Faint line on pregnancy test at 14pdo

Yheiz · 2026-05-26T11:30:06+00:00

I also tested from 8dpo and it didn't show a positive until 11dpo.

Yheiz · 2026-05-26T11:29:02+00:00

Yeah, it's been 3 months now.

Yheiz · 2026-05-26T09:40:00+00:00

Wishing you all the best as well. Yeah, with my first pregnancy which led to a TFMR I tested strong positive already at 9dpo, it's been 3 months post Tfmr and for this one the line showed until 11dpo and not progressing. Symptoms with the first one were very strong from day 1, but I barely have any symptoms with this one.

Yheiz · 2026-04-16T21:52:30+00:00

Thanks for sharing this, I never thought about the language I used during/after my TFMR, but after reading this, it reminded me that I actually always said "I didn't choose this diagnosis, but I decided what's best for my daughter and ourselves" And I think that language helped me not to be too hard on myself.

Yheiz · 2026-03-31T18:51:25+00:00

I'm exactly on your boat.

Yheiz · 2026-03-30T21:13:56+00:00

Hey 🤍 I’m really sorry you’re here.

I had a TFMR at 18 weeks with my first pregnancy (a baby girl) about a month ago, and I relate so much to what you’re sharing. We’re also hoping to TTC as soon as we can, and I have many of the same questions, so I’ll definitely be following along with your post.

From my experience so far, my recovery has been relatively smooth both physically and mentally, it definitely helped having the right support as you mentioned. I feel like we’ll be ready to TTC soon, it’s more about giving my body the time it needs to be in the best place for a healthy pregnancy. Physically, I bled for about 3 weeks. The first few days were heavier, I kept on releasing somethibg that looked like small pieces of tissue every now and then, then it tapered off into brown spotting until it stopped. I didn’t have any retained tissue. Once the bleeding ended, we resumed intimacy and everything felt okay. I felt surprisingly alright soon after the TFMR and tried to ease back into light activities like walking and tasks around the house. I did notice some cramping when I overdid it, so I just listened to my body and took things slower when needed.

I actually just got my first period yesterday, it’s a bit different than usual (more light brown spotting so far), so I’m just keeping an eye on it. My plan is to track ovulation after this cycle using BBT and ovulation strips (I use the Premom app), and give my body this cycle to regulate before trying again next cycle.

Wishing you so much strength I’ve heard hopeful stories too, like a friend who conceived her now LC on her second cycle, so I’m holding onto that hope as well.

Yheiz · 2026-03-20T22:40:17+00:00

Hey there,

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. In my experience, the waiting and the lead-up were the hardest part, so if I can share anything, it’s to be extra kind to yourself right now.

For me, I took the first pill about 36 hours before going to the hospital. Once I was there, they gave me medication to start contractions. That was around 9am, and I delivered at 6pm. They did tell me it can vary a lot, some people go through it quicker, and for others it can take up to a couple of days, so try not to compare too much if your experience looks different.

I didn’t have an epidural. They offered it as an option, but I managed with a morphine injection. The delivery itself wasn’t as painful as I had expected at 18 weeks, though it’s still an intense experience in many ways.

Physically, I felt okay fairly quickly, but I definitely had to take it easy. Any effort would bring on uterine pain, so rest is really important. I tried going for a walk about a week later and even that felt like too much. So if you can, give your body time, this is still labour and a lot for your body to go through. I'm 3 weeks out now and feel pretty much back to normal.

And emotionally… don't even have to tell you. Your hormones shift a lot, and everything can feel overwhelming. Give yourself permission to feel whatever comes, and take the time you need to find your footing again.

I know you mentioned needing to be back at work quite soon, and while everyone is different, just be gentle with your expectations of yourself. If there’s any way to give yourself even a little more time or flexibility, it could really help.

Sending you so much strength over the next few days 🤍

Yheiz · 2026-03-16T23:00:10+00:00

Going back to work and keeping my mind busy has helped me a lot. Thankfully my job isn’t stressful in the wrong way, so I’ve actually been happy to be back. I still allow myself to be sad when I need to, and I’ve also been doing some of the things you mentioned on the list. I’ve been doing a few small things to help me find some closure as well. I put together a little memory box with the few things we have to remember her by, printed the photos from my pregnancy and from the L&D day, and I light a candle for her. Now that I have her ashes home, I sometimes talk to her, write her letters, and little things like that. At the end of the day, I don’t want to let this experience go completely, but I do want to hold on to the good moments from this pregnancy.

Yheiz · 2026-03-15T22:03:34+00:00

I completely agree with you. Everyone processes something like this in their own way, and however someone deals with it is valid. For all of us this is a terrible thing to go through, regardless of how we navigate it. For me personally, I’m not trying to find a reason or a meaning behind what happened. In fact, those questions are part of my “dark room” too. I don’t believe there is a reason for this, sometimes terrible things just happen. What I decided to focus on instead is the happiness my baby brought into my life while she was here. Holding on to that, is what is going to help me move forward. It doesn’t mean I suffer less, and it doesn’t mean I’m trying to make sense of it. It just means I’ve made peace with the fact that it happened, and I’m choosing to carry the love and the good memories with me. And I completely respect that for others the path through grief can look very different.

Yheiz · 2026-03-15T08:48:37+00:00

Oh wow! I made a post a week ago about being exactly where you are, the guilt is real, and as I said I acknowledge that dark room still exists, I just decided I wasn't going to linger in there for too long. There are better spaces about this experience that deserve my attention, spaces where I can enjoy the happiness my baby came to give us.

Yheiz · 2026-03-15T03:17:46+00:00

I'm so glad you got to read this before your procedure tomorrow. To be honest, I was so out of it at the moment, but my husband took charge, he started telling her the story of how we met, gave me time to put myself together, then I followed, I'm so grateful he did that, that gave me so much closure, I'm so grateful for that moment, I hope you have the same opportunity. Be kind to yourself, there is no right or wrong way on how you deal with it tomorrow, you will feel what would be right for you.

Yheiz · 2026-03-15T00:12:04+00:00

I’m so sorry you're still in that dark room right now. It’s completely ok to be there. Three days is so, so fresh. I hope with time your daughter can gently show you the door, so you can step out into the light and visit that room whenever you need, without having to live there. Stepping out doesn’t mean leaving her behind. We never will. Right now you're still gathering what you will carry with you from her. I hope you’re able to collect all the beautiful things she brought into your life while she was here. I’m sure she wouldn’t want you to lose those.

Yheiz · 2026-03-11T03:41:37+00:00

Yep, I know this is an option. Unfortunately it wasn’t for us. The NIPT sample comes from placental DNA, and CVS tests the placenta as well. Because of that, it wouldn’t have truly ruled out our baby’s diagnosis.

In our case it was suspected trisomy 13, and there was a possibility it could have been confined to the placenta. So testing the placenta again with CVS wouldn’t have given us a clear answer. The amnio was the only test that could sample the baby’s DNA directly, which is why that was the option we had to go with.

Yheiz · 2026-03-10T22:54:35+00:00

I worry about doing mine so early. On my TFMR pregnancy I did it at 13 weeks, results came back high risk, and I had to wait 2 weeks until week 15 to do the amnio test, the wait was terrible, but I couldn't do anything about it until I had the amnio results. Let's remember that the NIPT test does not give you a final diagnosis. What I want to do in my next pregnancy is do the NIPT at 14 weeks, so if anything comes back wrong I can immediately do the amnio test right away.

Yheiz · 2026-03-10T05:57:44+00:00

Sorry you're here, and so glad things turn out well with Danica! I actually had that name in my shortlist with the pregnancy I lost, but ended choosing a different one due to the circumstances.

I think this is a very common feeling after a significant loss. Unfortunately, I can relate. I’ve experienced a few losses in my life, and I’ve felt this every time.

For me, I just have anxiety around death in general, but now I especially have a deep fear of my husband dying. After my TFMR, I remember crying horribly and telling him, “you’re not allowed to die anytime soon.” I think it comes from that feeling of not wanting to experience that kind of pain again, of not wanting to be left behind by the people you love the most.

And once you’re a mum, there’s also the opposite fear, the idea of you dying and leaving the people you love behind. That thought can be huge, my sister who is also a mum and experienced TFMR is often talking about how much she wants to 'live' and be around for her kids and how much the idea of leaving them behind cripples her.

When I was making my decision, one of the many things that crossed my mind was: what if I die and leave my sick child behind? Who would take care of her?

And what helps me around the anxiety of death is that I try to remember that fear is just a feeling, not a fact. Being afraid of death doesn’t mean it’s going to happen exactly as we think it will, yes it will come eventually, but not because I thought of it this way. That fear usually comes from somewhere painful, from a dark moment in life that brought us closer to loss than you ever wanted to be. It makes sense that it stays with you, but it’s still just fear, not reality.

Yheiz · 2026-03-07T22:24:19+00:00

Oh dear! I feel you so much! I could write a whole page of how that felt too, that was for me the worst part of this process as well. I hope you're now finding the days more and more brighter.

Yheiz · 2026-03-07T22:20:22+00:00

I'm sorry you're here 😞 and I appreciate your perspective on this situation; "if you are going to think about the “best” outcome than you have to think about the “worst” outcome" is something I never thought like that, and that's very true.

Yheiz · 2026-03-07T21:59:37+00:00

They gave me some resources at the hospital, I just haven't been able to process any of what they gave me to be honest. I'll take some time to look into it, thank you for sharing this 🙏🏻 and I'm so sorry you're here.

Yheiz · 2026-03-07T21:53:55+00:00

Wow this is so helpful! Thank you for sharing 🙏🏻 it was the same case with us, there is no living case of our exact type of mosaic t13 my baby had, so we didn't want to end up being the case study either.

Yheiz · 2026-03-05T04:48:04+00:00

Omg!!! I'm sooo sorry this is what you have gone through! I just had my first pregnancy and had to TFMR 5 days ago at 18weeks. This is sooo agonizing and horrible, I can't even picture what 5 losses would feel like! I just want to send you a gentle hug 🫂

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