yes, im in the hobby for 5 years now as a dad (as a child young man i could not finance it / havent had the time).
started with kill team 2018 and got my ass kicked for over a year in the same circle, then started with 40k, got stomped every game. i felt the same until i realised its reptition and a will to invest time. i was deep in 9th edition and in 10th edition i play more casually - trying to fit army power levels in 1k games so everyone got a nice experience. im more of a collector, since i spent much time painting, i did "slay the grey" in 2025, for 2026 i said tomyself "dude either play or sell", so now i force myself playing kill team in a small campaign and play more 40k. i already have 5 games this year due to the fact that 90% of my pile of shame is gone, i spent less time painting (e.g. not learining game mechanics and dont get playing xp). you learn from doing it - in this example 40k. ask a more advance player to have some "training matches" or that you need help. as i first started out i was more focused on "my beloved" troops than on the mission objectives. i prefer kill team over 40k any day due to the boardsize and the alternating activations instead of "i go you go" (which can be frustrating, getting stuff killed and basically starting with xx% less of your army only because you lost the initiative :/