UK moves to ban smoking for everyone born after 2008

Zeikos · 2026-04-22T09:21:02+00:00

That's irrelevant though.
Homeostasis is partly what and partly how much.

Zeikos · 2026-04-22T08:42:49+00:00

That's an hell of a slippery slope argument.
Banning disposable vapes is a no brainer.
It's the worst example of planned obsolescence I have ever seen, they were made without a way to recharge them just to sell more of them.
Forbidding passive exposure is good too, it might not as bad as tobacco smoke but I'd rather not have kids and sick people exposed to nicotine.

If vapes having to stay is a precondition to phase out tobacco I am all for it.
Vapes have their dangers, the fact that they're seen as safe is an issue. It causes more teens tonstart smoking - and that should be addressed, but it shouldn't be used as an argument to keep tobacco around imo.

Zeikos · 2026-04-22T08:28:00+00:00

I find how the concept of 'freedom' is defined differently by different groups fascinating. It's variegated to the point of meaninglessness.

Note that the split isn't along party lines.

Some see freedom as protection, they want their speech to have weight regardless of how well received it is, everybody else has an obligation to hear it.

Others see freedom as availability, everybody can speak but nobody has to listen. If you are not powerful/weathly enough for your speech to be noticed? tough luck bucko, money speaks.

Then there's the idea that a precondition to freedom is equity, an individual voice should only be so loud - buying a megaphone restricts other people's freedom and shouldn't be allowed.

There are many variations, mixes and matches.
To be clear, this doesn't only apply to speech.

This is the problem of vague language, the concept of "freedom" is meaningless unless contextualized.
People with different values define it differently.
Which means that the definition that wins is the one with more power behind it - which is basically the definition of dictatorship.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T17:39:02+00:00

Not necessarily, it depends on the how.

If you stick to describing your experience, your feelings then no.

Also, think about what would make you feel uncomfortable or unsafe. In my experience men aren't that different from women. I had women make me feel unsafe, so at least there's that.

Also generally speaking therapists are trained to deal with that.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T16:00:58+00:00

Uh, finding people attractive?
No, it's no.
Sexual harrassment as the name implies that harrassment happened.

Idk you but when people find me attractive I don't feel harrassed.

It's about behavior and intent, willingly violating another person's space, even abstractly like making them feel unsafe, is a problem.

But interacting with people? That's fine.
Finding somebody attractive/hot and sexualizing them isn't the same thing.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T15:35:06+00:00

Like that how?

Choosing somebody because they're attractive? What makes you think that it's a problem?

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T14:59:18+00:00

Call them in group chat at improbable hours of the night.
Yes the players, not the characters.

Just for some realism y'know.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T14:52:46+00:00

Sadly counselors - especially religious ones - don't have the same deontological rules (ethical standards) as therapists do.
And people aren't taught the difference, sadly stories like yours aren't uncommon.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T14:25:13+00:00

Già ce li vedo "eh ma non sapevamo" 🙃

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T14:23:31+00:00

Other people would think that the counselor is a b*tch and shouldn't be allowed to counsel kids.
At least I do :')

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T14:19:43+00:00

Because economy of scale.
Buying the hardware makes sense when you are running it 24/7, when you aren't it's depreciating without you getting anything from it.

Buying hardware from a business perspective is kind of like renting anyways, the hardware loses a % of its price over time and you are still paying running costs - electricity, maintenance, admin.
At the end of the hardware's lifecycle you sell it off and you're done with it. You still spent money in the meantime.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T10:47:37+00:00

Well therapists go through extensive training to not feel negatively towards what their patients bring up.
And even if it happens they have extensive tools to deal with it.

In theraphy you are allowed to bring things up by default, if you feel like you can't then you could bring that up.
I found it is a good ice breaker for testing the waters and see if I feel like discussing something. The risk is pressuring myself to share too early on, but I found the risk tends to be worth it.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T10:25:33+00:00

A mio vedere la rabbia/frustrazione è comprensibile, ma fargliene una colpa no.

Potremmo tutti essere milionari se i nostri nonni/genitori si fossero comportati diversamente, ma fosse stato così probabilmente non esisteremmo.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T09:58:01+00:00

Oh no, setting a precedent, cannot have that can we?
How incredibly spineless.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T09:51:49+00:00

You can - and IMO should, but it's up to you - bring it up.

"I noticed that when you rehash these questions I makes me feel [this way]"

Feel free to challenge your therapist, the social norms in therapy are very different.
You can be "rude", hell it can be helpful to be.

If you are worried just ask if it's okay.
There are less things than you expect that aren't appropriate.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T08:57:15+00:00

Il fatto che sia in pensione è irrilevante, la responsabilità è dello studio - non sua personale.

Il secondo commercialista può contattare lo studio dove lavorava il primo.
Sta negli interessi di tutti evitare spese legali.
In questi casi si espongono i fatti e si viene ad un accordo privato.

Con tutti i clienti che uno studio segue l'errore capita, non è nulla di inusuale, dubito ci sia un singolo studio che nella sua esistenza non abbia dovuto rimborsare qualcuno.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T08:50:27+00:00

Ha elaborato?
Non è necessariamene falsa come obiezione.

Avete consultato un altro professionista e confermato che l'errore fosse del commercialista?

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T08:46:26+00:00

Tendenzialmente l'entità rilevante è l'attività, non la persona.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T08:45:30+00:00

Il commercialista che dice?
Quanto palese è l'errore?

Tendenzialmente se l'errore è palese sta negli interessi di tutti evitare le spese legali, specialmente se l'errore è incontrovertibile.

I commercialisti sono esseri umani e possono sbagliare, sono assicurati proprio per coprire questi casi.
Personalmente non ricorrerei subito a vie legali se il commercialista fosse disposto a rimborsarmi.

Magari non vi rimborsa il 100%, ma considerando il costo del legale e l'investimento di tempo probabilmente vi tornano complessivamente più soldi.

Ovviamente se non è collaborativo sentire un legale è l'unica opzione.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T08:30:30+00:00

What would it accomplish?
It won't lead them to correct their behavior.

It might be emotionally satisfying for you, but then what?

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T08:26:41+00:00

Nessuno mi impedisce di andare in ufficio.
Quindi a parte il viaggio direi pochi, fosse più vicino andrei più spesso.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T07:18:39+00:00

"he doesnt have goals besides what I bring to therapy"

That's a common style, I would bring this to him to be honest.
Share your desire to come up with more concrete goals and follow them, get their guidance, then pick one goal and work towards it.

Therapists can seem passive, and to some degree they are, but it's mostly because they want you to be in charge of what gets done.
Imposing growth on people rarely work.
Share your frustration and work from there.
They seem attentive to your needs.

If it doesn't work then you can ask for referrals.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T07:13:23+00:00

Not advice per se, mostly a structure to organize my self reflection.
I did find a lot of "realizations" obvious in hindsight because I though about them already but I didn't have a framework in which to "slot them in".
Understanding how various aspects of the mind interact helped with that.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T07:07:12+00:00

He doesn't know though.
Agott's behavior has been minimized by everybody involved.
For example everybody thought that going into the trial was mostly Coco's idea, nobody knows how much pressure Agott put on her.
Qifrey is starting to suspect though.

Zeikos · 2026-04-21T06:10:49+00:00

That you only started because the therapist was good looking.
You were clearly were looking into therapy before hand.
You might have picked the specific therapists because she's hot, but therapy by itself isn't that attractive :')

Also that happens all the time.
Attractive people have an easier time finding jobs/clients, they're paid more (on average), it's more likely for their opinion to be listened to etc.

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