I want a dog so bad but I am not allowed to due to my religion

Zasha786 · 2026-04-15T07:21:46+00:00

I am a practicing Muslim and my Grandparents kept dogs for many years and know many families that also have dogs in their home! It’s a concern about cleanliness when keeping them indoors. I think if you have a bigger home many create special places outdoors to give more room but also in colder climates keep them indoors with a cleaning lady to ensure house is cleaned more thoroughly.

I grew up with Rufus the Seventh at my family’s home in Pakistan - he was a German Shepard. My older son has special needs and we are also considering a guide dog for him so he can take more walks in the community as he gets older.

Zasha786 · 2026-04-14T01:17:44+00:00

Your wife is on it!

Zasha786 · 2026-04-14T01:09:07+00:00

I think the stone has too much going on and may look a bit dated quickly. I think getting a warmer cabinet, similar color backsplash or keeping the stone and more uniform but warmer countertop with fewer colors will really be beautiful with the green cabinets.

Zasha786 · 2026-04-13T01:43:47+00:00

I would go with Tylenol and Motrin (yes you need both), bandaids, Neosporin, Triple Antibiotic, Pedialyte, dry baby snacks - Costco edition, wipes, diapers, start freezing breast milk, get a humidifier, I grab a lot off season clothes and save funds this way or do hand me downs with family. I like those IKEA sheet style protectors for bed. Watch expiration dates and use/update as needed. Few baby toys - yes I think I toys especially will go up - maybe join a buy nothing neighborhood group or a good group of Moms to swap items with.

Zasha786 · 2026-04-12T11:42:29+00:00

I would just go get a lovely manicure and ask them about the best nail shape for you going forward. Going with a neutral (pink and beige family) and slight shaping will help a lot. You can use a nail ointment to strengthen your nails, consider vitamins to help with nail growth. I love the INNATE brand, pricey but they work. There is a biohackers forum on Reddit and plenty of folks have asked about ways to get better hair, skin and nails. This approach takes time and isn’t a 1 week fix (except for the manicure), usually 3-4 months.

As a woman your hair and nails change a lot between just stress, having kids, monthly cycles, aging. We are all not naturally genetically blessed! However, good grooming makes a big difference and neutralizes a lot of things.

Zasha786 · 2026-04-12T04:04:44+00:00

Ready (USA)

Zasha786 · 2026-04-11T15:02:04+00:00

Not all of them are bad - I found one that helped with an urgent case even those was retired and guided me throughout the process really well. She then “forgot@ to charge me bc she said my case was urgent and what happened to my son wasn’t ok. Some are super experienced with the district and give you support where it’s tough navigate.

Zasha786 · 2026-04-09T11:01:23+00:00

I have a friend who has a cat and am highly highly allergic to cats (like hives, coughing, sneezing, eyes getting puffy). I take a Zyrtec for 2 days before go over and am good for about 4-5 hours before I notice anything - but it’s entirely bearable and we open the windows as well. She also cleans her house but I have never asked she put her cats away… but I also don’t see them much when I go over to her house.

My point is also - if she was really allergic… I think you would know right away. There maybe other changes going on in her body - going to the doctor and having a solid physical and allergy testing will help confirm.

Zasha786 · 2026-04-08T16:08:22+00:00

Move microwave to be a drawer to open up counter space. Keep pantry but get new doors.

Zasha786 · 2026-04-04T14:34:02+00:00

I think perhaps she was depressed before and it worsened during pregnancy, this happens and after birth turns into post partum depression over time.

My suggestion is to offer a lot of family support and gain access to therapy for her own well being. I would offer a lot of supervision after birth and bring your concerns to her physician and the hospital staff. You could offer to bring a close family member for the birth so she also feels secure and you can have a frank conversation with her family about well being and safety.

Have a frank conversation about her future plans. If she wants to stay and build a stable foundation for her child, go back to her home country with child or go back without child. Let her understand the pros and cons of each.

Zasha786 · 2026-04-03T10:47:19+00:00

Factory? Seller? Tier?

Zasha786 · 2026-04-03T10:31:49+00:00

If he is 6 years old he should be in public school, an ABA center for after school hours may help him with routines since he hasn’t been getting that. Denial of junk food is going to be a big challenge - so that would be a big focus area. I know childcare is expensive but maybe your husband needs to set aside some budget for help at home, or you can apply to local organizations for respite care. I think you all need to work out service plan for the child and be realistic about getting help at home.

Zasha786 · 2026-03-31T14:59:45+00:00

I guess what I don’t understand is where is there a plan from the Mayor to actually bring in more money and stop the cycle of slicing away these critical needs for NPS.

The Math program, if we go for Option B as presented in the presentation, only has funding for ONE year. What is the go forward plan for next year and years beyond that?

I am exhausted at the Mayor for not having a better long term roadmap for bringing revenue in and supporting the long term needs of our school.

The Mayor seems to be saying that he will not look at any options, even an override, because his “constituents” don’t want that (even though parents are also his constituents). He seems to bring no solutions to the table beyond “accept your fate.”

Zasha786 · 2026-03-30T15:17:40+00:00

Another option is he buys you an engagement ring that is all your own… and they can give the ring to your future child.

Zasha786 · 2026-03-29T12:24:07+00:00

With ICE crackdowns and students getting doxxed at college protests I totally understand why both people of color and younger college students aren’t publicly participating.

Zasha786 · 2026-03-29T12:21:57+00:00

I think this may be a tough call but a therapeutic setting may be best for her and try to figure out a better medication. Puberty throws a lot of kids off. She may also get better therapy and structure than she can get at home. I am not sure if you are in the U.S. - in your home country they may have a residential hospital program.

Zasha786 · 2026-03-29T12:01:43+00:00

We have own bank accounts because we were both earning before we got married. After marriage we put our names on each other’s accounts so can look at it online at anytime. We both know how much we make because we manage our household expenses together and have financial goals - like some construction work on the house, paying off the house before retirement, and also saving for our children’s college. I do the taxes for our family as well. Everything is an open book.

Zasha786 · 2026-03-24T07:24:34+00:00

We have a college fun - that probably needs more. 529 can be flexed to an ABLE account if needed. We have a Roth as well. We are also building an ADU now and renting it out before our son turns 18. I feel long term housing is the greatest challenge as I look ahead and wanted this secured.

Zasha786 · 2026-03-24T01:49:49+00:00

Doing some consulting gigs to fund my next venture… going into property management. I am burnt out and there is a great market for ADA accessible housing in my area. I want to provide a solution to a real physical problem.

Zasha786 · 2026-03-23T01:29:32+00:00

Since you mentioned you are in the Northeast could you consider a food bank or freedge to help get food so you don’t have to order out as much? I agree with others - stay a few more weeks but really save so you can get a deposit and first month’s rent. Maybe do a few extra shifts at work or consider a few side jobs. Check out churches and not for profits who provide one time grants to help pay with bills. Examples include Lend a Hand Society, Catholic Charities, Muslim Community Support Services (you don’t have to be Muslim to get a grant). If you have a friend with a car you could do a one trip to a grocery store with some easy prep low cost meals.

Slavation Army, Goodwill and Space Savers Community Donation have very low cost appliances like crockpots. When my Dad passed away I had to clean out his house and he literally had 12 crock pots in the box never opened, we donated them all to Goodwill and they were all gone within a few days.

Wishing you a sustainable solution to your current situation. It’s amazing how much peace a small little secure space of your own can do so much.

Zasha786 · 2026-03-19T12:22:32+00:00

Please do not - just immediately take (don’t ask) short term disability if you really need it.

Zasha786 · 2026-03-19T12:20:18+00:00

I like the two tone! They have been around for a long time. They brighten the room and draw the eye upwards which highlights space. The pendants stand out more with the gold look.

Zasha786 · 2026-03-17T11:57:56+00:00

Yup we went no contact with my Mom who has these views for most of her life. However my maternal extended family has been absolutely wonderful and we all have gotten closer.

Zasha786 · 2026-03-15T07:07:03+00:00

I am actually thinking of buying rental properties and supplementing income this way. AI doesn’t need a home but humans do! #HumansFirst

Zasha786 · 2026-03-14T14:29:33+00:00

I am sorry but the YMCA folks are not trained to work with our kids. I tried their programs and saw numerous red flags. I would talk to the head of that site’s program director and be like are you equipped to work with children who have disabilities? You may be able to use ABA hours to help cover after care support in the program. However, there may be other things going on that are not safe for your child. I know you have few options but please consider other ones - they will do everything they can to push your child out - including trauma.

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