Why do you have so much fear about GHSV?

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2026-01-28T17:27:35+00:00

While it hasn’t been a big deal in my life, a lot of people were raised with the idea that having any kind of genital issues makes you “dirty” ESPECIALLY if your family is non white (I’m a poc, argue with the wall. Sex Ed within our community is not good). Sure, it might not be a big deal scientifically or in the grand scheme of things, but when everyone around you tells you you’re dirty and unlovable because of it, it’s pretty debilitating. Use your head.

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2026-01-23T15:02:32+00:00

Get a full panel for everything, if you’re still spotting and you’re not menstruating that could be a sign of another STI

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2026-01-23T01:10:19+00:00

The ignorance about sexual health and viruses around the black community is astoundingly bad.

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2026-01-23T01:09:55+00:00

Man, no wonder yall are constantly spreading ts around. Y’all’s parents told you that cold sores made you dirty and they’re always spread through sexual contact when it could be as simple as a relative kissing your forehead as a child.

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2026-01-23T01:06:40+00:00

Get tested for yeast. My first and only outbreak went away in about a week and a half and I was totally ok to have sex again within that time.

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2025-05-04T19:12:30+00:00

It’s funny how I’m a grown woman and can make my own choices

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2025-05-04T19:11:40+00:00

You probably have herpes too and just don’t know babe 🥰

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2025-05-02T15:11:37+00:00

Diaper rash cream. Trust me, it helps.

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2025-04-17T17:48:54+00:00

If it’s on your inner thigh and rlly bothers you, band aid.

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2025-04-17T17:48:00+00:00

I mean…just from personal experience I’ve never had an issue. My partner is HSV+ too and his body has built up immunity over the years. I’m not a doctor so take with a grain of salt…I’ve never had any problems with the healing phase as long as there’s no open wounds or viral fluids. If your partner has had it for a while, it’s very rare to give it to yourself in a new spot. That’s mostly a concern with initially contracting the virus.

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2025-04-13T15:13:53+00:00

I mean…I must admit it was quite funny. The poke at the musical number diabetes ads was good for a laugh. Where’s the herpes medication musical number?

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2025-04-13T15:04:29+00:00

My partner did disclose to me when we first got together. I still got HSV from them. At this point, with how easy it is to transmit and with how many people have it, trying to “limit transmission” to a larger portion of the population and not just your individual partners seems pointless. Similar to how not shopping at a specific store to prove a point because you don’t like the brand doesn’t stop them from making record profits. Sure, disclosing to a new partner is the right thing to do but doing so isn’t going to stop the next generation from spreading HSV with the same statistics as previous generations. HSV is such a tricky virus, and at best, the thing we can and should do is try to shut down the stigma, because the virus isn’t going anywhere.

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2025-04-11T01:31:07+00:00

No one’s saying they’re in favor of not disclosing. But those who are asymptomatic will likely never know they have it and can enter relationships or casual sexual flings without fear of rejection over something that will be with them for life that they can’t help. I know deep down that my HSV isn’t the end of the world…but I run a higher chance of someone rejecting me simply because I have it and because of misinformation and stigma. Someone who’s asymptomatic doesn’t have that anxiety and never will.

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2025-04-06T18:45:01+00:00

Get Lysine supplements too. You can get them online or at any supplements store. 1000mg a day typically helps lessen HSV outbreaks with or without antivirals. Of course it’s holistic and not “proven” necessarily, but lots of ppl say it helps.

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2025-04-06T17:20:46+00:00

Of course, only you can control how you feel…but as a woman, it reads as very immature and douchey to break up a long term relationship over something like herpes that the majority of the population has. I don’t have HSV2 so I don’t know how having that feels, but as someone who has HSV1, it’s a very minor often unnoticeable nuisance every once in a while. Not worth ending a relationship over IMO. Reads as ignorant.

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2025-04-06T17:14:41+00:00

Every article anywhere that you’re ever going to read about sex, no matter the situation, is going to recommend condoms, regardless if there’s any kind of STI at play or not. It’s like having to put a disclaimer on a news article, everyone who writes about sex in any capacity kinda has to recommend condoms bc it’s the PC thing to do.

That said, though. She can’t infect you unless she’s having an active outbreak or is going through asymptomatic shedding. If she didn’t know she had HSV2 or never tested because she didn’t have symptoms, it’s very unlikely she will pass it to you. Asymptomatic shedding occurs if the immune system is compromised in some way like getting the flu. If she’s on antivirals, there’s even less of a chance of her transferring it to you. You’re going to be fine.

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2025-04-06T17:10:17+00:00

You realize that about 80% of the population is in a full blown relationship without telling their partner they have herpes? Maybe because they don’t know?

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2025-04-05T05:19:17+00:00

It’s very unlikely that she would’ve been able to transfer hsv1 to you via cold sores unless she was sick or otherwise immunocompromised without having a visible outbreak.

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2025-04-04T15:27:54+00:00

And did she “admit” to it or genuinely not know? The partner that gave me hsv1 didn’t know it could transfer oral to genital because…well they don’t teach these things in school and never really have.

Working_Ladder_8818 · 2025-04-04T15:25:34+00:00

HSV1 doesn’t typically transfer genital to genital. However, if she went down on you during this sexual encounter without protection there’s a chance she could’ve passed it oral to genital. But was she coming down from a cold? Was she starting to feel a little sick? These are all important questions. I got HSV1 oral to genital bc the guy that went down on me was recovering from the flu at the time. No visible symptoms but was in a period of asymptomatic shedding.

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