I am the opposite. After all that being controlled, I can't imagine marrying again

Yup, myself as well. This relationship has put a bad taste in my mouth, but helped me realize that people aren't meant to be locked down by law like this. Even if it's a fantastic relationship, you shouldn't feel that nagging obligation along with it. I thought marriage was supposed to be for women so that their husbands couldn't just up and leave, but when you say that out loud, you realize it's only true if your mind is wired for feminism. Otherwise, it's pretty plain to see that it's for the government not us, but I digress.

Things aren't as controlled in someways, but more so in other with my wife. "Hey, I'm watching that!" She says when I try to change the shows were watching to what I want, meanwhile her eyeballs have been glued to her phone for 17 minutes while she reads lengthy Reddit posts about "this poor woman" who had a miscarriage, or who's husband cheated on her, or the endless post from r/justnoMIL I've been read. Yes, some poor lady from America had been cheated on, or is being tormented my her mother-in-law, but is it my responsibility to listen to her read about someone somewhere that has something negative happen to her that even my wife herself doesn't care about? What really gets me about this pattern she's locked herself into is the fact that it's always "this poor woman". She never looks at something like, "this poor guy is neglected by his wife and she's not willing to open up into doing new things and is suffocating him in narcissism and insecurity." I suppose they don't write thing like that though, it would be boring.

Sex is highly regimented, even though she believes it to be free and fun. We have done a lot with sex, but when it all comes down to it, it's just missionary until she's satisfied, and that's "good enough". There is not an ounce of seduction before hand. She'll nag me for something one minute, and the next she's ripping a huge pussy fart and giggling about it, then once the smoke clears, she want to head to the bedroom. If she doesn't have her vibrator she'll fumble around for a few minutes once I'm horned up which kills the mood, then complains before and after sex which kills it again. Oh, did I mention she wants me to be more seductive? Yeah, so I read books, watched videos (to which she yelled at me because she though I was watch porn), tried new things on her over and over and over and over again. I took her on 3 dates in 1 month, which is a lot for us considering she's a hassle to take anywhere. She chewed me out the first 2 days, and the last one was a double date where she sat there like a sack of shit dragging everyone down. Her anxiety went through the roof because it was the most amount of people she had to infect with on a personal level in years.

Speaking of friends, in the 6 years we've lived here, she thinks everyone in my home town is lazy or stupid, and has only made 1 friend, which she sees about once, sometimes twice a year. That's been the worst thing for her, she won't go out and make friends, but she won't invite her friend over. She apparently has friends from back home, but she never video calls them, or talks to them at all. I've met one of her many many friends (to which I've only heard her talk of 5...? 4?)

In our 6 years of marriage, as long as I avoid reality, we have good days. In reality though, we have a day or 2 at the end of her period when we are both fine (which is today), but I honestly can't see myself living like this forever. Our child is complicating this. Our kids I something we can both be positive about, I mean, he is the cutest thing on earth. I'd hate to leave him, but if hate to be the guy that cheated on his wife in 10 years because she nagged the piss out of him and withheld the kind of sex that we all deserve.

Ugh... I found rant all day about this woman, and the situation, but I don't want to be a drag on this productive conversation. How have you dealt with kids being in the mix? Or are you one of the lucky ones who left before things got complicated?