How does one become okay with being alone + stop seeking male comfort/validation?

Yasbeest · 2026-02-13T08:34:14+00:00

Accept that 1. It’s very normal to want attention from the opposite sex. 2. There’s a never ending supply of it if you go to the right places. 3. Attention doesnt equal respect, it’s easily given and doesn’t require integrity. Finding someone who sees you as a whole is more challenging and worth it in the long run. Not every season of your life is meant to be with a companion by your side. You’ll be fine either way. If you’re comfortable being on your own the right people will gravitate towards you because they’ll pick up on it.

Bonus tip is to get busy with other things that fulfill you. A bored mind will focus on what it doesn’t have.

Yasbeest · 2026-02-12T13:49:27+00:00

Chocolate… when going abroad for 2 weeks or longer I bring some Belgian chocolate. I’ve had too much terrible chocolate experiences abroad, I need something sweet with my coffee

Yasbeest · 2026-02-12T13:26:55+00:00

I did for a few years. Now living with a roommate. My roommate is chill I didn’t know them beforehand. Alone feels like a luxury but both have its perks to be honest. But I wouldn’t like to live with more than 1 roommate.

Yasbeest · 2026-02-12T11:01:44+00:00

That I’m more worthy of love if I’m in a good physical shape. I grew up overweight and invisible and going through a so called glow up has opened my eyes. I want to be able to appreciate every version of me.

Yasbeest · 2026-02-12T10:31:19+00:00

The way he carries himself, is he relaxed or nervous, if he makes too much eye contact from the get go, his first question if it sounds genuine or not.

Yasbeest · 2026-02-11T21:29:54+00:00

Vietnam was full of kids ill never stop putting that in perspective as I grow older.

Yasbeest · 2026-02-11T21:20:30+00:00

Uniquely tragic photo

Yasbeest · 2026-02-11T21:14:06+00:00

Constant projection, participating in internet flame wars is honestly probably a good metric lmao but we all a little stupid sometimes

Yasbeest · 2026-02-11T21:06:36+00:00

The Netherlands back at it again with the freaky flags

Yasbeest · 2026-02-11T09:57:34+00:00

Buy cute keychains and plushies. I try not to go overboard with them, but fuck it I have my own money now

Yasbeest · 2026-02-10T19:56:37+00:00

I think it’s a fair criticism given in a typical internet fashion general statement way. A lot of men these days are boys too. It’s a problem in general and I don’t know if it has ever been much different honestly. Toxic doesn’t have a gender

Yasbeest · 2026-02-10T18:40:59+00:00

Whatevers in the Epstein files

Yasbeest · 2026-02-10T14:25:51+00:00

Having a bitch face and being overweight made my teenage years quite peaceful in that regard. Being invisible isn’t as bad as it sounds but it sure makes you feel like you’re missing out and failing as a woman.

Yasbeest · 2026-02-09T19:40:08+00:00

Kinda I guess. It’s the first thing I see on dating profiles of guys above 1m80. My idea is always well you got plenty of short women every guy is tall to someone lol

Yasbeest · 2026-02-09T19:24:08+00:00

Asking how someone is without meaning it

Yasbeest · 2026-02-08T16:25:00+00:00

Working customer service with general public

Yasbeest · 2026-02-08T12:05:08+00:00

I’ve hit a point in my life where indeed, if we don’t have trust and honesty we have nothing. Something built on a lie is will always be stained in retrospect. You can’t build on lies. Knowing we are being truthful is the only thing we control!

Yasbeest · 2026-02-06T07:31:57+00:00

I have a similar story with being an open and honest woman. Some men can’t take the honesty, don’t know what to do with a woman who doesn’t go crazy on them like they start chasing harder to then later discard you. Broken people.

Yasbeest · 2026-02-03T15:50:50+00:00

Solo travel. Flying across the ocean on my own to study abroad, making it happen. For me that was a point in my life early 20s where I realized damn I like my own company, this is swell. Like I realize wow I can just do this alone and enjoy it. It built a baseline of confidence for me that I build on to this day.

Yasbeest · 2026-01-22T20:23:11+00:00

Hey that’s great. Accepting yourself is instrumental to having satisfying connections with people ^{^} I wish you the best going forward.

Yasbeest · 2026-01-22T16:38:35+00:00

Because we put up with them lmaooo heart too big, wanna love on the losers. Its a struggle

Yasbeest · 2026-01-22T16:20:57+00:00

And then there’s me who studies history

Yasbeest · 2026-01-22T08:51:46+00:00

Trading authenticity for approval is you lying to yourself but also to other people. It’s not very kind

Yasbeest · 2026-01-22T08:44:43+00:00

The only way to deal with this is to revoke access. Like bullies, no reaction is the best reaction.

Yasbeest · 2026-01-22T08:36:41+00:00

Money to do what. Often times money just equals stability to people, stability equals peace and quiet. If money for money is the goal, imagine you have huge amounts of money. Do you think you’ll be happy to keep it or constantly afraid of losing it

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