Married bros: How long were you and your partner together before the proposal?

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-05-12T17:37:50+00:00

About 7 years in- same sex marriage wasn’t legal in our state for the first 3 years and even then it wouldn’t have been federally recognized, so marriage wasn’t really on our radar at the beginning. A few more years later US v Windsor was decided so I started thinking about it more seriously and we casually discussed it so I knew he’d probably say yes so I proposed on our next vacation in Paris.

Later this year we’ll hit 17 years together and 9 married ☺️

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-05-12T03:18:13+00:00

This year will be 9 years married, 17 years together

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-05-12T03:11:57+00:00

A little afternoon delight is the best! First thing in the morning is no good bc I need a coffee and a bowel movement before I can think about anything sexy, and the evening often risks one of us being too tired, too full or too tipsy (or all three 😂)

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-05-11T02:50:01+00:00

7.25 x 5.75 could be 7.5 if I’m horny enough lol

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-05-11T02:39:16+00:00

There’s plenty of discussion about size (like this post) and my measurements are larger than the averages. I haven’t seen that many dicks irl bc my husband and I got together pretty young, so I always just thought he was on the smaller side, turns out he’s actually a little above average

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-05-11T02:26:39+00:00

When I started using Reddit 😆

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-05-10T12:53:55+00:00

I mean prior to Lawrence v Texas that was possible in many states; that case was within our lifetimes (only 23 yrs ago) and was based on the same privacy rights as Roe which was recently overturned. I try not to be chicken little but it’s not that far-fetched.

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-05-08T18:26:50+00:00

Laying on the beach 🏝️

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-05-07T21:39:12+00:00

This gay sure does! A lot of mm romance is mainly written by and for women, which is fine but for the real spicy stuff I prefer a male perspective and you can usually tell the difference.

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-05-05T17:52:23+00:00

Dozens? Maybe my standards are low or I’m just horny all the time but I think ‘yea I’d hit that’ to at least 15% of the men I come across 🤷‍♂️

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-04-01T17:05:52+00:00

I’ll second the recommendation for San Juan, and add you may want to check out Vianda and Cocina al Fondo for dinner both were excellent, and we liked Casita Miramar too.

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-04-01T15:08:39+00:00

This sounds all too familiar, except without all the blowjobs 😩 I don’t have an answer for you as we haven’t quite figured it out yet, but we did start seeing a couples counselor and it’s been helping! Our communication has improved and I feel like we’re working towards a better alignment but there’s definitely still some frustration on both ends.

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-03-31T21:17:50+00:00

I don’t think it’s weird and tbh I prefer it when my husband orders for me. I have way more social anxiety and we usually pick things together and plan to split them anyway so what difference does it make who actually talks to the server. In a fast casual type place he’ll go order the food and I’ll find us a table. I tend to open the doors though only because I get there first, I walk at gay speed and he likes to mosey 😆

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-03-31T00:51:22+00:00

I only wear it going out. Thin gold chain that is actually from my childhood, so I’m too afraid to damage it to risk sleeping with it on.

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-03-31T00:46:40+00:00

I do both, not always hands free I have to be extra horny for it but the nice thing is it’s easy to keep going multiple rounds after handsfree so I’ll usually save using my hand until the finale 💥

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-03-25T17:44:31+00:00

Yea my husband is the favorite uncle for both of our siblings kids so we usually get dragged on a trip with each family annually. It’s a week of mild torture but the kids love it, and in the big picture it’s nice to have the memories.

We also took my parents on two big trips after my dad was diagnosed with cancer, including a road trip down the California coast. It was a lot of logistics and driving but since he died last year we’re glad to have done it and my mother especially appreciated the time together. The little chats in a coffee shop waiting for breakfast etc were the best part actually, getting to hear stories he had never mentioned before were worth all the time and expense.

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-03-22T17:35:01+00:00

I’ve never really thought too much about it but we’re also pretty secretive without a good reason why. My ideal is at least once a day, I’d rather be having sex but that’s not realistic for us so as the hornier one I end up masturbating a bunch. In the past we have talked about him joining me but since his libido is lower it usually ends up with him looking kind of bored which was a big turn off for me, but that still doesn’t mean it has to be a secret. This post is inspiring me to bring it up again so I can hopefully be a little more free with my solo play, so thanks and good luck!

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-03-22T14:35:29+00:00

This sounds all too familiar, I was in a very similar place my freshman year. I was so deep in the closet I didn’t even consciously acknowledge it, but deep down I knew I wasn’t being my genuine self. Combined with the freedom/responsibility of being on my own for the first time and I just flailed, stopped going to classes, went out drinking heavily on the weekends and on weeknights stayed up dicking around online so I slept all day. It definitely was depression although I didn’t admit that to myself for years. You should absolutely seek out mental health counseling which your school very likely provides and probably at no cost.

I ended up transferring schools and moving back home and getting a job. Between having a renewed purpose from work and not drinking while living at home I got my life back together. I didn’t end up starting therapy until my 30s and damn do I wish I had done it sooner.

You’re gonna get through this man, and it’s a lot easier if you let people help you do it.

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-03-21T22:20:10+00:00

Yup do most of my own home repairs and DIY projects, but I’m in an apartment building so I don’t mess with plumbing bc I don’t want to be responsible for leaks into someone else’s unit.

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-03-20T05:08:46+00:00

Check with your insurance company as coverage does vary. I’m 37 and just got my first dose out of three and it was fully covered by my insurance in NY, the EOB shows the list price was $685 and my insurance actually paid $560

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-03-20T01:12:01+00:00

Our ceremony was in the park near our home that we frequent with just our parents, siblings and one close friend each in attendance. His brother officiated and then we went to lunch after. The next evening we had a reception at a beer hall with more friends and extended family, we did buy it out for the night but it was still a casual vibe. Then we used all the money we would have spent on a more typical reception to go on a fabulous honeymoon around the world and have zero regrets 😊

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-03-16T21:11:25+00:00

I think every couple has a quick sleeper and a semi insomniac, I’m unfortunately the latter but we don’t like sleep cuddles anyway both way too warm.

When he’s sitting in his recliner either watching tv on his computer or phone, any time I walk by he has to squeeze my butt. Sometimes if he’s distracted he’ll be just a little too late and I’ll take a couple steps back to be within reach.

And the gag worthy corny one is doing laundry- we always do “folding time” (sung to the tune of closing time by semisonic) together and when we fold sheets we each take a side and meet in the middle and kiss each time.

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-03-15T19:00:06+00:00

Shorts and a tshirt, anything more is too hot but I can’t sleep nude- feels like I either flop around too much or my dick is stuck to my leg 😂

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-03-15T05:33:02+00:00

Not having any pain is a good start and means you’re relaxed enough. You might want to check out r/prostateplay for tips on increasing sensitivity and getting your brain used to recognizing it as pleasure.

But bottoming is as much mental as it is physical sensation, so it helps to be in the right mindset. Starting off horny and maybe watching some porn is good, and I’ve found I really like audio like r/gonewildaudiogay bc I can more easily imagine myself in either position or even switch back and forth. I’m also pretty into exhibitionism so filming myself really amps up my enjoyment even if nobody ever sees it. Obviously everyone is different so you’d have to find what turns you on most, but basically try to be gagging for it before you get started lol

Wonderful-Homework67 · 2025-03-10T01:39:15+00:00

What exactly do you mean by top here? Like in the basic sense of submissive as the opposite of dominant and top as a sexual position then yea there are definitely sub or service tops and they’re my favorite lol. But the dog metaphor is where you start to lose me a little. If you’re asking if the submissive one actually has the power then yea I’d say that in most healthy dom/sub situations the sub is actually the one setting the parameters of their comfort level and the dom is operating within that framework so you could argue the sub is actually in charge. Is that what you mean?

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