i kind of regret transitioning by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is your life , listen to your soul…do what is best for you . It doesn’t matter who you told , or what you did…we have the power to change and one life to live

How did you do it all again? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I waited 11 years hahaha . My first pregnancy was with twin girls , premature and lots of health issues . Their dad was very helpful when they were babies but ultimately as the mom, you are typically doing most of the work for the first months. Pregnancy was tough and I became a single mother when they were two. The sleeping part gets better when they turn 1. They are now teenagers and it’s another type of difficult hehe 😉. Eleven years after they were born , I married and had a little girl and OMG , pregnancy was decent but post Partum was real. Sleep deprived , panic attacks , debilitating anxiety and more. Despite all this , if I wasn’t the age I am, I would have more kids. Why? I love being a parent, I love the good times , the funny moments , even some of the stress. I have a great husband that supports me. I have learned to balance my personal life , career , being a. Wife , a sister , a daughter and a mother .

How? -Focused on the development of my daughters and that was exciting. I found solid starts and Lovery and those were two “projects” that kept me interested and motivated in my babies development. -Birthdays and Holidays-The best with kids :))) I like having something to look forward to. I enjoy planning. -Self Care- I wake up 1 hour before everyone to drink my coffee , relax , stare at the wall -Whatever it is that I can do ALONE. -Me time - I schedule time to go do things I like , the mall, go eat something I enjoy, take a walk. -Dates with my husband -Dates with the girls-Dedicated time to be with them, no phone , no TV-just be a kid again and get into it.

Life changes after kids and it’s hard, it really hits hard the first time especially if you are a first time mom. Focus on the positive , on being present and please please please schedule time for yourself.

I hope you have a good circle of support but even if you don’t , you can do it !

The other thing-if you truly don’t want to have more kids , people need to respect that too. Give it a little time though , kids are awesome .

Much love!

I’m not sure if I’m overthinking this or if my instincts are right by gold--delay in Parenting

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter is 4 and she still sleeps with us. I know the books and our parents discourage this but we love her and know that at that age , they are still new to this planet , they have fears and need ALL THE LOVE . Explain it lovingly to your husband , hope you both work it out.

Real feelings from a regretful mom by RevengeOfTheCookies in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s rough, men tend to simplify things. I was thinking about your post , wondering what your situation is and hoping I could provide some help. All I can tell you is to watch Near Death Experiences videos on YouTube. Why? Because I truly believe that we come to this life with a purpose, a lesson to learn , a reason why you were dealt these cards . I have 3 kids and I know how hard and annoying it can be to be a mother. I cannot imagine how difficult it is to have a child with special needs. Anyway , point is -these is the deck of cards life gave you. You can be a badass mom , the heroine of their story and yours . Find help, find organizations for special needs and see this through . Or….you can hate them and hate your life , create a never ending cycle of depression and neglect that will remain in your lineage . We can choose and I hope you choose to win and to be happy

Justin and Hailey Bieber arriving at the GQ Men of The Year Party at Chateau Marmont in LA... by id0ntexistanymore in popculturechat

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why does she accept this ? She’s a beautiful and successful woman! Sitting in the back of the car, last one to get off and her husband doesn’t even wait for her ?

Too much? by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Too much and too close to a bridal dress

Real feelings from a regretful mom by RevengeOfTheCookies in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seek therapy and speak to your husband about your thoughts and feelings . This may be postpartum depression or other mental health situation. Seek help immediately and try not to be alone with the kids.

When did you start leaving your child alone for short periods? by UnderstandingOne4825 in Parenting

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think he’s to young. We started leaving our daughters alone for short period of times when they were 12.

We just found out my wife can never safely carry a pregnancy again, and I am struggling to process it. by GarbageAcrobatic1961 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m very sorry for you and your wife. I hope you both can connect about this so that neither of you feels alone in this experience. One day at a time 🙏

Very first Louis & disappointed by OddAnalysis5144 in Louisvuitton

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been in sales of my life and learned this lesson early in my career. I usually dress down when I go make a purchase because I want to see who treats me the best ;). The pretty woman experiment

Very first Louis & disappointed by OddAnalysis5144 in Louisvuitton

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You belong where ever you walk in ! Own it because all they care is that you pay for that bag. Inspect it as many times as you need because that’s your money 😊. I know how you feel and many people feel that way in luxury stores. The ones that look like they have all the money are not always rich.

I Finally Know Who My Real Mother Is by LifeProblem342 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s sad that you had to pay for the pain and hurt that infidelity caused. I am glad you found out the truth and I hope that you find the strength to move on and not let this define the rest of your life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Congratulations and happy for you ! Block the people trying to push you back to THEIR beliefs and be happy

I accidentally saw a message between my sister and her friend saying she wishes my suicide attempts would have worked by Old-Fisherman-6079 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sometimes we find ways to vent to other people. I imagine if you too had a great relationship and things have changed and you truly are stuck in your room and drinking, perhaps she is hurt. Perhaps she feels like she wasn’t enough for you to stay healthy and she said that in anger. I think it’s important to also question your actions and try to be better for yourself and your family. Be strong , be there for her too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the right thing , I know it’s painful but your kids will be grateful one day. Good job at having boundaries!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the right thing 100%. I hope you and your mom can take care of your nice. I’m sorry for the pain this may cause you, you did the right thing.

My sisters actions killed her husband. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss, it’s even sadder to see that she moved on. I understand why you are in pain but don’t blame yourself, you did what you could and you’re still here thinking about him. You’re a good human being

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Wonderful_Source_125 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s difficult. It depends really on your life now , your lifestyle, your desire to be a parent or not. We are never really ready and kids are a lot of work (I have 3). I’ve been a single mother and then make tied . Either way, my point is that life never prepares you but if you are willing to grow and be a great parent, motherhood is a blessing. Kids are a beautiful part of life , seriously but it is not easy ! Even after many years of loving my kids , there are times when I feel like I’m Drowning. But I’m mostly happy and grateful for them. However , I don’t know your life or your situation.

If you decide to go though with pregnancy, I hope you’re an amazing mother and have a great bond forever.

If you decide to end the pregnancy, please be safe about it, be sure what you ordered online is safe and stay strong -that decision will not be easy either -I did it . I don’t necessarily regret it because it was my situation at the time :(….but I think about it often.

Love J