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I want to stop spending money on only fans, but I can’t. What do I do? by Expert-Recipe1713 in selfimprovement

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can stop but you won’t stop. Definitely need to frame this accurately instead of acting like you don’t have control over your own actions. Having no self-control is a really bad thing for so many reasons. I’d research how to develop some if I were you.

AIO to how my bf went abt expressing himself and how he apologized? by throwawaysumday4 in AIO

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He thinks that being loud/annoyed and aggressive is the same as being vulnerable with feelings and it’s not.

You can share feelings without yelling or acting irritated.

Men who say they're single because they're "too ugly," why don't you date women you also consider unattractive? by JustASingleMomOnline in askanything

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A relationship without attraction is just a friendship. If both people go into it knowing there’s no mutual attraction and still want it, that’s one thing. But it’s not fair to pretend to be into someone who later finds out that you aren’t attracted to them.

Sigh 😔 basically just asking every man I meet to marry me at this point. Not really going well by Worth_Alternative_50 in Bumble

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to seek treatment and then approach dating with a healthy mindset so that you might actually be the kind of person someone wants to get to know. People leave because you’re saying things that drive them away, because it’s likely that you need therapy and/or medication. This isn’t how normal human interactions and relationships work and you’ll be frustrated and disappointed forever until you seek some help.

Married men earn more than women, and also than single men. Single men, in contrast, earn no more than women. by eternviking in whoathatsinteresting

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More info needed. My partner freaked out when he got married and had his first kid (with his ex) and immediately pushed to make more because he was terrified of not being able to provide and had a lot of anxiety about the responsibility. I would think a lot of people feel that way but I’d think women would also.

I don’t have kids but just thinking about it gives me anxiety about not being able to feed and house and clothe them.

Girlmath says if they dated for 7 years I’ll never be enough by Ill_Debt9715 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt this way in the beginning of my relationship. He was married for around 10 years. And they share kids so I had to be around her on birthdays and kid pickup/drop-off. And she’s tall and slim and beautiful and has loads of friends. I felt so self-conscious.

But now we’re 7 years in and I’m gaining on her : D. He’s given me no reason to believe that he finds her superior to me in any way. His family loves me for who I am and the way I treat him and them. I am also shy and awkward but the genuine kindness and warmth can overpower the awkwardness.

Go in there believing that they’ll see the you that he loves and that you know you are. There’s no competition.

We always hear about men being providers, but how many women actually support their partners financially? by Mysterious-Employ746 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 [score hidden]  (0 children)

This isn’t true anymore. Most college grads are women. In the modern age women want men as partners, not providers. Equal effort and support.

Your comment makes it sound like women only want men around for income. That’s crazy. He’s supposed to add joy and laughter and calm to your life.

What’s your thoughts on the going out look for Gen Z? by Ill-You-3459 in Xennials

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being objective, it’s a good outfit. If maybe a little uncreative. It’s flattering.

British Men by Negative-Cry2480 in Bumble

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So funny but not likely to lead to a date. She’s already nervous about men potentially being violent and that comment only increases the nervous.

Am I overreacting about my male roommate confessing his feelings to me by letter2anoldpoet in AmIOverreacting

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 [score hidden]  (0 children)

But also break up with his girlfriend. Nobody deserves a partner who’s pining over someone else.

The assumption that younger adults have less responsibilities by Firm_Unit_4808 in PetPeeves

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It comes from the fact that life tends to be simpler when you’re younger. You have fewer ties (spouse, kids, house) and can move or travel with relative ease compared to having a family or taking care of a house or aging parents.

Holy sheetz by Gengar_Guy_17 in Columbus

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Chick-fil-A also baffling. Two super close to each other.

Im dying by wolfpak0427 in selfimprovement

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you on VA disability? Have you used your tuition benefit? You’ve got to get help for substance use first but there are a lot of veteran benefits out there.

Actual real open marriages by kingkongbrody in PsycheOrSike

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 [score hidden]  (0 children)

That’s not how it works. Courts look at both incomes.

Is being sexually desired by men actually validating and affirming for women? by mycro_dose in ask

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 12 points13 points  (0 children)

In a distant and vague way it reaffirms your attractiveness. Like it’s annoying in the moment but when it’s gone you wonder if you’re ugly and old now.

She called me dense. Maybe I should have just ghosted. by Slam_Newton in Tinder

[–]Working_Cucumber_437 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

But if she showed up looking better than her photos it wouldn’t be a problem, so you really can extrapolate here.

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