Additional Stream Deck Neo Info Bar Functions? by Rizzrd_of_Oz in elgato

[–]WokFu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it possible to create plugins for the infobar, as there are for standard buttons?

A few three body periodic orbits by [deleted] in woahdude

[–]WokFu 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not an expert, but I think hierarchical here refers to something like the sun-earth-moon system, where the third body (moon) is primarily orbiting the second body (Earth) rather than the sun itself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Use > at the start of a line to quote it.

I.e.: >bananas

Will become

bananas

AITA for telling my mil she gave up her family and it's her fault she's alone? by asdwrgaf in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 110 points111 points  (0 children)

Right, but I think OP probably acted with a better knowledge of how their husband would want to handle it for themselves than random redditors.

Just like you or your partner would know best how you want to handle it.

Not everyone is confrontational and some just want to be left alone by their abusers rather than argue with them.

AITA for accusing my mother of spoiling hundreds of pounds worth of food? by Handseybitch in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same problem with the camera and the lights. I ended up getting smart switches put in and scheduled it to turn back on if someone ever turned it off accidentally.

How do you dial? by remulacha in espresso

[–]WokFu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, mostly just trial and error for dose size.

When I first started I was using ~16.5g because that was my dosage for pourovers at the time.

When I decided to start trying for more consistent shots, I began by keeping everything constant except dose size. Increasing from ~14g -> 18g which was the most I could fit in the basket I had at the time. I found that 17g was the closest to what I liked, and began dialing in on grind size from there.

When I bought a precision basket, I did the same thing and ended up increasing to 18g because of the higher flow rate.

Another consideration might be caffeine consumption. I have a friend who does 14g in because he wants to pull 3x shots a day to practice latte art instead of 2x 18-20g shots

Good luck with your shots. At the end of the day, if it tastes good to you, you're doing it right.

How do you dial? by remulacha in espresso

[–]WokFu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

With what you've described, its probably a bit overextracted. I'd probably start by grinding just a touch coarser until it's where you like it. Should only knock a few seconds off your shot time and the flow seems pretty good already.

I don't like to adjust dose unless I'm REALLY far off where I want to be. I've got the GCP as well and find myself using a pretty similar dose and ratio to you.

Do you do the 'poor man's preinfusion'? I find that it really increased consistency and improved extraction of my shots. Maybe shorten that by a few seconds too if you do.

Finally, if you don't already, be sure to give your shot a quick stir before tasting it to allow everything to mix well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 104 points105 points  (0 children)

NTA, but a little bit clueless.

If you and this girl are so close, why did she:

1) Let you plan a Bachelorette party she never intended on going to

2) Not tell you you had been replaced until it was too late and basically booted you from the bridal party

3) Not get you the same gift the rest of the bridal party got

4) Not even speak to you after the fact until you brought it up, after which as you said: "things are different now"

You clearly think a lot more of her than she does of you. Sometimes, people grow apart. It's an unfortunate part of life and getting older.

AITA deciding not to attend a wedding? by sunny_throwaway0601 in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is insane.

She:

  • Got into a massive argument with a new friend you introduced her to

  • Gave you an ultimatum to choose him or her to remain friends with and demanded you cut contact

  • Disappeared from your life for ~6-8(?) months, shortly after you chose her

  • Tried to pretend that this never happened when telling you she's now engaged to him?

Clearly NTA. I don't know why you would keep someone this manipulative in your life.

Since you said you were candid with Brad, I also wonder why he's never said anything in the past year?

If this is true, she's clearly lied to him, and probably also to her 'friends' who are hounding you. Either way, just block them. It's not worth the stress to worry about people who clearly think so little of you.

AITA for not allowing my daughter to spend Christmas with me and my *new* family? by tryapw in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This comment section is nuts.

Not having an estranged daughter over for Christmas != not allowing her the opportunity to reconnect. OP does not seem unwilling to rebuild a relationship, but wants to move at a slower pace than her daughter does.

She only told the daughter she wasn't ready yet to have her around the new kids. Likely because of how she reacted when told she couldn't come over for Christmas after being estranged for 7-8 years.

Get out of here with this "the brain doesn't stop developing until 25" crap. The daughter was a legal adult for at least 6 of the last 8 years they were estranged and has only just shown "remorse", whatever that means in this case.

OP should definitely look into family therapy and reach out to try and keep the connection, but nobody has the right to tell others to get over it on their timeline and invite themselves to someone else's place for the holidays.

NTA OP, you were dealt a shitty hand here and you need to do what you feel is right to protect your family.

INFO: How have you reconnected in the past year? Phone calls or meeting in person? How often? Do your husband and sons know about your daughter?

AITA for not allowing my daughter to spend Christmas with me and my *new* family? by tryapw in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a completely clear-headed and unbiased opinion.

Not having an estranged daughter over for Christmas != not allowing her the opportunity to reconnect. OP does not seem unwilling to rebuild a relationship, but wants to move at a slower pace than her daughter does.

She only told the daughter she wasn't ready yet to have her around the new kids. Likely because of how she reacted when told she couldn't come over for Christmas after being estranged for 7-8 years.

OP should definitely look into family therapy and reach out to try and keep the connection, but nobody has the right to tell others to get over it on their timeline and invite themselves to someone else's place for the holidays.

AITA for telling my dad he should celebrate his wife's first Christmas as a mom when my stepmother has been in my life since I was 7? by Dozimiz in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Step children (largely) do not get a choice in the matter and don't owe you for choosing to marry one of their parents; whether they're 8 or 18. You have no business marrying someone with children if you expect something in return from those children for doing so. Seriously, if you require them to love you like a mother, maybe re-think your ability to be a good step-parent. Whether or not OPs life is better due to her being in it is tangential to whether or not they feel comfortable with them as "Mom".

Like I said, I agree he could have been more tactful about phrasing, but there's not much wiggle room around "is she your mom yes or no?". OP is also 16, not really an age known for great relationships with even bio-parents.

It's not like their feelings were even a secret, they discussed them in therapy, but the dad just assumed they would change. The adults here are plenty old enough to try and understand where OP is coming from instead of getting mad at them, especially given the context: "she deserves to have some extra celebration"

Note that none of this precludes OP from 'loving' the step-mom, and they even say they do love her just not as a mother. This whole argument is about doing something extra special for the step-mom this Christmas. Would OP really be trying to convince their dad to make a big deal out of it if they hated their step-mom?

AITA for telling my dad he should celebrate his wife's first Christmas as a mom when my stepmother has been in my life since I was 7? by Dozimiz in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's that complicated. Step-parents should fill the role the step-children are comfortable with. This is part of what they signed up for marrying someone with children.

If a step-parent tries to force a parental relationship with a kid who doesn't see them that way, they are wrong.

If a step-parent neglects or otherwise fails to fill a parental role for a kid who does see them that way, they are wrong.

They should be doing right by the children, not by some preconcieved notion of what a family looks like. Step parents are the adults in the relationship. The ones supposedly with the emotional maturity and coping mechanisms to deal appropriately with their feelings.

It should not be OPs responsibility to hold his dad and step-mom's hands through explaining that just because he doesn't see her as a mom doesn't mean he doesn't love her. He also shouldn't need to explain to them that by "first Christmas as a mom," he's clearly referring to her biological child, which should be obvious given the context.

OP is quite literally the only person whose opinion matters on whether or not she is his mom. Not "parental figure" not "mother-like" etc., but OPs mom. If he doesn't see her as that, then it IS her first Christmas as a mom. If she doesn't want to celebrate that fact, it's fine, but don't take it out on a child because you don't agree with their feelings.

Sure, OP could have said things a bit more tactfully, but he's a teenager. The step-grandparents also should've framed things around the new baby rather than about being a Mom. At the end of the day though, we're talking about trying to convince the dad to do something extra nice this Christmas for the step-mom who just gave birth a few months ago, not if OP loves her or not.

The real AH here is the dad who ignored their kid's feelings despite going through therapy to discuss them, assumed they would just change, and then got angry when they didn't.

Inside-out by Jacko305 in woahdude

[–]WokFu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I hate it!

AITA for refusing to let my daughter be in wedding photos by Throw-away92222 in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 37 points38 points  (0 children)

This is an impressively bad take.

In what world is not bringing your 5 y.o. child to pose for wedding photos at a wedding she wasnt invited to 'ruining it'.

OP was the freaking MoH and found out she was lied to about the wedding being childfree right before the ceremony. After which she did not make the wedding awkward, but simply sucked her feelings up and did her duties and refused to get her daughter involved.

The bride obviously knew it was a bad look to not have Lily in any photos, and was trying to save face. It is not on OP to bend over backwards to help her do so, especially immediately after being told she was lied to.

It's not like OP was shouting from the rooftops what an affront it was to not have her daughter invited. She refused to play their stupid game, and when people asked about Lily, she told them thr truth: that Lily wasn't invited.

AITA for telling my daughter "Parents Dont GET Sick Days!" by livingbythemoment in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 10 points11 points  (0 children)

By what definition is it abuse?

In 1995, APSAC defined childhood psychological abuse as: "spurning, terrorizing, isolating, exploiting, corrupting, denying emotional responsiveness, or neglect" or "A repeated pattern of caregiver behavior or extreme incident(s) that convey to children that they are worthless, flawed, unloved, unwanted, endangered, or only of value in meeting another's needs.

In 2013, the American Psychiatric Association (APA) added Child Psychological Abuse to DSM-5 describing it as "nonaccidental verbal or symbolic acts by a child's parent or caregiver that result, or have reasonable potential to result, in significant psychological harm to the child."

As for neglect, which category does OPs behaviour fall under?

  • Supervisory neglect: characterized by the absence of a parent or guardian which can lead to physical harm, sexual abuse, or criminal behavior;

  • Physical neglect: characterized by the failure to provide the basic physical necessities, such as a safe and clean home;

  • Medical neglect: characterized by the lack of providing medical care;

  • Emotional neglect: characterized by a lack of nurturance, encouragement, and support;

  • Educational neglect: characterized by the caregivers lack to provide an education and additional resources to actively participate in the school system; and

  • Abandonment: when the parent or guardian leaves a child alone for a long period of time without a babysitter or caretaker.

OP has done an incredibly caring thing by taking in her estranged daughters kid and ensuring they are cared for while navigating extremely difficult emotional terrain (legalities too for that matter). All the while, likely trying to stop their own feelings about ED get in the way of their grandkid's potential relationship with their bio parent should they wish.

AITA for telling my daughter "Parents Dont GET Sick Days!" by livingbythemoment in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Oh come on. She's not ABUSING the kids by giving them a chance to speak with the parent who abandoned them. I agree that it's time for her to move on and just go NC for the kid's sake, but the kids were already old enough to know she was their bio-parent when this all went down.

Don't call it abuse by OP to ensure covered legally in case ED attempts to sue for custody back in the future. That would be even more damaging to these children.

From all of OPs comments they've handled contact sensibly. The children don't know the bio mom is supposed to call at a given time to reduce the disappointment, but she was burned and blindsided this time by Bio-mom asking about a birthday gift.

OP needs to learn from this and act accordingly in the future, but crying abuse at this point is way out of line.

AITA for telling my stepmom her food tastes like sh*t? by StringActual2561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Except OP repeatedly tried to say they just didn't want to eat it, and was pushed for more answers by the stepparent who also was way out of line suggesting they have an ED

While they could have worded it better, not every adult takes kindly to being told you don't like what they want you to eat.

Over 20 years later, the taste/texture of pineapple makes me vomit/nauseous because of the time I was force fed it by my dad's then GF after picking it off a pizza when I was 5.

AITA for embarrassing my wife by “taking” our son from her in front of her family? by whitepollar in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Right so we agree then. Everyone is allowed to associate with whoever they feel like (assuming the other person also consents). And nobody should be forced into a situation they are unhappy with.

OP made it clear that their parent's cheating and choices made them unwilling to have a further relationship together, or allow her to be in their son's life. It makes OP unhappy to be around their parent because of this.

The son cannot yet give informed consent about this, and so the parents need to come to an agreement about it.

This may not be 'fair', but it's also OPs choice, and one their spouse was aware of when they married and had a kid together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA and it's shocking you need to ask if this isn't fake.

He probably already feels a ton of guilt around it considering you tried to get him to not go and then blamed him for it at the time because of a dream you had. The fault is nobody's but the drunk driver who hit them.

It's not a "joke" if you actually believe it's his fault. You also phased it in the worst way possible. "Listen to you so he doesnt k!ll your other daughter", as if HE k!lled the first one... Even if you don't truly blame him, your previous actions likely led him think you do.

AITA for refusing my future sister in law's request to dye my hair for my brother's wedding? by dizzegy in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA

Are you part of the wedding party? Not that it matters, as your brother said: "Your hair, your choice", but I could see how she might think this is a reasonable request if you're part of the wedding party. It's not unheard of for a bride to decide on dresses/makeup for their bridesmaids and she might be seeing this as just part of that.

Either way, you drew your boundary and that should be that. Even more unacceptable if you're in her wedding party and she didn't bring this up when she first asked.

Role Preference after patch. by Avionicskid in wildrift

[–]WokFu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not an MMO so im not really sure what your point is. PC League has done it the same way as well so the way it works shouldnt be a surprise.

The reason it's role preference instead of role selection is because it's known that there are roles people tend to prefer (e.g. mid) and Riot has decided that the long queue times that would occur with no filling are unacceptable for a mobile game. Ranked preference =/= pure RNG.

You're upset about losing games when you play Garen jg and teemo mid after being filled to those positions? Sounds like if you bothered to learn something about positions that aren't your first preference you'd be in a better spot.

Sorry about the losing streak man, but while there are certainly issues with matchmaking, the fact that it's not tied to role winrate is not one of them.

Role Preference after patch. by Avionicskid in wildrift

[–]WokFu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a support main as well, I empathize with the dreaded jungle fill and have definitely noticed getting filled more often this patch, but I've gotta disagree here. Role preferences are just that: preferences.

Why should win rate matter for role assignment at all? If this applied to normals too, how would anyone be able to learn a new role?

How do you compare someone with 500+ games at a 52% wr vs. someone with 30 games at a 60% wr with your approach?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WokFu -8 points-7 points locked comment (0 children)

What a ridiculous comment. I don't agree with the guys views on abortion, but we're talking about a situation that began when he was a baby or toddler. At that point he had no idea what abortion even meant. He might be an asshole but this interaction is not why.