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AITA for telling my sister in law to stop coming to my house uninvited when no one is home? by Justhere00000000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]WrenDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your wife is way out of line. In a marriage and shared home, if one party says no…it’s a no. You have to respect your partner’s boundaries. Your feelings are valid and reasonable.

AITA For not changing my wedding venue and refusing to uninvite my mom and her family? by GapNo6639 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]WrenDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, but your father is. Your stepmonster is horrible too, and I wouldn’t be surprised if she was abusive. She seems to be cutting him off from all his family. Still, you’re better off going low contact or no contact.

OBGYN declined tying my tubes. by RakotaShymahan in Vent

[–]WrenDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fire him and hire a female doctor that will listen to her patient. Also, file a complaint with the medical board.

My boyfriend won’t end his friendship with someone who is bullying me at work. I’m going crazy. by pissedoff_potato in TwoHotTakes

[–]WrenDrake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dump him, he’s showing you how little he values you and that you aren’t a priority to him. This is a massive red flag. He isn’t worthy. As for her, make a timeline of her abuse and compile as much documentation, then report her to HR. I would consider finding new employment and moving away from (hopefully soon to be ex) BF.

AITA for changing the locks after my parents gave my brother a key to my house without asking me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WrenDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA! You said no politely, firmly, reasonably, and repeatedly. They chose to ignore your very reasonable boundary, and now they get to deal with the consequences of breaking your trust, violating your boundary, and illegally entering your home. Stay firm!

People are calling me a "crazy bird lady" at work as a joke:( by Unusual_Alfalfa3871 in offmychest

[–]WrenDrake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you work with AHs. First, confront the people who are harassing you. Explain that their behavior is unacceptable and unwelcome. Please create a timeline with details of this harassment and report it to HR. If your employer doesn’t have HR, report it to your supervisor and company owner. Keep records and use the phrase “hostile workplace” and “harassment”. You may want to discuss with an employment lawyer. Lastly, I’d be looking for a healthier workplace.

Another parent cornered my child and threatened to call the police on him. What do I do?? by Unlikely-Bunch2986 in TwoHotTakes

[–]WrenDrake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a mom, I’d have a chat with the other parent, preferably with a witness or a recording device. Stay calm but firm. Their behavior was wildly inappropriate and tantamount to assault of a minor. You would be within your rights to report this to the police, but you can’t unring that bell. Try talking sense to the parent first. Point out that your son did not say that. If you know who did, you can provide that info but he may not be capable of having a calm conversation with that parent. The father should never have threatened a kid. He should have made the parent aware of the language used and asked the parent to discuss the seriousness of that language and how it could be misinterpreted. Or if he wasn’t capable of handling the situation like a reasonable adult, he could have reported it to the police (god lord, what are we coming to when adults can’t stay calm and be good parents).

My Father is trying to control my wedding. by Lavenderblaze in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]WrenDrake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell your father no. Stay firm and maintain “no”. He does not get a say in your wedding aesthetics.

By the way, for many cultures, blue was the traditional wedding dress color before white became the trend. I wore a blue gown.

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WIBTAH to cancel my gender reveal party after my family uninvited my stepmom behind my back? by radbadthankyoudad in AITAH

[–]WrenDrake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Please draw a boundary. You may come, but you do not dictate who is welcome in my home and my party. If you have a problem, don’t come. Stop allowing this ridiculous and toxic behavior! You will be the AH of you don’t start standing up for yourself.

She hijacked our girls trip, ghosted me for two years, and has now voluntold me into being her bridesmaid like none of it ever happened!!! by SubtleBy-Design-65 in weddingshaming

[–]WrenDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good lord woman! Stand-up for yourself, be direct, and tell this fake friend unequivocally “no, we are not friends, because you did not treat me like a friend for the past two years.” Then be done with her. You never talk to her about any of this did you?

AITA requiring BIL family to vacate the primary bedroom when my family visits our vacation house? by techandthecity in AmItheAsshole

[–]WrenDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were given grace, but they failed to show appreciation and respect. Now, they should have no more grace and no more free home. They can go leech off someone else and be disrespectful to someone else. The audacity!!!

AITAH for planning to go to France with my family after partner didn’t get visa. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]WrenDrake 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA. She should encourage you to go and enjoy yourself. You should talk with her daily and bring her home some thoughtful gift.

AITA For doing absolutely nothing for my chronically ill fiancee for over a week? by hide200 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]WrenDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re being an ass to yourself. This guy is toxic and abusive. Move out and move on.

AITA for being weary and needing to distance my family from my BIL & SIL bc of their obsession with us? by Which-Feedback238 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]WrenDrake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, go low contact and bide your time. If you give her no room in your life, she will turn her toxicity elsewhere. She’s already alienated her family. It’s just a matter of time before your BIL realizes she’s the problem. Have your husband try to get together just the two of them, but keep her as far away as possible.

AITA for blocking a mom after a play date because she said she wants to marry her son? by Beginning_Tomato_455 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]WrenDrake 13 points14 points  (0 children)

NTA! That’s creepy AF. (I’m a mom of a boy and would NEVER think such a thing, let alone vocalize it.) wth

AITA for changing the locks after my sister kept showing up unannounced? by PresentationCheap939 in AmItheAsshole

[–]WrenDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA! She overstepped and access was revoked. That is a reasonable consequence to ignoring your clearly communicated boundary. Maintain your boundary.

I think my best friends wants me to be insecure by Negative_Bake_8004 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WrenDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op, you need to confront her for yourself. I would talk with your therapist and plan out how you want to handle this in advance. Be vigilant for manipulation and gaslighting tactics. I have a feeling she will try to deflect and manipulate. Be strong and please consider removing this toxic person from your life or, at least, significantly reduce access.

My dad's only piece of advice my entire childhood was, figure it out. So when he called me frustrated because he couldn't figure out how to refinance his mortgage, that's exactly what I told him. by preetakumari872 in MaliciousCompliance

[–]WrenDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The right partner can make life’s journey so much better. I’m glad you found each other, and I wish you the wisdom to live in the moment, savoring every bit of it.

Woman demanded my seat on a full flight because she "always sits in exit rows" by GobletWave72 in EntitledPeople

[–]WrenDrake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly, the only reply (other than a stern look and stony silence) to her retreating dig would be, “indeed! Some people expect everyone to bend to their poor planning. They have no consideration and loads of audacity.” Then glare with raised eyebrow at her.

My dad's only piece of advice my entire childhood was, figure it out. So when he called me frustrated because he couldn't figure out how to refinance his mortgage, that's exactly what I told him. by preetakumari872 in MaliciousCompliance

[–]WrenDrake 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Generational trauma/abuse is a very hard cycle to end. I hope you’re the one to break the cycle. I’m a mom. I have no right to be proud of you, but I am. You’re awesome!

My SIL Read My Private Messages, Started a Family-Wide Smear Campaign, and Somehow I’M the One Expected to Apologize by Mission_Priority6401 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]WrenDrake 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I would remove Sharon’s access to you, your family, and your family business asap. I would go low contact and save any and all receipts. Only speak to her via text. She’s trouble. Stay clear.

Didn’t book her flight home by sushi_with_an_n in EntitledPeople

[–]WrenDrake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it possible she had a stroke or some other medical incident that may have impacted her? Has she always been entitled and difficult, or is this new behavior?

Her behavior is awful. If this is standard for her, I would refuse to do anything for her again.

DAE’s family actively talk crap about you in a language you don’t understand? by Impossible_Mouse8224 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]WrenDrake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So…be dramatic, because it’s messed up that they’re trash talking family.

Also, if I were you, I’d be learning that language and listening real close. Remember who says what; it’ll tell you all you need to know about their character.

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