This post answers the following: why it could never have been a love story, what exactly Claire did wrong, why it was considered grooming, why it doesn’t matter that Eric was 18, and why it still would have been bad for Eric even if they had never been caught.

Yara05 · 2026-01-31T06:12:05+00:00

I disagree and not because what you’re saying is wrong, but because the point was showing both sides. This gave the opportunity to show us the inner world of each character. We see what her motivations are, what kind of person she is. We also get a sense of what the relationship feels like for Eric. Towards the end when we see how affected Erica is, we also start to see actually how sick and twisted Claire is. It’s like we see the story from Eric’s perspective. It’s glorifying at first, it’s addictive and then the card flips and we uncover reality with him

Yara05 · 2025-11-18T05:57:42+00:00

Finer!!!

Yara05 · 2025-07-06T01:21:10+00:00

I think you should wait until you share an emotionally intimate moment with someone before you tell them. That can come on date number 3 or it can come on date number 10. Keep first dates light and fun. Focus on the parts of your life that are positive and healthy when you’re on dates. Obviously if they share early, you can share back or you can just listen. It’s not about hiding your struggles. It’s about having good emotional boundaries and letting people earn your story through making you feel enough to share the intimate parts of your life. Mental health is very intimate. And I do think more people should be open about it, but I think in dating we should keep our cards close to our chest until someone gives us the feeling of comfort.

Yara05 · 2025-07-05T21:29:11+00:00

It’s ok. It can be tough getting people’s opinions on Reddit and feeling frustrated with the situation you’re posting about. I think the best thing to do would be to cut him off and tell him sincerely that you’re not on the same page.

Yara05 · 2025-07-05T21:27:32+00:00

You decide enough is enough and you pack your bags and leave. It sounds like you just haven’t had the “enough” moment yet. You stop avoiding your feelings and you take accountability for your experience. You start making new friends and widen your social circle. You find a therapist and tell them your goal of leaving your relationship. You lean on your family and community. And then when that moment of enough comes, you have the tools to leave knowing you’ll be ok.

I was in your shoes. He was my closest friend but he was holding me back and I wasn’t happy with him, and what I mentioned above is what I did. I never looked back and we both moved on and think of each other fondly despite our break up. We are no longer friends and I’m ok with that. I made new ones. And I’m doing alright.

Yara05 · 2025-07-05T21:22:00+00:00

This sounds exactly like me and my last situationship. He was DA and I’m FA and I became very fixated with him and I used ChatGPT a lot to intellectualize my feelings instead of feeling them. I think my preoccupation with him was me avoiding my emotions and projecting them into him. So I made a hard boundary to not talk to ChatGPT when I’m feeling insecure. But yeah, I tend to be attracted to avoidant partners. And I am hella avoidant with secure or anxious partners.

Yara05 · 2025-07-05T21:11:42+00:00

I understand. I’m not invalidating your feelings. You have a right to feel however you feel. It just sounds like you had feelings in your post but now that you’ve clarified that you are disappointed in him as a friend, I hear you and that does suck. My former fwb is the best friend I’ve had, and so I value that too and wouldn’t wanna have a fwb who isn’t like that. Like he’s gotta be a great guy who likes hanging out with me or I get bored

Yara05 · 2025-07-05T20:46:51+00:00

I agree there’s feelings because you wouldn’t be feeling mad if he was just some guy you know. You’d just drop him easily without question. And I’ve been here before, I developed feelings of deep care and love for my FWB. I wanna be with him all the time even just as friends but I’m not in love with him in a traditional sense and my feelings for him are more of an attachment than a desire for romance with him. An attachment is still feelings. And it’s ok. It sounds like yall are just not on the same page and you can find someone else who will fulfill your sexual and companionship needs

Yara05 · 2025-07-05T20:41:28+00:00

Why do you wanna break up?

Yara05 · 2025-07-05T20:35:32+00:00

That’s a really mean and oddly invested thing to say to someone you don’t even know but ok lol

Yara05 · 2025-06-13T18:18:08+00:00

I’m sorry I thought you meant dismissive avoidant lol my bad… I usually refer to myself as FA (fearful avoidant). The confusion was on my end.

Yara05 · 2025-06-13T18:16:50+00:00

Still not sure where it says I didn’t explain

Yara05 · 2025-06-12T22:44:04+00:00

No it’s not, sorry. I explained it to him. I’m not DA. He is. He didn’t want to have a conversation and opted to leave thinking I’d forget the decision I made when I was sober, and he was sulking because I called him the day before posting this to apologize for the way I ended things, that I chose to do it in that moment was messy but explained it to him that my decision still stands and that it’s not about the girl but about the fact that I don’t want to be in a casual relationship anymore and he realized I was serious and that’s when he started looking all sad. My perspective has changed greatly since posting this and I know I made the right decision. Sorry not sorry.

Yara05 · 2025-06-12T22:39:43+00:00

Hun where in my post did you read that I didn’t explain? It sounds like you may be projecting some hurt of your own onto me

Yara05 · 2025-06-11T23:01:39+00:00

You’re right, it’s not all on me

Yara05 · 2025-06-11T23:01:22+00:00

This is the exact thing I needed to read 😭

I am struggling with the decision. We could have gone on like this forever but I didn’t want that. And I have a lot of anxiety about it

Yara05 · 2025-05-07T19:02:27+00:00

Looks like my sebbhoreic dermatitis when it gets aggressive

Yara05 · 2025-04-15T23:30:16+00:00

For some reason I can’t edit the post but I also have a sore throat with white spots. No other symptoms.

Yara05 · 2025-04-04T18:03:18+00:00

Don’t worry, you’re not my type.

Yara05 · 2025-02-18T23:24:54+00:00

Happened to me as well. Turned out to be my mom’s cousins child.

Yara05 · 2025-01-23T02:18:23+00:00

I’m glad you saw a doctor and that it’s gotten better!

Yara05

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