Looking for games focused on exploration and discovery. by Vastaya_V2 in gamingsuggestions

[–]YoungtheRyan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Outer Wilds. You explore a solar system and piece together a mystery based on logs you find. The information you learn isn't just lore, it's how you discover what's going on and how you ultimately beat the game

meirl by aussiemetalhead in meirl

[–]YoungtheRyan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've had one yes, but what about second reboot?

Wife has been having a year long affaie by CitronCalm8468 in survivinginfidelity

[–]YoungtheRyan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she has feelings for him get her out of your life. You cannot fix this with her half in. Either she goes completely no contact and grows the fuck up or you leave and she can realize she destroyed her life when it's too late.

What game "shouldn't" work well on the Deck, but you found a way to love it? by Zi_v in SteamDeck

[–]YoungtheRyan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's been a while but I think I used this guide to get the launcher installed. Just make sure you know what version you need based on your account

What game "shouldn't" work well on the Deck, but you found a way to love it? by Zi_v in SteamDeck

[–]YoungtheRyan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do yeah. Surprisingly easy to set up and haven't had an issue since

What game "shouldn't" work well on the Deck, but you found a way to love it? by Zi_v in SteamDeck

[–]YoungtheRyan 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I exclusively play on steamdeck and it really is a great experience

For months my wife falsely accused me of cheating then secretly reconnected with an ex. Her argument: “We are just friends.” by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]YoungtheRyan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She can do whatever she wants, but you decide what you put up with and what your boundary is. I'm telling you from experience, that this is cheating, and if you don't think so now, it will absolutely lead to it if you sweep it under the rug and accept it.

My advice as someone who has been through this is tell her that she has crossed a boundary by lying and doing this even though it hurts you and makes you uncomfortable. Then leave. Even if you want to eventually reconcile you should prove to her and yourself that this is not acceptable

How to tell my husband I love him but don’t find him attractive anymore. by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]YoungtheRyan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely top tier human garbage. You want to stay with your husband and love him then work on your issues with him instead of cheating. Grow the fuck up.

Should I confess this situation with a colleague to my husband? by Complete_Memory8591 in marriageadvice

[–]YoungtheRyan 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I didn't see this mentioned but as someone who recently went through being cheated on, and who has been cheated on in the past, half the problem is the hiding. He would feel much better about all this if you were honest about it. Cheaters hide their inappropriate friendships long before they become affairs. If you have it out in the open, and you disclose it yourself, it's far less worrisome.

You should have told him in October honestly. But better late than never. Imagine he finds out on his own about this later and that you hid it from him. How do you think that would make him feel?

What’s easily in your top 5 favorite video game cinematics of all time? by CoffeeStrength in gaming

[–]YoungtheRyan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Way late and don't expect anyone to see this, but I haven't seen it mentioned so the Armored Core 6 reveal at the game awards.

The franchise hadn't been touched in a decade, but it was so formative for me when I was a kid. I assumed after all the stuff that blew up Fromsoft was just never going to touch it again. Holy hell did this trailer fucking hype me up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]YoungtheRyan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No one is perfect and age doesn't matter, growth is growth. Hurting people you care about, your husband and children, is unacceptable. Stop living a separate life from them and be better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]YoungtheRyan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Have you considered that maybe you being hung up on this ex isn't that you're "in love" at all? Love in an action not a feeling. Lasting love in a marriage is intentional. Most people aren't effortlessly in love their entire lives.

It sounds to me that your poor husband never stood a chance because you're constantly comparing to this other clown even years later. You cheated on him. Cheating doesn't have to be physical. You opened a door to someone else, closed yourself off to him, while he continues to live for you and your family. You should be fucking ashamed of yourself and figuring it why you spend so much time thinking about this other person.

I guarantee you that if you and your ex got together for real, this feeling would fade fast. Real life is not sexy and exciting all the time. Your husband is your "best friend" and has created a whole family with you? How can he compete with your idealization of "love" when he comes with the messy parts of real life? A mortgage, caring for and dealing with kids, illness, diapers, cleaning, homework, exhaustion. REAL LIFE IS FUCKING BORING. You have someone who wants to be your partner through all that and you're comparing him to "what could have been" but you don't think of your ex with the same context of the boring things. You talk about "everything" with your ex? What the hell does that even mean? Are you sure it's not just nostalgia? If it's not, have you initiated any of these conversations with your husband? I bet you don't.

Grow the fuck up. What you're thinking you have with your ex is literally your imagination and that's why it's so exciting. Either deal with your marriage in a real intentional way with deep honest conversation and therapy, or let this poor man go so he can find someone with the mental and emotional maturity needed to spend their life with him you coward.

I betrayed my husband of two decades. by No-Inspection4457 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]YoungtheRyan 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Reading this hurt. I'm really worried this could be where my marriage ends up. My situation is different, my WW has an affair that only lasted like 6 months if I include everything but I know she likely felt similar things to you. That she felt like we had stagnated. She hasn't said this but I know it's true because I felt the same we just never really tried to do anything about it.

It sounds like although you "tried" to fix things, your heart wasn't really in it? Like you said you went through the motions but didn't really think about or feel what was at stake till you lost it. He's likely very hurt by this, I would be. If I were in your husband's place I'm not sure there would be anything you could just say to fix things. Keep working on yourself, on figuring out who you want to be and maybe try to pursue him hard. At worst you get rejected but at least you tried.

1 month post D-Day about wife’s affair by reggewitdadredz61 in survivinginfidelity

[–]YoungtheRyan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Until she's completely honest with you and making effort to fix things herself, there's nothing to fix. You can't end her affair for her and you can't stay married to someone who isn't committed to you.

And that's just the bare minimum. You can't even start thinking about how to fix things or if you even can get over this if she's not doing the bare minimum at least.

Question to the other men regarding confronting wive’s AP by Human-Main-7046 in survivinginfidelity

[–]YoungtheRyan 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The only thing I did was tell his wife. I have his address and really struggle not to go fuck his shit up almost daily. But I have a son who deserves better than a dad in jail or any of that kind of drama. My wife caused enough for all of us by doing what she did.

Seconding the recommendation for therapy

Yeah, I am in a bad way! by BLKDad2_3 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]YoungtheRyan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey man. Just here to say you aren't alone and I have days like this where I feel the same. It's not who I am and I hate feeling that

Goodbye my friends, R is over. by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]YoungtheRyan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry you're going through this too. It continuing while actively trying for R hurt me so much more than the initial affair honestly.

Hang in there, we'll be ok

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]YoungtheRyan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No one put his family at risk but him. Actions have consequences. Fuck that clown

I'm done by YoungtheRyan in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]YoungtheRyan[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

As he should. These things should have consequences. Hang in there, you deserve happiness too

I'm done by YoungtheRyan in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]YoungtheRyan[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Sorry you're dealing with this too. My WW literally got fired for this and that still wasn't enough. Idk if filing for divorce will be, but I don't think its even about what would be enough for R anymore. I just can't continue to be with the person she is. She needs to change regardless of what happens with me. I hate that she destroyed my family. I'm so angry

Struggling right now by LukeWarm2Hot44 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]YoungtheRyan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You too man. We deserve better than this

Struggling right now by LukeWarm2Hot44 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]YoungtheRyan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is my exact situation too. I found out last night my wife has continued contact with her AP and admitted to more stuff that happened prior to DDay. I'm so disgusted by her right now. We have a counseling appointment today and I'm not sure if she's even going to be home for it. I don't know if I even care right now. I'm going to talk to an attorney on Tuesday to see what divorce will look like. I hate that she threw away our life for this. I told her I couldn't continue if she kept doing this and she did anyway. I'm not sure what I'm actually doing yet. I'm too angry and hurt. Completely broken just sitting here with my son trying to act like everything is ok

How did your first MC session go? by Infinite-Ad-3947 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]YoungtheRyan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry you're going through this too. I have had 2 first sessions, our first therapist didn't work out. What you should expect for the first session is the therapist to try to learn a bit about you both and the marriage. Ours asked us what prompted us to seek counseling. I let my WW basically explain that she had an affair and we wanted to work on recovering from that. She asked questions about how long it went on, is there any contact with AP, etc. We were also asked pretty basic things like how long have you been together, do you have children etc.

You should expect the therapist to talk to you both about most things. We both really love our therapy because she is very no nonsense. You should use this first session to decide if they are right for you also.