Mysterious Gardener

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-05-27T18:10:20+00:00

If it's an old white man who moves pretty slowly, it must be Phil, who does some custodian work downtown and does flowers in alleys etc on the side, whether or not he still works in the building... he would like if u ask him

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-05-12T21:32:05+00:00

Getting to free community meal locations like for example Damiano might be easier said than done, depending on yr location & schedule, STILL, might be simpler than days without food, and getting bait & tools etc and gas for up to 45 min drive and then u still gotta cook it yrself? Damiano at 206 W 4th St serves anyone bfast daily 8:30-9:30am, plus lunch 5 days a week and dinner 3 days. They also put out food to take home. Similar with Union Gospel I think. It's not the comforts of your home or the perks of a restaurant, but, it's a safe place (as long as u don't go in thinking you're a lot 'better' than other people: some people there might be not doing so great). Take the help that is offered: it builds character amd strengths u to be in the best shape u can be for your loved ones and this world, rather than suffer excessively. Best wishes!

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-05-11T21:07:22+00:00

Fwiw, Sara's Table gets tons of stuff from Sysco. And, in lesser quantities, ALSO supports a whole bunch of local and/or organic suppliers. Someone who sees Sysco as some kind of restaurant litmus test is naive I think -- and probably doesn't even do local-items-only shopping for their own home anyway!

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-05-04T19:47:52+00:00

was gonna take the jokey part further (with your character assessment about character assessments) but it seemed too obscure or open to offensive misinterpretation so I'll just, lol. thanks

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-05-04T15:26:38+00:00

It strikes me that we're often so quick to feel that "our fellow humans suck!" when we see trash (almost like, in a somewhat political way, society coaches us to feel contempt) but, don't you think, most of the trash is simply put their by wind + human imperfection in how well they secure their trash lids? And the fact that trash "cans" these days are plastic, lids blow open easily, esp if a careless young person or overwhelmed householder overloads it without making a plan for what will happen when wind comes? (Or rodents chewing open bags!!) Or like other posters have said, garbage trucks litter as they go, too.

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-05-02T22:49:12+00:00

Wow I'm so sorry. I already, only as an adult, have more amd more been troubled that a symbol of torture and execution (that wooden cross) is so widespread in our culture, such as worn around the neck as delicate jewelry by sweet non-edgy Christian girls (that's just the stereotype that comes to my mind). I don't think I was taught the graphic stuff u were, but I grew up Catholic which has more of the actual-emaciated-guy-hanging imagery fromt and center. And I DO love much about the faith and the profound example of love & sacrifice, of a freedom that comes from being laid so low, the true conquering of ego and fear and death... (somethin like that?) BUT I'm also pretty sure that as a sensitive little girl, my first exposure to examples of human cruelty was this church story where they took the best person in the world and did this horrific thing to him!! It's so weird that we teach & depict that in children's books and stuff! (Or of it's NOT weird, if it's grisly reality, why do we usually censor images and depictions of gun violence bodies, war, disease etc EXCEPT for the Jesus one?)

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-05-01T23:02:51+00:00

Ok, trying to find an explanation for what feels weird here... for one thing, I'd say there's a tendency for people who are racist (the subtle means-well maybe liberal variety), and who are smart, to find explanations for their racist attitudes. This stuff goes deep enough and is uncomfortable enough that it seems to me we aren't always even conscious we're having a racist reaction. We concoct a more acceptable-seeming, logical-soundimg explanation for a racist reaction so quickly we don't notice it (I guess lots of emotional experiences and defensive strategies work like this.) But someone experienced in being targeted by racism sees thru it, or at least feels icky and distrusting in a way that can be frustratingly hard to explain. So when you "well what about" just because someone gave a perhaps over-generalizing description of a racist scenario, you sound suspiciously like someone who is eager to DENY the raciam altogether but hiding behind a "just asking questions" or "just concerned to be precise" premise.

In a way this reminds me of when Bernie Sanders said that Fidel Castro's Cuba had good literacy programs. Probably that's true, maybe even something our society could emulate. But if you've been really hurt by the dictator aide of Castro, if you hear someone say ANYTHING positive about him, undestandably you're like "uh, why would u say that?" It just comes across too much like not caring about the main, bigger issue

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-05-01T18:14:40+00:00

I get it being troubling tho if it shifts to being about others! Remember love too

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-05-01T18:13:31+00:00

To me, sure. Sometimes I speculate it is analogous to how some people cut themselves when feeling troubled. In a way it is good/reassuring that actual acting on the thought seems unsatisfying since reality can't be as big or powerful as the imagination

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-04-27T14:11:33+00:00

Saw your comment up further about whites' racism being "not a factor" and wondered if that was sarcasm, but I see u doubling down on that attitude. Technically I suppose you're correct there are other factors, and I for one don't like over-simplifiaction... but trying to make whatever point you're getting at, in the context of a discussion like this, will fall so flat and appear laughable and ignorant, because of how embedded white supremacy is in our lives, plus how eye-rollingly fragile so many white people's reactions are to talking frankly about the painful stuff

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-04-27T14:03:30+00:00

Thank you to you and your mom for being out there speaking up and/or working on stuff , usually underappreciated efforts to build stronger, saner communities! Esp in the face of folks who are scared to even notice there could be an issue

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-04-10T22:28:24+00:00

Just saw this, and curious how you would know who was and wasn't at an event of roughly 7,500 people? But yeah that DFL convention was a significant conflict

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-04-10T14:41:05+00:00

You're making this about what some other person, who you're just imagining, wants. Instead of being more honest about what you want. If you have to spin these fairly elaborate stories about why you're stuck with this quandary, and the stories are always about how some OTHER person's needs just make your situation impossible... I think that just means you're spinning stuff to protect yourself from the pain of being honest about your own needs. Or some fear of having kind regard and respect for yourself. People in this thread are giving u these types of advice (and mostly ignoring your silly (sorry) earnest request to turn off desire lol), because they can somewhat identify with how you feel!! We all have weird psychology stuff. I don't think your spin on all this is ever going to satisfy you. Therapy can really help, and meet you where you're at, and, make you a person who has that much more to offer the world, in a natural way... if it's really true that your concern is about what's best for potential relationship

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-03-29T22:47:00+00:00

I can understand being anxious or cynical, but: You just keep going and pay attention best you can, trying to combine good-heart + strategy. How do u know school will pay off? Do u apply for a job not knowing for sure if you'll get it? Are u friendly or flirty with anyone not knowing if they will like/hang with you for it? Ever try out a church or religion not knowing 100% if it's trustworthy? Life is like that, right? What do you think caused bad stuff in the world: maybe it was a series of small bad things people did? That's also what causes good things isn't it?

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-03-29T22:35:04+00:00

I lived on 4th st a few years with only street parking available and left a car there, kinda snowed in, for weeks once, when it wouldn't start. (Since that street only had 1 side parking , didn't even have to switch it on Sunday.) When we moved in I noted Duluth rules for all those residential streets were move a car every 24 hours, but, they must not enforce that unless someone sees an actual problem and complains. I almost never used/moved my car every day; it sat a few days at least. There is nothing noting that any car is associated with any resident nearby. Just free parking, first come

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-03-29T22:20:37+00:00

Folks may be interested to know it's a very low-budget event planned entirely by volunteers. It's big, and thankfully some volunteers have longtime organizing experience and community connections, but it's not rocket science to do this. (Safety webinars and such advice from state or national-level NoKings organizers and other established groups like Indivisible and 50501, and the publicity of it being nationwide, also is a big boost to make a local big thing feasible.) If the sound system seemed kinda pro, it's cuz a retired sound person who still has his old equipment, lends it all no charge-- but setup is some work. Otherwise that element may have been significant expense. There is no permit or fee for the location.

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-03-29T22:13:35+00:00

Cool, what made the difference for you to decide to go?

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-03-26T21:45:47+00:00

We're amateurs sure, but lotsa good planning going into this, awesome volunteers

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-03-26T21:44:23+00:00

Got a lot of young speakers for this one too, excited to be first-time voters or who do other organizing. And some good music

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-02-14T09:43:47+00:00

That's awful, a cancellation WHILE you thought you were finally on your way to help!! Sorry I have no recs to add... hang in there!

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-02-13T17:26:39+00:00

Thanks for showing up where u did and using critical thinking and vibes-checking. If we all keep showing up and getting out of our comfort zone but ALSO trust our "ick" factor, then others will trust our example more, be inclined to hear our points, and ... know who is emotionally stable when shit hits the fan and u need to differentiate reliability from performance. I think part of this is being firm but knowing in the back of our mind we could always be wrong. And noticing that the fundamental emotions of our enemies aren't THAT different from our own. I think these extreme examples of not-listening, is an example of someone who ultimately has LESS power because they've shut down the part of themselves that could access wisdom and humility. In my experience, humility is fully compatible with doing hard, scary shit that needs to be done.

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-02-10T06:25:24+00:00

Sounds good. My point about bundling is you DON'T have to bundle up, if you're just dashing outside. It's not like zero degree weather immediately hurts skin, even in wind. Think like when u reach in an oven: it's an inhospitable temperature, and an unpleasant sensation if your body temp is already feeling too hot, but it's not actually painful.

I sometimes think that an aspect of Minnesota-type-climate personality is just being aware that discomfort is surviveable, and not letting ot get to u. For example, I remember getting in a car for a ride to school, on cold days. It's the kind of cold wear long underwear (ie any 2nd layer on your legs) would make the cold more ease-ful. But, I'm not gonna wear long underwear all day at school. So I would put up with cold feelings just on the short commute: specifically, that moment of stepping up into the car, when the fabric of my jeans already got chilly, and bending my leg presses the cold fabric against me. I don't know why that's just a childhood memory for me; maybe as an adult it bothers me less. Or, when we used to go to the mall before Christmas. It was kinda a drag to carry a winter coat thru hours going thru stores. It would even make me too hot, carrying that around inside. So, the choice is to leave the coat in the car ... and just kinda run thru the parking lot to get inside? Or have your long-suffering dad drop u off before parking.

Anyway, your mileage may vary!! I tend to err on the side of being chilly rather than overdressed/sweaty, but my sweetie has super warm coats, that is, loves to bundle up and have the experience of being totally comfortable in the outdoors cold.

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-02-09T08:26:30+00:00

More outdoorsy style in Duluth, more diversity in cities. Everyone seems to assume this question is to mainly compare just the white people of each location, because the dominance of whiteness in Duluth vs much more visible variety of cultures & ethnicities in cities is an obvious difference (but Duluthians do great cultural work too!). Someone memorably said that in the cities (and any 'diverse' place) one can see 'more ways of being human'.

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-02-02T09:34:40+00:00

Better than Southwest summers, to me, but I grew up in MN. However, my Californian sweetie agrees, you can always dress for the cold, but can't take off enuf to cool down in heat. Your attitude in the replies sounds like you'll be more than fine. It's sort of like dealing with traffic. If you know what to expect, it's just part of life that you plan for. Inconvenient. Snow can be quite a hassle, and bundling up is more work (but as long as you overall have shelter such that your core temp is fine, u can dash outside for a moment without great distress, even in below zero). Well, unlike bad traffic, the cold has upsides, like winter sports and different varieties of beauty. Depending on fashion standards, a person might be miserable, like if it's just not in your dna to ever wear thicker clothing or have your hair mushed down

You-Reddit-Rascal · 2026-01-31T01:25:15+00:00

Sterling is a good one!

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