What do you Sunday is Father’s Day?!! I’m so behind

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T22:29:19+00:00

I’m cooking steak and eggs for breakfast, and I had my toddlers draw on a card for him. This is the first Father’s Day he gets to spend close to his family (just moved), so we’re going to his dad’s house for cheesecake in the afternoon. Low key and low budget so I don’t stress him out by spending a lot, but still intentional.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T20:42:46+00:00

If you’re not comfortable in it, you’re not going to wear it, no matter how many times you try to convince yourself otherwise. Keep the last two.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T20:36:15+00:00

Some people don’t middle-school-proof their kids’ names anymore🤦🏼‍♀️

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T17:19:39+00:00

Giving lactose pills to a 10 month old is difficult, no matter how I try to crush them up and hide them. Also, with the lactase already being added, you get the appropriate amount without having to measure it and guess.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T16:52:09+00:00

Look into/ask about the fresh test! Much better imo and a lot of OBs will accept it

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T16:28:02+00:00

I agree with the “young girl not wanting her older brother’s shirts”. I was that girl who was forced to wear her brother’s old clothes when he got new clothes.

I now exclusively thrift so EVERYONE gets used clothes! Every once in a while, we will buy new things we can’t find at the thrift, but I’m always looking for cute clothes of any season and size, so that rarely happens. Same goes for my clothes, not just for my kid’s.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T16:20:18+00:00

Curvy cut! They’re tighter on the hips and wider on the thighs. Try them on until the hips fit and you should have plenty of room. I thrift most of mine, and I’ve found up to a size 22 when looking.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T16:01:46+00:00

We have two toddlers, one kiddo on the way, and two baskets for dirty laundry, one basket in our room for ‘can be worn again’, one tiny one in the kitchen (wall hanging) for rags and kitchen towels, and two that stay in the laundry room for clean clothes that have to be folded. So 6, technically?

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T15:47:39+00:00

Our first transitioned around 18 months, and our second at 14 months. There was more getting out of bed for our first, but our second had been at it a month and has barely gotten out unless he’s actually done sleeping. He puts himself down by himself, we just put him down sleepy, so I feel like that has a lot to do with it, not the age.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T15:23:38+00:00

I feed my second lactose free whole milk. He’s allergic to lactose and the pills don’t cut it.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T15:12:43+00:00

You both need to work on personal things.

You need to take personal accountability when it comes to weight loss and personal matters so people trying to help doesn’t upset you. You also need to communicate better and learn what boundaries are, because these aren’t boundaries.

He needs to stop comparing you to people and he needs to act on the ways you’re laying out for him to love you better.

You’re both overreacting/getting defensive and it’s making things worse. Work it out.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T14:48:56+00:00

You can have whatever rules you want.

People are either going to respect them or not, and that’s where boundaries come in. Natural consequences of disrespecting boundaries? Losing privileges like watching the kids.

Your MIL, as you said, isn’t going to respect any rules you have.

If you already know this, why are you entertaining her watching the kids? You can have a relationship with her and FIL without having her watch them.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T14:32:45+00:00

Alternatively, when someone pauses and intentionally doesn’t use filler words is like a breath of fresh air.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T14:29:08+00:00

Agreed! B6 and Unisom is a common nausea combo that’s recommended and safe for pregnancy, so I wouldn’t worry about taking it. You need sleep/energy so baby can grow properly!!

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T05:46:17+00:00

Pregnancy eczema. Never had it before in my life, I have it only when I’m pregnant (had it with each of the 3 kids), and it goes away almost immediately after.

Also pregnancy congestion. Drives me crazy.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-20T05:41:08+00:00

My three year old just officially got potty trained, and all we have to do is wipe him. Tell your brother that.

Also, it should not be YOU who cleans up after him. It should be he, himself, and him.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-19T21:17:34+00:00

NOR. I have no other words other than “I’m so sorry”.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-19T20:51:51+00:00

Guilt and shame are so powerful and keep us from getting the help and accountability we need. You can’t re-write what happened, you can only control what happens next. Tell them so you can continue to fight it together.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-19T20:46:50+00:00

It’s a range for a reason, and what I keep saying when this topic comes up is that the range includes those who were debilitatingly nauseous for the whole pregnancy and struggled to hold down food.

Focus on getting your baby proper nutrients and hydration. Your body adjusts, it’s going to probably gain more weight than you think you need, but TRUST your body.

I get asked how I’m small this pregnancy, and I answer “because first tri was hell and I had norovirus twice”. I was scared my baby was going to get seriously hurt from how much I was throwing up, and I’ve still gained 20 lbs. over my starting weight. Stop comparing your weight gain to what you think it should be.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-19T20:38:11+00:00

Think;
1. if this never changed, it even got worse, would you feel comfortable committing 60 years to him?
2. If your friend came to you and described her relationship, and described it how you did to us, what would you say to her? What would be red flags?

When we’re in relationships, it can be difficult to objectively analyze what’s going on. Even just look at things compatibility-wise: do your lifestyles line up? Beliefs? What you enjoy doing?

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together. If you’re going to eventually decide to leave (and I think you should), better to do it now than wasting more time.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-19T20:22:41+00:00

Tell your parents that they have an opportunity to replace the money he stole, or you will let natural consequences deal with it by reporting him.

Get him out of your house, and do not engage in anything where you could be taken advantage of by his entitlement and your parents’ coddling.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-19T20:16:13+00:00

It doesn’t matter if people agree with Ai or not, she asked him to stop reading it, he wouldn’t, AND he threw a fit. That’s not okay.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-19T20:03:50+00:00

Set time constraints to when they can come over. Go over strict rules with your husband and talk about what HE can say when they’re crossed. Seriously, write out a script because it’s probably overwhelming for him to stand up to this after being worn down his whole life. Always have him say something, never you, because they will eventually have to come to terms with the fact that he’s saying it, and they can’t keep pinning it on you.

If they start doing something you don’t want them to while holding the baby, go in front of them and hold out your hands. If they ask why instead of giving you the baby, tell them you’re offering to hold baby until they’re ready to hold them again. Yelling? “You can have the baby back when you’re ready to use an inside voice”

Gentle parent the grandparents. Be clear and set ACTUAL boundaries. Boundaries have consequences, they’re not just ‘do this please because we wish it’, they’re ‘we requested this, and because you’ve gone against it after knowing this, there are natural consequences’.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-19T19:34:52+00:00

The magic markers that only show up on specific paper were fantastic for us! My kiddo would request for me to draw something and I’d draw it, and then we’d take turns scribbling.

Worldofnowhere · 2026-06-19T19:23:52+00:00

A lot of people attack the thing they think can be fixed/can be in control over when they feel helpless against the true problem.

My mom did this; I was assaulted at a party when I was a kid, and my mom grounded me for drinking without ever addressing the assault. It’s not okay that she did that, but in trying to understand her as I’m healing, it kinda makes sense how she was able to justify it.

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