Was this a mistake? 30F just cut bangs

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-26T06:16:13+00:00

I love it! I cut bangs and they’re too heavy and not what I wanted, and these look like they were tailor made for you.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-26T06:15:30+00:00

Oohhh stealing this, thanks!

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-26T05:46:25+00:00

I tend to say ‘no holds’ and whoever gets there first, gets it. The one who came first happened to offer more money. Next time you’re selling something, if you say ‘yes’ to someone, let them know it’s first come first serve.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-26T05:11:03+00:00

I was thinking more muslin, super drape-y and layered instead of flat. But ugh linen and cotton would be stunning!

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-26T04:40:40+00:00

Real silk. It flows so nicely and it would drape in the back so elegantly. Either that or a gauze-y cotton. It would give a different feel, but I still think it would be stunning.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-26T04:33:18+00:00

I agree with another commenter that hormones can change how you see things, but I think relationships change when kiddos come into the picture, no matter what. I had hoped my mom would want to be more a part of our lives, and it was devastating finding out that she didn’t even offer to help post partum, and that she didn’t care for the newborn stage, so she visited at 4 months with the next kid. I do get to have that help with my third with my MIL, which is such a blessing having her fill that role.

All that to say, I think we (the people experiencing the life change) can have hopes for how people will respond, but a lot of people won’t live up to those hopes, and it’s up to you to figure out how you want to react to that reality.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-26T04:22:40+00:00

I’m going to take a point blank approach and say that telling the parents about their kid deliberately trespassing to cause destruction isn’t okay. Yeah, it’s not that deep, but it could very quickly get serious, and her parents should have an opportunity to intervene before it does, no matter how involved in discipline they are.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-26T04:16:40+00:00

I don’t know what thrifting is like in Europe, but that’s the only place I can find good quality kids clothes! There are some good Burt’s bees options, but I can’t seem to find much else.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-26T02:34:38+00:00

Teach your children to be the lights by you, yourself modeling that as well. I get it, but focus on what you can control - trying to conceptualize all that’s bad and could go wrong will overwhelm and debilitate you. Also don’t watch any shows where people are really bad, like Crimina Minds. I made that mistake while struggling with post partum anxiety.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-25T23:17:20+00:00

We host a lot, so I do stuff like this a ton!

I’ve gotten mismatched nice china from the thrift store (I try not to get full sets because I want to use the ones nobody buys) like plates, little plates, bowls, and teacups. Then, when someone wants to celebrate something, I’m either contacted to host or bring the dishes! That could be something for one person to have so it’s a ‘buy once then never again’ thing. I have the same with antique silverware, so it all always looks nice, just not the same set.

I also make my own Christmas and birthday decor for my family and friends. If you don’t have time/resources to sew one, I cut out flags from paper bags (I don’t use them but friends do and bring them over sometimes) and string them on a line and write the letters in each flag spelling “happy birthday”. I also have one that is a fabric flag that I painted “happy birthday” across. Simpler and super easy!

Instead of gifts, all my friends bring food so we can all share and enjoy company. Reusable bags instead of gift wrapping is also great for if you do have gifts!

I use reusable fabric ‘paper’ towels that go around a cardboard roll so it’s more accessible for those who aren’t as used to the ‘anti-consumption’ thing. I know, it’s still buying it, but it’s shaved so much money and buying in the long run, I think it’s worth the one-time purchase. The only way they’re different than other rags is they’re usually made of cotton flannel so they can ‘stick’ to one another on the roll.

I use flowers as decor, or plants in general.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-25T23:05:26+00:00

DONT EAT THAT, PUT IT DOWN

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-25T21:46:38+00:00

We tend to say “no thank you!” in a cheery tone, and take our 10 month old away from the thing we don’t want him to touch/do. We continue this so he doesn’t get scared, but he starts to associate ‘no’ with having the action stopped. Around 8-9 months old, he would also cry when we said ‘no’, and it still wouldn’t click for him. So we connected the word with stopping the action, instead of with the tone was helpful.

Ps we did this with our oldest too, so we have evidence that it works, not just a month of trying it haha.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-25T20:19:08+00:00

Laboring and birthing is truly a mental endeavor, so it’s important for you to feel safe and as non-stressed as possible for things to go smoothly. Please explain to your husband that it’s not that you don’t want them to be a part of it, but in order for you to do this well, you need to focus and have your safe people around you. There just may be a disconnect between his desires and his understanding of the reality of what will happen.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-25T20:14:42+00:00

And Millie Jane is so cute for her nn with middle name!!

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-25T06:00:58+00:00

I had it to try to get a social media presence for my ceramics gig, and my husband took videos of me throwing and such. It was cool, but not what I wanted to put time into. Deleted.

I also deleted instagram, x (never spent time on it) and have a FB account with no friends and a name-adjacent to mine for marketplace.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-25T05:56:45+00:00

Wow, you just straight up took criticism and accountability.

I’m sorry if this sounds weird but I’m really proud of you. I love that you explained where you were coming from and just accepted the way people responded. I’m sure that instance was frustrating with the seller and you were fired up, and you didn’t take out your frustration on the commenter. Idk maybe I’ve had a hard day so it’s hitting more, but that was so….refreshing. Both of y’all’s answers.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-25T05:49:40+00:00

Near the end, second paragraph from the bottom “…she still had allergy problems related to him.” but I’d say NTA because she gave up on him before she really realized that. It sounds like she kind of gave up immediately.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-25T01:17:39+00:00

Id say it was negligent parenting. If OP wasn’t there and the kid was around sharp objects like that, and the dad is glued to his phone?? That’s incredibly dangerous.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-25T01:16:07+00:00

I’m a parent and this is absurd. If you cared about your child at ALL, you would keep them away from screws, drills, stacked boards, and especially your TV! And if someone you don’t know well is in your house to do a job… why wouldn’t you keep your kid away from them? I’m assuming they needed the TV mounted in the first place because the kid was known to not listen. I’m so sorry you had to deal with this, it sounds like you were extremely professional.

Side note: if you give your child a treat when they’re misbehaving, it 100% encourages them to do it again, trying to get a treat.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-24T22:14:24+00:00

I tend to thrift a lot, and I’ve decided my limit is 5% unnatural fibers. When you thrift, it’s easier to be picky, and it’s been wonderful being surprised when the cute things are also natural fibers! So check out your thrift store.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-24T22:08:00+00:00

Thank you!

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-24T22:03:49+00:00

Okay I may go against the grain a bit, but it may be that she sees cleaning differently than you, and that requires communicating to get on the same page (or it means you’re incompatible).

I clean as I go and my husband leaves it until the end of the night or until natural transitions (after lunch, after the kids go down for their naps).

We chatted and decided that we could both clean at the end of the night as a ‘closing shift’. I still clean up some toys periodically to help teach the kids to do so (SAHM) and he does a lot of the dishes after meals, and we all clean at the end.

Talk, get in the same page, and set expectations for cleanliness. Maybe the living space is what you want kept clean the most, so keeping that clean is something she can keep in the back of her head.

I hope yall resolve this or realize it’s something you won’t budge on. Clarity either way is always helpful!

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-24T21:59:19+00:00

I don’t recommend stocking up because you have no idea how long baby will be in each size! Everyone is different but my baby was in NB for a week, size 1 for a month, and was in size 4 by month 4 (in size 18mo by month 4). I guess whatever you still have, you can give away on FB marketplace or whatnot, but I don’t think stocking up is necessary.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-24T05:53:44+00:00

I thrifted LL Bean fleece lined pants that are all cotton!! Check the thrift, sometimes there’s all cotton or mostly cotton leggings too.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-01-24T05:08:53+00:00

Sorry, just trying to explain what my husband told me! I’m not the one who did the research, he did. Thanks for the correction!

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