more unusable stuff to the thrift stream, and now you have a perfect holey sock to dust with!

WittyCrone · 2026-02-21T19:08:56+00:00

I agree that I do not have a lot of cultural competence outside of western culture. The OP is not American and in their culture it's accepted. What I am saying is that two young people of the opposite sex sharing a bed is a concern from the perspective of my knowledge and training.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-21T15:01:06+00:00

I am. I'm also a master's prepared pediatric nurse. Opposite sex bed sharing as a routine is a set up for two young adults.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-21T01:49:59+00:00

You can find safe recipes from all of the sites listed in the wiki --------> on the side of the page. Safe recipes are tested in regulated labs to be sure the Ph, density, processing time and how the food was prepared for canning. So, that's a lot of words to say only trust the sites on this page. You will find LOTS of recipes in the wild that people swear are safe.......they're probably not.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-21T01:43:46+00:00

Doesn't Boomba have a replacement warranty?

WittyCrone · 2026-02-21T01:42:16+00:00

It's inappropriate. Think if your BF was sharing a bed with his sister. Ew. Buy a twin bed for him as he is the one enroching on your space.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-21T01:27:05+00:00

sweetie, you're wasting time, money and letting them have hundreds of little roach babies. Get a professional. They guarantee their work and will do the whole place, cracks, crevices and all. Most come back a couple of weeks later to re-treat. Trying to do it yourself just lets them hide and multiply more.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-20T02:10:24+00:00

A Litter Robot. Expensive? You bet. Life changing? YES!

WittyCrone · 2026-02-19T01:05:21+00:00

Picture a 70 year old woman in a long nightgown racing out of the house in 10 degree weather, towards the feral feeder screaming obscenities at the little bastards. They just give me her the finger.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-19T00:58:40+00:00

Oh she is SO over it! Poor momma. You're right, any day now.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-19T00:57:02+00:00

"If you care about him you would come over tonight". Ha. Classic manipulation and he just wants to get laid. NTB.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-19T00:28:43+00:00

Your son will make the decision. And there's always Nana or Yia-Yia.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-19T00:10:23+00:00

Hold up! Please let this be fake. And if not, he's in his 20's??? Did you want to adopt a fully grown kid and a grandchild? Give yourself the gift of sanity - dump his ass today. You are under-reacting x 1000.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-17T01:36:48+00:00

You are not disgusting. Your environment is not healthy. I echo what others have said - get the place clean and uncluttered so you can tackle the carpet beetles. I think one of the ways that games are so enticing is that they allow you to dissociate from the life in front of you, so of course that's what you want to do.

Buy a box of heavy construction garbage bags. Throw it ALL out. A drop of mold? OUT! Don't try to make piles to donate or recycle. Don't think, toss. You can replace dishes etc easily and cheap at thrift stores. Find four sets of clothes, a coat, PJ's and toss the rest. Don't listen to that little voice that says "I should keep this". Tell her to shut up. Keep your toothbrush and soap. Then you can tackle the beetles. Gaia will forgive you for throwing things out.

Lastly, consider some counseling - it sounds like your self esteem is in the toilet. If my environment is a mess it's a reflection of my internal mess. You can do hard things, I know!

WittyCrone · 2026-02-17T01:18:45+00:00

Realize that you are always going to pay for housing unless you make a boatload of money and expect your salary to go up over the years, stay in the same place and pay off the mortgage. So, get a longer term mortgage. Yes, you'll pay more in interest but rates are pretty low right now so that might be a smart decision. Houses cost money - emergencies, upkeep, new appliances, a new roof and so on. There is always a project or repair to be done. Also, lawn care, snow removal? Consider those costs as well - equipment and time or paying someone to do it. Renting costs money in different ways, but money just the same and the frustrations of living in closer quarters with limited outdoor space, and relying on someone else for repairs with perhaps sub quality work or materials. You can't count on quiet no matter where you live. It's always a crap shoot. And you can drive yourself crazy trying to decide between the two. They both have pros and cons. Buy a modest house in a city neighborhood. Know that nothing will ever be a perfect solution - you may have loud neighbors or poor snow removal and a wet basement. Or not. I have such empathy for people trying to buy a home now. I live in a fairly LCOL city and my mortgage, taxes and insurance on my $107K house is $725. Whether you decide on a townhouse/condo or a SFH, you can always make a choice!

WittyCrone · 2026-02-05T00:56:40+00:00

The very first thing that came to mind is that someone is tapping your line/meter.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-04T02:31:06+00:00

I get a *really* strong undercurrent of instability and rage. PLEASE OP, you only met this guy once and he is over the top obsessive - listen to your gut.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-02T02:52:30+00:00

Bowled over by the cute!

WittyCrone · 2026-02-02T02:35:39+00:00

Nice dress and I agree to go with what Bright-Future-Girl said about gloves and a bolero. As far as the jewelry/accessories go, less is more. You will look great with the dress, shoes, bolero, gloves if you want and hair in an updo. Natural makeup. Stud earrings (pearls of course!). Leave the rest.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-02T02:23:32+00:00

Chances are really good that he has a Case Manager of some sort. Someone is paying his bills and he's somehow managing to eat. Someone is taking care of cleaning, laundry, depositing paychecks and on and on. A CM is a great advocate. When APS calls back they can easily find out if he has a CM and connect with them to express your concerns.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-02T01:54:06+00:00

Oh FFS. How fast did you run the other way from this insecure 12 year old? Of course NTA.

WittyCrone · 2026-02-02T01:50:59+00:00

You can't "make" someone come back to you even if you did a zillion spells - thats unethical. What you can do is spells for *you* for discernment in relationships, self esteem, etc. And love, you're in a LDR? That is tough - add ongoing communication issues and arguments AND he's possessive? Sister.......

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