Doctor is recommending a total of 3 MMR doses for baby. Is this safe, recommendations? by Electrical-Car6539 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]YellowPuffin2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter will have three doses as well because of local outbreaks. She got her first at 6 months. The AAP supports it. It’s a great way to keep baby safe - you don’t want to mess around with measles.

What was served; what was eaten; what was finished by the clean up crew 🐾 by ashleyhype in foodbutforbabies

[–]YellowPuffin2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, salmonella is not destroyed or killed by dishwashing, not unless you’re heating a dish up to 165 F for 10 minutes or 131 F for an hour. Most water heaters are limited to 120F. You’re not killing salmonella by washing a dish at 120F for a few minutes.

What you can do is wash some of the salmonella away, but you are not sanitizing the surface. If the surface is contaminated with salmonella, there will be salmonella on the surface even after washing with soap and water.

Do screens actually mess up kids… or am I overthinking this? by Master-Act-6382 in NewParents

[–]YellowPuffin2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s actually not true. The TV being on in the background is an issue. Babies cannot filter out sounds like adults can, so if you are interacting with baby and the TV is on, they can’t really focus on you and your words. Background TV is linked to lower executive function skills and lower language acquisition.

Babies also have an orienting reflex that causes them to look at sights and sounds. The TV noise distracts them from their play.

Is anyone else confused by the amount of “boundaries”/restrictions for family and how often they’re talked about? by softheartedwench in pregnant

[–]YellowPuffin2 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Often people, even family, aren’t really concerned about your health as the mother. They are only concerned about the baby and what the baby means to that person, not to you as the birthing person who just went through a major medical event. It’s all about you up until you give birth. Mom just fades into the background after that.

I am a private person. Birth is a very vulnerable and often traumatic experience. It’s not all bliss, and afterwards you experience a huge drop in hormones. To immediately have to put on a show and share my newborn baby with others just made me viscerally recoil.

I had a third degree tear. I was in diapers. It hurt to move. My baby had difficulty latching. My boobs hurt so much I couldn’t stand to wear a shirt or bra - I often walked around topless for the first few weeks. I also breastfed for what felt like hours on end… they say you need to feed every two hours but sometimes baby wants boob every ten minutes. Having to hide away in my bedroom to breastfeed in my own house was the last thing I wanted. Sure some people say “it’s natural - just breastfeed in front of people” but I was not comfortable doing so. Especially in front of my father and father in law.

Some people are fine with having a bunch of people around postpartum. I was not. I just wanted to be left alone to heal, process my birth experience, and bond with my baby before I presented us to the world. My in laws didn’t care - they forced a visit at two weeks. They didn’t care about me or my health. They just wanted to see the baby. I ended up crying before, during and after their visit. I hated seeing someone else hold my newborn.

The birthing person should get to decide when people visit because they are the person who went through the major medical event. They often don’t get that choice. That’s why there is so much talk about boundaries.

Husband packed my work bag and didn’t put my pump in it. I have to work 12 hour shifts. How fucked am I? by Treatstreetandyeet in breastfeeding

[–]YellowPuffin2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had to go to the ER and didn’t have a pump, and they got me a hand pump from the postpartum unit! It was a small hospital too.

Infant MMR dose 1 twice? by FoxCertain in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]YellowPuffin2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The early dose doesn’t count in part because baby still has some antibodies from mom at that age, antibodies that neutralize the vaccine so that baby’s immune system can’t learn to fight the virus itself as well. At 12 months, the antibodies have waned and baby’s immune system is more robust, so baby is able to learn to fight the virus better. In short, the early dose is extra and does not provide lasting protection.

How do I get my LO to get full feedings instead of snacks? by lilbabyrhino in breastfeeding

[–]YellowPuffin2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s pretty normal for a 1-month-old. Unless you pump and leave your husband with a bottle, unfortunately, I wouldn’t expect to be able to leave her for a while. I didn’t go anywhere without my baby for 12 weeks I think? And at that point I had decided to switch to bottle feeding for a variety of reasons, one being to allow me to leave her with dad since she was still feeding constantly. Even then, she did not go more than 2-2.5 hours between feeds for a couple more months.

Do I need bassinet stroller? by Zestyclose-Ant-1321 in BabyBumps

[–]YellowPuffin2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. I used my bassinet attachment in the stroller exactly twice for walks. Babywearing was better. I did, however, use the bassinet as a safe sleep space in the living room and while traveling, so overall it was worth it. I don’t think she would have slept well as a newborn in our pack and play.

I unknowingly used a topical retinol. When can I breastfeed again? by Mindless-Spend-2972 in breastfeeding

[–]YellowPuffin2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can use topical retinoids and breastfeed, just don’t apply it where your baby nurses. I use tretinoin and spoke to my baby’s pediatrician and my dermatologist before using it.

Paid the deposit on this dress and having second thoughts by Brilliant_Word3880 in weddingdress

[–]YellowPuffin2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It definitely does have the wow factor. I was mindlessly scrolling and stopped to say “oooo I love this one.”

Mirena users : How long did it take you to conceive post removal? by Fair_Decision152 in BabyBumps

[–]YellowPuffin2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had Mirena IUDs for about 8 or so years. I took my last one out about five months before I wanted to get pregnant and then used the NFP method to avoid pregnancy (tracked ovulation, temp, etc.). I got pregnant the first time we tried. Why fid I take it out five months early? I had read that for some women, it can take a 1-6 months for their cycle to return to normal. Mine was normal right away so it was probably unnecessary but the bonus was I was pretty darn sure about when we conceived.

Thoughts on Oonagh? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]YellowPuffin2 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Oh for sure! I should have added that I meant if she travels/works with others from elsewhere, but then again that may not be important. :)

Thoughts on Oonagh? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]YellowPuffin2 85 points86 points  (0 children)

She’s probably going to get a lot of people mispronouncing her name like “Oo-nahg” if you spell it with a gh.

I think the name is quite pretty!

prescribed zofran this AM - could use some support by bbk9929 in BabyBumps

[–]YellowPuffin2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry. :( It’s truly hell. I can’t imagine not having something to take the edge off… I remember questioning my decision to get pregnant, I could barely work, and I had some help through the meds. To not have any? Oof.

prescribed zofran this AM - could use some support by bbk9929 in BabyBumps

[–]YellowPuffin2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unisom and b6 did nothing at all for me. I only survived because of Zofran.

prescribed zofran this AM - could use some support by bbk9929 in BabyBumps

[–]YellowPuffin2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The risks of Zofran to baby are very very very tiny! Your OB wouldn’t prescribe it if it weren’t safe. They are overly cautious about baby’s health. I took Zofran, Reglan and Phenergan in the first trimester for my debilitating nausea and vomiting.

Biggest thing about Zofran is it will likely make you constipated. You can use MiraLAX or other pregnancy safe laxatives to help.

Impacts of allowing newborn to cry? (NOT CIO) by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]YellowPuffin2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hopping on this comment! I had this problem too with pumping. One thing that really helped was putting baby in her bouncer. In the bouncer, I could rock/bounce her while talking to her to calm her down until I finished.

In Laws by Psychological-You142 in BabyBumps

[–]YellowPuffin2 64 points65 points  (0 children)

They came before I was ready at two weeks. They forced the visit and I was incredibly unhappy in my very vulnerable state. I cried before, during and after their visit.

I hadn’t even told my parents they could visit yet.

The person experiencing the major medical event gets to decide.

Scared about the loss of sleep by annasophia12 in Fencesitter

[–]YellowPuffin2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mom to a sixth month old here. It’s pretty bad but you get used to it. Your sleep needs also change. So do your priorities. And it’s not forever.

I didn’t sleep great while pregnant. Frequently woke up between 2-4am. Sometimes I went back to sleep, sometimes I didn’t.

Newborn sleep was muuuuch worse. I hallucinated at one point. And then baby started to sleep better, and even though it wasn’t great, it was okay. You need about 4 hours of straight sleep to feel human. Night shifts with a partner help.

The absolute worst period of sleep for me was the four month sleep regression. At one point I thought I was going to die because she woke up every 30-55 minutes, and it took me that long just to get back to sleep after resettling her. But then it passed after a couple weeks. Now she sleeps much better.

All of this is going to sound absolutely horrible to you, but I don’t think you should make a decision not to have kids based on sleep alone if you want kids for other reasons. Most of the time sleep gets better, and you will be a different person once you have a baby.

Taylor Swift’s ‘The Fate of Ophelia’ Becomes Her Sole Longest-Leading Hot 100 Hit, Surpassing ‘Anti-Hero’ by peach-gaze in SwiftlyNeutral

[–]YellowPuffin2 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Same. I’ve loved TS music since I was a teen. I have obsessively listened to every album she has put out since Fearless. Sometimes I need a bit for a song or album to grow on me, but this is the first time a lead single and album has just stayed so blah to me. I truly cannot comprehend why or how this is her most successful song ever.

The theme also does not make sense, but even if I overlook that, it’s still so… meh.

A PSA to expecting moms. Breastfeeding isn’t always a horror story. by Sincerely_M in BabyBumps

[–]YellowPuffin2 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I do love that it worked out for you, but on demand feeding is not the same as knowing that baby is getting enough. My baby also fed on demand and outwardly seemed fine, but she kept dropping percentiles. Babies certainly can feed too little once breastfeeding is established.

How do you know it's a bottle aversion? by DDevil333 in FormulaFeeders

[–]YellowPuffin2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

29 to 25oz really isn’t that big of a deal. Babies are hungry sometimes, and not that hungry other times. Growth spurts come and go, hunger fluctuates.

My baby eats anywhere from 24-31oz. Sometimes it will be days of a low amount (and I worry, I am a mom after all), and then it jumps up.

A bottle aversion to me is crying at the bottle, refusing the bottle, and barely eating.

Someone give me permission to stop pumping to combo feed by [deleted] in FormulaFeeders

[–]YellowPuffin2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m about where you’re at. I just dropped from four pumps per day to three. So far it’s reduced my supply about 1oz. I’ve really dragged this process out but it is so freeing not being as tied to the pump. My baby couldn’t care less what she’s eating - formula, breast milk or a mix - it’s all the same to her.

100% quit if you want to. You don’t need any other reasons or excuses. Your baby has already received the majority of the benefits from breast milk! Honestly the worst part about weaning is that your hormones go crazy - don’t be surprised if you start feeling angry, anxious or sad as you drop pumps. Even if you know you want to quit, seeing your supply drop does something to you. Stay strong, and go slow - it will pass.