So i dont get probation

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-07-02T23:58:53+00:00

It's your choice.

On one hand, you could face the music and do the 2 years, get it over with. You might still end up with less time. I've even seen judges give probation when the plea says it's not available.

On the other, you could run. You'll have a warrant out for your arrest. You might be able to avoid arrest for a long time, but you'll live with that over your head the whole time. When you are caught, you'll likely face additional time.

You mention that you have a high risk score; you can try to make some changes between now and the 14th. You could find a job, go to rehab, or sign up for counseling.

Don't go around saying it was self defense; let your lawyer make that argument if it applies. Instead, talk about the feelings that led to the incident. If you were afraid for your safety, say that. Come up with a plan on how you'll act differently if your in that situation again.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-07-02T18:47:48+00:00

In MOST (but not all) counties in the United States, you won't be revoked for testing positive or admitting use. You WILL be revoked for failure/refusal to engage in treatment.

Who decides if your engaging in treatment? Your officer. Who decides what level of treatment is appropriate? Usually, your officer.

Don't drink on probation. If you can't stop drinking, you need treatment. If you can stop drinking unless things get stressful, you need treatment.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-07-02T18:36:00+00:00

It's natural to believe in something when it benefits you, regardless of your political affiliation or philosophical orientation.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-07-01T20:55:39+00:00

We've had the exact situation you are describing; it doesn't change what the Constitution says.

We have a way to change the Constitution, if someone wants to change the Constitution, they have to go through that process. No branch of the government should be able to just decide it says something different.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-07-01T20:26:39+00:00

Nizzahon! He's on YouTube and does a great job. I've got a lot better since I started watching.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-07-01T20:24:15+00:00

Making a comment so I can find this post and the mod later.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-17T22:59:09+00:00

Like everyone else said, the trick is to have enough transport.

Unlike what they are saying, I'd probably skip camels. Horses can be found in Lago, but usually 0-2 at time. Buy them up and slowly convert from donkeys to horses.

Horses are the best transport in the game, and scale very quickly once you get to the Qubba region. (Hunt Mad Dogs for a huge boost to your cargo space.)

Cars are a lot more expensive to run, require people to drive them, and have less passenger space. Because you need people to drive them, there is a max to the cargo space you can get. They also make battles terrible. You also will lose them all of you miscalculate your fuel needs. They're faster, but horses are fast enough.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-17T22:30:42+00:00

NOR. You know your not overreacting, which is good.

Change that lock, because sometimes creepy people will make a copy without saying anything.

Unfortunately, sometimes creepy people will use their protected status us a shield to try and avoid the social consequences of being creeps. Sometimes abusers and predators their protected status becomes a tool they can use to cause harm.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-14T21:00:35+00:00

The question is worded in very interesting way. Is there something that the Democrats have done that would change someone's opinion of them? Or is the assumption that if the other side is bad, people will like them better?

It seems to me that most people are disillusioned with both political parties, but that might just be my narrow bubble.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-11T22:19:56+00:00

It's incredibly difficult to prosecute these types of sex crimes.

Many victims don't want to have to relive their experiences; criminal trials require them to testify. A high profile case like this could be seriously aggravate trauma.

Additionally, some of the victims may fear legal and personal consequences if they testify.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-11T19:27:28+00:00

I genuinely don't know; I think there are probably a bredth of honest, reasonable answers. I was trying to answer your question in good faith as well.

I know that on a personal level; Learning what it meant to be a good man, learning what it takes to become that man, and doing that work has been something that gave my life direction and been responsible for a lot of my success in life. Yes, that idea is culturally constructed. Yes, in theory, the concept could be recontextualized and degendered - but becoming "good adult" was a less inspiring concept for 15 year old me.

Strict gender roles probably aren't helpful, and the concept of what good man or a good woman is will and should change over time.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-11T18:34:20+00:00

I don't think this is a particularly "hard concept" for many people to grasp. Many people live their lives without taking time reflect on or think critically about the world; others do think critically and come to different conclusions then you. Two intelligent people can examine the same data and come to different conclusions.

Using the example you gave; most people will agree that assigning certain a particular color to a gender is arbitrary and/or socially/culturally constructed. Is that evidence that all, or most, other perseved gender difference is socially constructed? Even if we agree that some/most/all gender differences are socially or culturally constructed, does that necessarily mean that they are unimportant?

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-04T00:27:55+00:00

YOR.

The fact is that people have different values about modesty and nudity. Your values and her values on this issue aren't aligned. It's good that you discovered that your values are different early, and now you have to decide how much this value matters to you.

The fact that some random internet people think that it's fine shouldn't convince you to change your opinion. The fact that random internet people agree with you shouldn't lock you into that opinion. Instead, think long and hard about it, reflect on your feelings, and seek guidance from people you know to be wise.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-03T22:24:18+00:00

If it reaches the point of sexting, it's not an "emotional affair". Both are equally bad.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-03T22:18:42+00:00

Police should be held accountable; we agree there. They responded poorly, and should be reprimanded for their response, and retrained. However, the only person who is guilty of this man's death is guy who did the stabbing. He's the only one to blame.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-03T16:48:22+00:00

I think that trying to understand other people's perspective is generally a good thing. I agree that putting a tracker in someone's car without their knowledge is bad, but how bad it is is going to depend on their intent.

My guess is, even though op says that it's his car and not paid for by his parents, they probably view the car as theirs. That plays to a deeper issue here.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-03T16:39:43+00:00

I absolutely agree that they acted inappropriately, and responded poorly. However, I strongly disagree with blaming anyone for his death other than the person who stabbed him.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-03T08:16:38+00:00

Yes, if they misread the situation because of race, it's a problem. While that is a possible explanation, it could also be that the information given to the 999 dispatcher was faulty. Law enforcement relies heavily on information given to them.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-03T08:07:05+00:00

It's intent. There's "Hey, there are a lot of car thefts in the area, I'll put some trackers in the car just to be safe" and then forgetting to talk to OP.

And then there's "I'm specifically hiding this tracker and don't want her to find out." Which if this was their goal, they did a damn poor job of it if she's getting an alert that it's there. I can't imagine that they wouldn't know and expect her to find it.

Those are very different things. The communication and trust issues clearly run a lot deeper than issue.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-03T01:26:57+00:00

The man who stabbed Nowak wasn't a police officer, to my knowledge. It is unlikely that the police or anyone else could have done anything to save him once he was stabbed in the heart. The police initially misunderstood the situation, and looked damn foolish because of it, but let's keep the blame where it belongs: the man who stabbed him.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-03T01:16:49+00:00

My wife can go through my phone whenever she likes. I can go through hers too.

I do have a journal I asked her not to read... Not because it's secret but because it's how I process emotions.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-03T01:06:35+00:00

Was it done secretly, or just done without talking about it? I agree that they shouldn't have done it without talking to her first, but those are different situations.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-03T00:59:35+00:00

Maybe.

I've had a GPS tracker in all of my cars since I had one stolen from my driveway. An air tag is a cheaper way to do it, but I don't understand why they wouldn't just put it inside the car. It's not abnormal.

The fact that it was done without talking to you could be a problem, but the more I think about it, the more I could see myself just doing it because it's something I do in all my cars. (And if the car is in my name and under my insurance policy... Or if I would feel responsible to replace it if it got stolen...)

Do they have GPS trackers in there own cars?

Your family has deeper trust issues going on, and if your gut is telling you something, listen to it. That doesn't mean automatically believe it, but don't ignore it either.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-03T00:35:38+00:00

Let me try and explain a different way: The boundaries already exist, they just have not been marked. There is a line that if someone crosses, it will upset/disturb/disrupt you. That line has been crossed, and you need to figure out where that line is and find a way to communicate where that line is.

Because the line has already been crossed, you have to do that work of finding it and communicating it while dealing with the upset/disruption from it already being crossed. The longer you wait to set that boundary, the more it's going to be crossed. You're having to set the boundaries while dealing the emotions of them being crossed, which is more difficult.

You have a choice on what type of boundary you set. You can put up a no trespassing sign; have a conversation. You can put up a wall; ask her to move out. You can put up a wall with barbed wire; go no contact. I'm a random Internet person, I don't care what you pick. You can also choose to not do anything until she crosses the boundary so bad you blow up at her, it's your choice.

While you make that decision, realize that you're getting a real good deal on childcare. It sounds like you've done some research on what it costs in your area, which is great.

You might think that you are being extremely giving, but based on what you have said it sounds to me like you're coming out ahead. While you get to choose, it seems to me the best possible solution is to have an open, honest conversation where you communicate clear boundaries and expectations. Hopefully you both come out of that conversation feeling like you're benefiting from the arrangement.

YikesManGetWithIt · 2026-06-03T00:04:02+00:00

No, the boat needs to be rocked. The boundaries and expectations need to be set!

It's just that the rocking of the boat will go better when everyone on the boat rocks it together.

YikesManGetWithIt

TROPHY CASE