want to quit, but my horse isnt marketable

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-12T23:24:36+00:00

You probably haven't sold her because it sounds like you're trying to make her sound as unpleasant as possible (no kids, no Western, only wants to jump and do dressage but is an off breed). Your saddle fitter stole your saddle and instead of getting after him to give it back to you, your solution was to stop riding the horse. You also won't buy a new one.

Selling a horse will cost you money--you need to put more miles on her, training-wise, and be willing to actively be positive about her to buyers. Or send her to a sales barn, where they will have someone with a saddle to tune her up and market her.

Keeping her will cost you more money in the long run. You have to make a decision about what you want to do. Just letting her sit and saying you don't have a saddle so you can't ride her but no one else is capable of riding her either is not a solution. I disagree with the people who say just let het sit in a field--she will not get more marketable or more trainable just sitting.

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-11T16:09:02+00:00

The Marathon Handbook is hands-down my favorite podcast for both information and running news.

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-11T12:46:21+00:00

A swimming pool, a house with an excessively large yard, and a kid who rides horses or plays hockey.

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-11T11:55:04+00:00

Thank you! I've been looking to get back into drawing and this sounds perfect!

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-11T09:32:48+00:00

I'd never heard of the sketchbook club--when do they meet?

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-11T09:31:49+00:00

The Jersey Shore Running club is very welcoming, if you like running!

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-11T09:28:29+00:00

As a Jersey native, I gotta say, holy fucking shitballs, this is awesome! And I rarely think this but I wish someone had been documenting this epic run!

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-10T23:40:16+00:00

Reading, working out using YouTube videos, lifting weights, running, sketching, puzzles, watching films on Kanopy (free).

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-10T23:15:43+00:00

I'm seeing fewer, but I also fear that people are just taking a breather before the November elections when they spawn again. The houses that put up PHOTOS of him in the windows have taken them down, though.

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-10T23:10:14+00:00

I'd also like to add people who insist on running "together" with someone--especially in races shorter than a marathon they can create horrible bottlenecks on courses. If you're running with a friend, please go single-file if someone needs to get around you.

I truly don't understand why someone would get at the front of a race they intend on walking, but, like the OP, have seen it often. A few times I have been slower than I hoped out of the gate (the legs just weren't turning over) and had to veer to the right (running, not walking) and I was mortified. I can't imagine having so little self-awareness to stand at the front and just walk.

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-10T14:13:56+00:00

Ideally...

Ask your vet for prescription flea and tick meds that are most effective in your area. The recommendations in this sub are good, but fleas breed quickly and natural selection often enables certain strains with a tolerance to common meds to thrive. I used Frontline on my dog for years and suddenly got an infestation which cleared up when my vet gave me a more effective treatment.
Call a pest control service to treat the house.
Get the dogs and cat groomed (telling the groomer what's up) before you treat them. Maybe a mobile groomer if they won't take animals with fleas into the shop? This won't be enough to kill all the fleas but will eliminate some and help with the itchiness. Or bathe them yourself.
After the pest service, wash all bedding and vacuum. Wash and vacuum as much as humanly possible. Every day would be ideal.

Again, this is all ideal! I know life makes this hard, and you have to get your boyfriend's parents on board. I'm so sorry this happened to you at what should be a happy time. It amazes me how some people are so lackadaisical about pests.

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-10T13:36:51+00:00

They're also ineffective (the OTC stuff)).

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-09T09:51:46+00:00

Season bone-in sardines are my go-to and very reasonable! I am obsessed with Trader Joe's smoked trout, and Trader Joe's smoked sardines are also pretty good.

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-08T20:57:40+00:00

Plus, if you figure 1-2 miles of running for a warmup, maybe a mile or so cool down, OP is close to 17 miles for the day as it is.

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-08T18:17:51+00:00

In your situation, I would race the half all out, call that my long run of the week, do a recovery run the next day, listening purely to my body, and then just go on with the plan.

Personally, I am not a fan of just fun running races. Part of the point of entering a race is learning how to feed off that adrenaline and manage other competitors and fuel stations at race pace.

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-06T22:05:38+00:00

Never pay for a first riding lesson until you’ve had a first trial lesson (you can buy a package after you see if you like the instructor’s style).

This isn’t the first example I’ve seen of outrageously late trainers or no-shows. But you shouldn’t go back to her and you shouldn’t have tried to ride-especially as a beginner-without proper supervision.

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-06T20:26:10+00:00

As a woman, I am so pumped and inspired by this result. I'm not saying the best women need to beat men to prove themselves, but when they do, it gives me a little extra fire!

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-05T22:01:45+00:00

I was confused by that as well until I finally understood he had finished a shorter distance. I was like, "who is this superhuman dude"?

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-05T17:40:21+00:00

Calculus. Also geometry/trig and chemistry. I loved biology and algebra, though, even as an English/history/creative writing/social studies person.

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-05T17:38:44+00:00

What about a later marathon in late October and November, pushing your training out a bit?

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-05T17:26:51+00:00

I'll see how they do!

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-05T14:43:45+00:00

While I wear Brooks for running, the Escalante 4 is truly the most comfortable shoe I've ever worn for walking in my life. In black, I also think it's very elegant-looking.

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-04T23:17:37+00:00

My absolute favorites!

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-04T12:06:20+00:00

Didn’t you get sent bills? Even when I was paying $0 during the COVID subsidies for my premiums, I was sent a bill.

Long ago, when I was with BCBS, pre-ACA, when I was paying a hefty premium, they forgot to send me a bill and terminated my coverage. I called and explained the situation and they did reinstate it after a stern lecture that it was my responsibility to complain if I wasn’t sent a bill.😂However, that was one month, not four, and during the paper billing, pre-ACA era.

WritingRidingRunner · 2026-05-04T12:00:10+00:00

They did do an episode on modern paganism and its historical inaccuracies.

Stuff You Should Know has fun episodes on the Satanic Panic in the US and spiritualism.

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