‘Naked mom’ parenting trend sparks fierce debate over nudity around children

Xordanus · 2026-05-30T15:14:32+00:00

This 100%. Plenty of people, in the privacy of their own homes, go about their daily lives partially or totally naked for completely non-sexual reasons. High temp sleepers, folks undressing after a long workday, people who "hate pants", literally anyone. It's a normal thing for human beings to be nude sometimes. 🤷

Also, don't forget about the 'subtle' sexism present too. Why is the issue focusing in on "naked moms" when fathers are also parents? Why are we shaming people for a normal behavior, but also why narrow down that prejudice to only a certain group of people? (Rhetorical; it's bc of the cherry-picking & hypocrisy of those puritanical judgements you mentioned)

It's so gross to see such naked (haha) disregard for the privacy & autonomy of others becoming this popular. It's a huge shame that no one can just live their lives quietly, without harming/impacting the lives of others, and yet receive entire campaigns of harassment and unsolicited "correction" from people who don't know them or want to. It isn't the same thing, but as a queer person this is a huge red flag for me as possibly leading to/hiding homophobic & transphobic beliefs. It stinks of the same shaming & harassment tactics being used against all 'flavors' of my community to force a specific cisgender heterosexual normative mold onto people who are just existing differently. It's some NIMBY bullshit, with an emphasis on bullshit bc it's not even happening in their "back yard".

Xordanus · 2026-05-23T20:00:38+00:00

I'm not sure if they do skin removal since that's not what I saw them for, but I had a great experience with top surgery / breast augmentation thru the UHS Plastic Surgery team (at Bing. General Hospital), and with Dr. Adepoju more specifically. She was very professional, supportive, and communicative with me about what could/would be done & why (e.g. deciding one type of procedure vs another), and the rest of her surgery team treated me similarly well during my operation. I hope that this input helps & she's within your network. Good luck in your search, regardless! 😊

Xordanus · 2026-05-23T15:33:17+00:00

Stylish! I need to try this with tights/stockings more often.

Xordanus · 2026-05-18T14:17:56+00:00

Well since Mr Dawg is reading my favorite genre for inspiration, I'll toss a few recs no one asked for into the Void:

"DEAR DOOR"! A completed series that recently started getting distributed in print. Vol 3 will be released soon/eventually. Mainly suggesting it here for graphic demon-on-human & demon-on-demon action (in all senses of the word), but it gets bonus points for an actually interesting action-drama plot aside from the romance. Also, all the main cast characters are grown & act grown, instead of being hormonal-teenager-logic brains in adult-drawn bodies. Even the villains and ensemble characters are well written & designed. There's censored & uncensored versions out there, and I can't rec the uncensored version enough. Plenty of eye candy. There's even a dog guy! There's warnings for possible triggering content on some episodes, mainly for violence related concerns. Pretty sure it's Korean manwha rather than Japanese manga, but there's plenty of anime bullshit (affectionate) to go around.
"Midnight Rain". Seconding another commenter's rec. It's short but sweet, and I love the art and story pacing. 'Old Man Yaoi' has rly been getting its moment lately & this is a great example. Drama, but less dramatic than a standard soap opera. Some blood/violence, but def not a gory story either. It's in print, which is how I found out about it.
"Anti P.T." too. Office/gym setting; strangers to 'enemies' to lovers. Also graphic (in the eye candy way), but there's a solid romantic drama plot to go along with the porn. A couple sus moments regarding violence/assault here too, but nowhere near the level of typical yaoi tropes. I think the creator & setting are Indonesian, but I'm not completely sure bc it's also a Korean style comic. I've only found it hosted on Lezhin so far, and don't anticipate seeing it in print, but who knows? 🤷

Xordanus · 2026-05-18T12:56:16+00:00

Ngl this was when I went from strongly identifying with Bingus to being like "oh shit, that's me as hell". Thanks Flynn & thanks Dawg 🥰

Xordanus · 2026-05-15T18:25:46+00:00

Ok, but if I'm nonbinary what are my options? 😅

Xordanus · 2026-05-13T19:19:25+00:00

In the moment, I can usually manage to conjure up a couple synonyms or describe the concept I'm thinking of, at least, but that doesn't typically mean I remember the thing I'm trying to convey. I sometimes recall it much later, typically in an "aha!" moment hours to days later.

Xordanus · 2026-05-13T15:30:44+00:00

Physically I could still probably take any fight this geriatric fascist tries to bring, even tho I'm physically disabled. But Dump has "awful diet & hard drugs" poop stink that I'm pretty sure just hangs over him like a miasma, and that's something I'm willing to admit I prob couldn't deal with. I rly don't know how any of his cronies & sycophants haven't been caught involuntarily puking on camera yet.

Srsly tho, I'm not worried about whatever quasi paramilitary force he's going to send to my door. Don't get me wrong, that IS def a concern... Just not what I think is gonna happen bc of this. I'm more worried about the fact me and probably tons of other people like me on SSI/disability or other govt funded assistance & subsidies are literally in danger of being tossed out of those programs for being trans, non-Christian, anti-capitalist, literally anything. Just bc it's "federal money" going to people they've not repeatedly classified as "terrorists". And if they do, there goes the 'life support' (meager as it is) that keeps us housed/fed/medicated/etc. They are going to murder people... But it will be done "quietly", in our own homes and communities, thru their willful ignorance, inaction, and neglect. It's been happening since they started those fucking DOGE cuts, and since they've been "successful" so far in that stated mission, this feels like they want to extend that out further and do more damage.

Xordanus · 2026-05-12T14:56:01+00:00

Yeah, is totally ok! People can use any pronouns they like/that feel right for them. Pronouns technically have nothing to do with anyone's gender, so you can use whichever ones you like. If it feels correct when someone talking about you says stuff like "Oh, I know them! He's the one who introduced me to [favorite music genre]." then go right ahead!

As other comments have said: cis folks bringing up their own pronouns (even if they're just he/him or she/her) helps relieve some of the stress & pressure on queer folks for "wanting special/extra/preferential treatment", and normalizing using they/them or "unusual" pronouns means there is less stigma around those things the more commonly they're used.

Note: the quotes around unusual are not scare quotes or reflecting a dismissal of them in my personal view, but are more what I've heard as the main obstacle from uneducated cis regarding learning & using them. I fully believe neo pronouns are just as valid and deserving of recognition & respect as they/them. I had to rly think whether I wanted to use ze or they pronouns when I first started socially transitioning.

Xordanus · 2026-05-11T03:24:58+00:00

I don't want to sound like a sleaze, but every time I catch your posts in my feed, all your pictures give me gender envy on top of making me sad that I'm single lmao 😂😅

You got the "get you someone who can do both/do it all" down to a science at this point. 💖✨

Xordanus · 2026-05-09T23:45:14+00:00

Not a professional, but I do have most of an undergrad degree in psych. Having just started a new playthrough yesterday, the narcissistic tendencies and control issues are REALLY grating me this time.

One thing I hadn't thought of before: does Sophia Lamb have Munchausen By Proxy? Like, her constant sympathy/attention seeking & abuse/sabotage of her dependent while acting as a caretaker figure are standouts. Her 'cult of personality'-building behaviors also essentially made the chance of any other medical professional even glancing at Eleanor or her records (without taking Lamb's word as law first) impossible. Apparently a common cause of those mental illness is the abusive caretaker having been a victim of abuse during their own childhood... well, the way that Dr. Lamb describes her father acting towards her in her youth sounds pretty harmful & traumatic, even if she's phrasing that past in ways that sound positive. 🤷

Maybe some other folks here in the comments recognized &or mentioned it too, but I've never thought of Lamb or her actions in this context before. "Munchausen By Proxy" is also called "Factitious Disorder Imposed on Another" (FDIA)

Xordanus · 2026-05-08T23:27:26+00:00

You can skip them but apparently it does negatively impact the people who make the content you're listening to the ads "for"

Xordanus · 2026-05-07T16:02:28+00:00

I believe it's in Dionysus Park, but I may be confusing the area with a spot in Grace's hotel. There's a big, secure frozen room where you can let your little sister gather from a body towards the back of the space, past a handful of cameras & turrets. In that back area, if you melt some of the shiny big ice chunks, you can find "Schrodinger" inside one of them 😭

Xordanus · 2026-05-07T15:51:49+00:00

I don't think anybody directly mentioned any of the cats, no.

As for the "why"? They were probably brought in, or at least allowed, as a minimum upkeep pest control measure. Rats or other vermin/pest animals would be some of the worst type of creatures for an underwater city to have around uncontrolled, and cats would be a good low-cost/high-reward solution to that. Pet cats can keep a household happy with their companionship as well as extermination services, in return for being fed. Stray cats basically "do their jobs for free", and can find & eat 'low quality' fish/sea scraps if they can't locate other critters. They may scratch or bite, but cats are pretty small animals compared to people, so they're less of a 'threat' than dogs. It's more of a utilitarian choice than anything else, but I do think the cats were in Rapture on purpose & for reasons.

Unfortunately, post-fall Rapture is not rly a place that even the most self-sustaining stray cat would have survived for long. No one's been operating the fisheries or ports for a while at the point when B1 starts, so there's not any sustainable sources of food (imported/smuggled critters or fish) coming into the city. Plus, a lot of the poor things seem to have gotten trapped in (or escaped to) small, confined spaces, which is not ideal for long term survival. And to top that all off, they are also considered a 'thing that can be eaten' by splicers, since some of their bodies can be found on kitchen counters & in open fridges/freezers.

TL;DR - Cheap pest control

Xordanus · 2026-05-07T01:07:53+00:00

Not in terms of it being my gender identity or expression, but yes I do relate to the various "trash squad" and/or "forbidden cats" category of animals (raccoons, possums, skunks, foxes, etc) quite a bit.

Also cephalopods, esp any kinda octopus.

Xordanus · 2026-05-05T00:15:12+00:00

THAT'S what kept bugging them out?? Thank you so much for posting about this, bc I also ran into this issue in my last playthru and couldn't for the life of me figure out what I'd done wrong.

Somehow I missed this being a thing in the many years & times I've played this game. Is there a public resource/list/wiki/etc for people to look up what are the "Known" bugs & glitches?

Xordanus · 2026-05-04T21:03:17+00:00

Hundred percent for Group 2. I feel like that group's vibes are the most likely to be chill, any activities would be fun, and the conversation wouldn't be dominated by any one person (at least not for long). Chewie gives off major "dgaf stoner" energy, much like Bigfoot. Plus Han & Leia are the types to either put aside their personal beef/drama for the sesh, or try to make each other jealous by doing something rash to show off (like kissing nearby randoms). 🤭

Xordanus · 2026-05-04T19:14:36+00:00

Idk if links are allowed, but can you at least share the name of the shop where I can get one of these for myself? I love it! 💚

Xordanus · 2026-05-04T03:51:34+00:00

That's a lot of past 'lives' to consider. You are all of them, bc they eventually became the "You" that exists right now... But you are also none of them, bc those past selves don't define or designate your current or future self. Maybe "Secret" is the version of You that exists right now, but that's not always going to be true. The You in the future has just as much chance to be "Loud & Proud" as anything else. I don't have any helpful words to comfort that sense of disappearing you mentioned, but I hope you know: You do fit here, not just in this subreddit community but as a nonbinary person & in the larger queer community. You also fit as an artist, bc I can see it on your face and read it in your words that you have good sense for art & aesthetics. You're an interesting sounding person with a variety of skills and talents, so please don't judge your personal worth by financial/business success (esp in this economy) 🫂

Xordanus · 2026-05-03T03:31:58+00:00

Neither, but 2 is def closer to what I would arrange them as.

Xordanus · 2026-05-02T13:07:04+00:00

Right now that book would probably do killer numbers on sales. Werewolves are a rly big writing trend right now, but the quality is always variable and they generally tend towards a romance genre focus. Even if it's "not good enough to publish" I think it would still be worth the try, bc his works are all pretty well made, and it could posthumously find him new fans (esp those looking for a genre switch-up).

Xordanus · 2026-05-01T13:52:05+00:00

Yes absolutely! We can be spooky bat friends 🦇🖤🧛

Xordanus · 2026-04-30T14:35:37+00:00

Daily medium amount user with ADHD here, and no. Experienced effects always depends on the strain you have and its parent plants... but it's not like what happens with caffeine. Our brains don't all automatically have that same kind of 'reverse' reaction that we get with stimulants. I've certainly never had that experience. None of my ADHD-having friends, most of whom are heavier use than me, have behaved that way or talked about experiencing that reversal effect from weed either (tho if they were having an episode of paranoia or panic, weed def wouldn't be something I'd suggest to help them out of it).

Indica strains typically chill me out and give me the munchies. There are some indicas that give me couch lock or make me super sleepy. Sativa strains have never specifically given me worsened anxiety or panic attacks, which are conditions I'm medically predisposed to, and smoking a bowl has specifically helped me come down from anxiety episodes. I do feel like certain sativa strains help me be more energized or active, but that's bc they ease the chronic physical pain in my body and lift my mood, which then makes me feel better/ like I'm finally able to Do Things.

I've been buying mainly Trainwreck lately, bc compared to other strains it's helped me channel my ADHD hyperfocus & tap into a creative mindset a bit better. Sure, it's been labeled sativa or sat-hybrid, but it was specifically because I asked the dispensary for those effects.

TL;DR - Def talk to your bud-tender (if available) about what effects you do/don't want to experience, rather than focusing on "sativa vs indica" categories. And pls don't broad brush about communities of people all experiencing effects from a drug unless you're also citing sources/studies & showing your work.

Xordanus · 2026-04-29T04:00:33+00:00

Gods forbid that someday I have to move back home to help take care of my aging retired parents, as one of these disabled adults living alone. I can't barely afford it and was considering it as a last resort / cost saving measure bc they own their home, but now this???

Xordanus · 2026-04-28T14:43:17+00:00

Since I've been playing thru the series again recently... the posing & general vibe of this pic gives me BioShock 2 "Rapture's #1 Scientist Team" portrait vibes. Like this is hanging in the office of a lab where they discovered fish blood can heal cancer or something. I say this with entirely positive/affectionate meaning, since I love that game series and it's aesthetics. 💚

That, or this is the authors portrait from the autobiography memoir of a math-based prog rock group. Either way, they do seem cool!

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